Nguva uye Maitiro Okuti Iite Avo Vokutanga Zviziviso
Kune vabereki vakawanda vasina kuroora, kufambidzana kunofadza uye kunotyisa panguva imwe chete. Kune rumwe rutivi, haugoni kunyora kuda kwako rudo rwako rutsva. Asi, iwe unogona kutambudzwa nemibvunzo pamusoro pekuti iwe uye sei iwe ungaudza vana vako. Usati watora danho rinokosha rose, funga nezvezano iri rekufambidzana nevana.
Tarisa Ukama Hwako
Vakawanda vasina vabereki vari kubvunza, "Ndirini pandinofanira kutaurira vana vangu kumunhu wandinofambidzana naye?" Peter Sheras, chiremba wezvepfungwa muYunivhesiti yeVirginia, uye munyori weIndinogona Kudavira Kuti Wakaenda Nezvitsva Zvangu !: Ungapa Sei Vana Vako Vechidiki Zvavanoda Zvavanoda uye Nhungamiro Yavanoda , inopa vabereki kuti vatange kuongorora hutano yehukama hwepambano usati washushikana nezvekuti kana nguva yekuzivisa vana sei.
"Kuzvipira ndicho chikamu chakakosha zvikuru nokuti, apo pane kuzvipira, izvo zvinova pachena kune vana."
Taura chokwadi
Kuva wechokwadi kune iwe pachako uye iwe waunofambidzana. Haisi hukama hwepedyo hwose hunosvika pamwero wekuzvipira kunosanganisira kusanganisira vana. Iwe unogona kunge uine hupenyu husina hanya, hupenyu hunofadza nemunhu anofara kuvapo, asi uyo wausingambofungi nezvamangwana. Izvi zvakakosha nokuti kana iwe uchitanga vana, unovarega vachinetseka kuti vawedzere. Kuita izvi usati watozvipira iwe pachako kuti uhwu huchava hukama hurefu huri husina kunaka kune vana. Uye kana chiitiko icho ukama huripo, kuparadzanisa nzira kunogona kunge kunorwadza kwavari sekuparadzanisa kwako kwokutanga kana kurambana kubva pane wako wekare.
The Big Takeaway
Paunenge uchifambidzana nevana vari mumufananidzo, zvibvunze mibvunzo inotevera usati watanga rudo rwako rutsva rufaro kumwana wako:
Ndinoona izvi sehukama hwenguva refu here? Kana zvisingaiti, uye iwe uchiri kuda kuti iye asangane nevana vako, funga kuudza mumwe wako se "shamwari" uye kuchengeta zvinhu platonic pamberi pevana vako zvino.
Ndingafungidzira here kuti munhu uyu ave chikamu chemhuri yangu? Kana hongu, ipapo kuisa vana pazvikwata izvi zvinogona kuva nechinangwa sechitsauko chinotevera chakakosha.
Kana mushure mokunge makasarudza vaviri kuti iyi ihurukuro yakakomba, yakazvipira, iwe unoda kutanga nhaurirano inobatsira nevana vako. Chinonyanya kukosha, iwe unoda kutsigira kuzvipira kwako kuvana uye kupindura kune chero mibvunzo yavanayo. Mazano anotevera ekufambidzana nevana achabatsira:
Nyaradza Vana Vako 'Kutya
Peter Sheras, chiremba wezvepfungwa muYunivhesiti yeVirginia, uye munyori weIndinogona Kudavira Kuti Wakaenda Nezvinhu Zvangu !: Kupa Kwavana Vako Vechidiki Zvavanoda Zvavanoda uye Mutungamiri Vanoda , anotsanangura, "Vana vanotya kunyanya kutya kwekusiyiwa pane chimwe chinhu, vanotya kuti kana kusundira kwasvika pakuputika, iwe uchavarega nekuda kwehukama hutsva hwepabonde, naizvozvo, zvinobatsira kuita kuzvipira kwako kwavari kunotsanangurwa usati watanga munhu wacho. "
Chengetedza Zvinhu Pfungwa
Sheras inotsigira zvakare kuti hausi kukumbira kubvumirwa kwevana kubukama hwako. Sezvo zvakakosha, iwewo hausi kupa humwe rudzi rwekupedzisira pamusoro pekugamuchira shamwari yako. Pane kudaro, uri kutanga kukurukurirana pamusoro pekukosha kwevana vako kwauri, uye zvaunoda zvega rako remangwana. Sheras anokurudzira izvi: "Tanga nekuita mazwi ako e rudo uye kutsigirwa kwemhuri yako.
Zvadaro bvunza vana mibvunzo yakadai seyo 'Ungada chii kumhuri yedu? Iwe uri kutsvaga kune mumwe munhu watingaita naye mumhuri? '"Kukurukurirana kunoenderera mberi uye kutendeseka chikamu chinokosha chekusanganisira vana vako muhukama hwakakosha kwauri.
Dzimwe Mazano Okuda Kudanana nevana
Mukuwedzera, iwe unoda ku:
- Ziva kuti vana vako vangave vachitya kuva kana kunzwa kunzwa wakasiyiwa apo iwe unobata hukama hutsva.
- Ita kuti iwe pachako uzvipire kune vana vako . Funga kunyora mwana mumwe nomumwe netsamba inoratidza manzwiro ako uye tariro yeramangwana ravo, pamwe newe.
- Ipa chikamu chako chechokwadi kune munhu wauri kufambidzana naye . Itai kuti vana venyu vazive kuti sei ukama hwacho hwakakosha kwauri. Uye yeuka kuti iyi ndiyo mukana unokosha wokuratidza kuti munhu anokubata iwe unhu hunokosha hupi hwehukama.
Kurarama neukama hutsva hwekuroorana nemubereki hakuwanzo nyore pavana. Kana uchangotanga kutaura pamusoro payo pachena, kunyange zvakadaro, unogona kutanga kufunga pamusoro pekuti iwe unoda sei kutanga mazwi. Peter Sheras, chiremba wezvepfungwa muYunivhesiti yeVirginia, uye munyori weIndinogona Kudavira Kuti Wakaenda Nezvinhu Zvangu !: Ungapa Sei Vana Vako Vechidiki Zvavanoda Zvavanoda uye Nhungamiro Yavanoda , inokurudzira kuti vabereki varonge pakutanga vana "mukati pemwedzi miviri yekuzivisa iwe muukama hwakakomba."
Nzira Yokuzivisa Sei Rudo Rwako Rutsva?
Kana zvasvika pakuita zvinyorwa zvechokwadi, iwe unoda kuronga kusunungurwa kusinganzwisisiki kana basa. Zvakanaka, zvinobatsira kuumba mamiriro ezvinhu apo munhu wose anogona kuva iye oga, zorora, uye ave nenguva yakanaka. Basa rakapfupi, rakadai sekubuda kune pizza kana kutamba nekukurumidza kwegurufu gorofu , inopa munhu wese mukana wekusangana asi haasi kuumba mamiriro ekukurukurirana kwenguva refu.
Mazano ekugadzirira Zvinyorwa zvekutanga
- Ronga chimwe chinhu chinonakidza . Funga nezvezvaunofarira kuita pamwe chete semhuri. Kana vana vako vakwegura zvakakwana, vaite kuti vabatanidzwe mukugadzirira, zvakare.
- Iva zvauri. Hapana chikonzero chekusimbiswa uye kutanga kutaurirana mune izvo zvakakwirira-zvinogona 'zvinogona-izvi-zvinorwadza?' inzwi. Pane kudaro, regai vana venyu vaone kuti iwe unofara muhope rako pachako pamberi peyu munhu chaiye muupenyu hwako.
- Itai vana venyu mune rimwe basa ramunogona kuita pamwe chete . Chengeta icho chiedza uye rega basa racho rinowanzozadza chero zvipingamupinyi muhurukuro.
Ipa Rutsigiro
Kubvuma kudanana kwevabereki kungave kunonoka kwevana vako. Pakupedzisira, chinonyanya kukosha chinokurudzira vana vako kuti unovada zvisingaverengeki uye kuti unoda kugara uinevo nguva dzose. Nokufamba kwenguva, ivo vachaona kuti kusanganisira mumwe munhu muhupenyu hwako hakusi kuparadzanisa rudo rwako; mukana wekuwedzera denderedzwa yevanhu vamunosarudza kutarisira uye kugamuchirwa mumhuri yenyu.