10 Mazano Okurera Musikana Asina Baba Muhupenyu Hwake

Dambudziko revanasikana vasina baba rave richinyatsocherechedza chikamu chemasayendisiti evanhu uye masayenzi ekurera vana mumakore achangobva kupfuura. Kubvira muna 2013 nhepfenyuro yeTV inonzi Oprah Winfrey Network kuenderera mberi nekutsvakurudza kwesayenzi yevanhu, nyanzvi dzave dzichiratidza matambudziko anosangana nevanasikana vasina nherera kukura, uye kuti zvakaitika sei zvakasiyana nevasikana vanorera nababa muupenyu hwavo.

Chimbofunga zvimwe zvezvinoitika paupenyu hwomusikana hunobva pakushaiwa kwababa apo ari kukura.

• Kurwisana nekutadza kuzvidzora uye manzwiro ekusafanira
• Kusava nemitemo muhupenyu hwake sezvavanoratidzira kuvanhu
• Kurasikirwa kweruzivo rwekuchengeteka
• Nhamba dzezasi dzehupenyu hwakanaka
• Pamusoro mazinga ekutsamwa-ane chokuita nekuora mwoyo
• Zvinetso zvepfungwa muhukama hwepedyo
• Pakutanga kuita zvepabonde nekuzvitakura kwevechidiki
• Zvinowanzoita kuti varoore mumakore avo ekuyaruka
• Zvinowanzoita kuti ave necheche kunze kwewanano
• Zvakawanda zvakanyanya kurambana pane imwe nguva muupenyu hwake

Pasinei nokuti baba havasi pamufananidzo nekuda kwekufa, kurambana, kuregererwa, kana kuvharirwa, zvinetso zvacho zvichiri zvakafanana. Uye amai kana vanasekuru vanowanzoguma vachiedza kuzadza chiyero mumusikana wemusikana, nemhando dzakasiyana dzekubudirira.

Kana iwe uri mubereki wenherera, pane dzimwe nzira dzinokosha dzaungashandisa kumubatsira kuti atsungirire kusasha kwebaba uye kudzivisa zvimwe zvezvikanganiso zvisingaiti zvingaitika muupenyu hwake.

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Tsvaga Baba Vakabatana uye Vakabatana Chiratidzo muHupenyu Hwake

Vasikana vanofanira kuva nehutano hwakanaka uye kwenguva refu muhupenyu hwavo, uye kana izvozvo zvisingaitiki nebaba vavo venyama, zvinogona kuitika kune mumwe munhu akanaka. Dzimwe nguva tateguru isarudzo yakanaka, kana inogona kunge ibabamunini. Iva nechokwadi chokuti mukomana wemuenzaniso wamunosarudza ndiye muenzaniso, anoda mwanasikana wako, uye anoisa muenzaniso wakanaka wekuti iwe uye iwe.

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Ziva Zvakanaka Kuita Nzira Dzokushandisa Anogona Kushandisa

Mukunda wenyu angangodaro atoita maitiro akanaka ekugadzirisa maitiro ekubata nekushaiwa kwababa muhupenyu hwake. Iwe unofanirwa kupa mubairo uye uone nzira dzakanaka dzekutarisana nadzo sekutaura pachena pachena iwe, uchiziva kuti varume vanomubata sei nevamwe vasikana, vamire vakaoma pamberi pekomukomana kana murume angave achida kumushandisa zvakanaka uye kuramba achibatana nekanaka network yehama neshamwari dzemhuri. Paunoona zviratidzo zvekuyeuchidza kuti angave ari kuedza kukwezva varume kubva kune vakomana vasina kunaka kana kuti vangave vakaora mwoyo kana kuti vakaora mwoyo, mubatsire kushandisa masimba ake ekugadzirisa maitiro uye unhu hunoita kuti usapindira matambudziko.

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Mubatsire Iye Tsvaga Kuwana Maonero Akanaka Kwevarume Madzimai

Kunze kwemhuri, tsira mwanasikana wako kuwana mienzaniso yakanaka mune zvimwe zvikamu zvehupenyu hwake. Varume ava vakanaka vangave madzitateguru veshamwari dzake, mudzidzisi wevadzidzi vemutambo, mudzidzisi, kana nhengo yevafundisi venyu. Apo paanoona ruoko rwekutanga kuti varume vakanaka vanozvibata sei uye kuti vanobatana sei nevamwe vanhu, anogona kutanga kutarisa unhu hunhu hunotsanangura varume vakanaka. Uye usarega kuunza mutsara wakareba wevarume kumba kwako, kunyanya avo vanogona kuve nengozi kana kuti varombo varume vanoita mienzaniso kumwanasikana wenyu. Iva nechokwadi chokuti varume vamunosangana navo, uye avo vanobata nemwanasikana wenyu, vane muenzaniso wakanaka.

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Tsvaga Zvakarurama "Guta"

Yeuka chirevo chokuti "zvinotora musha kuti uve nemwana." Mubereki mumwe chete weanherera anoda kuzvikomberedza nemhuri yake neboka rinokurudzira uye rinotsigira shamwari, nhengo dzemhuri, nevamwe. Kana shamwari dzako dzepamusoro dziri shamwari dzako dzekubata uye usaisa muenzaniso wakanaka kumwanasikana wako, ungada kufungisisa kuti unosarudza sei shamwari dzako nevanhu vane simba kumwanasikana wenyu. Kubatana neshamwari dzine murume akanaka sebaba vomwana wavo zvingasava nguva dzose dzakanaka, asi izvozvo zvinogona kubatsira mwanasikana wako.

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Simbisa Amai seMasimba ekurera vana Anofanira Kuremekedzwa

Chimwe chezvinhu izvo baba vane muenzaniso wakanaka ndekukuratidza kuremekedza vakadzi muupenyu hwavo. Mumwe amai vasina kuroora dzimwe nguva vanoedza kurega kuremekedza kutora chigaro chekudzokera kuva "shamwari" nevana vavo. Nokuratidza uye kukumbira ruremekedzo mumubereki wake, anogona kubhadhara nenzira dzakawanda dzekushaiwa kwababa kunogona kudzidzisa chinhu chakafanana.

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Ziva Shamwari Dzomwanasikana Wako uye Mubatsire Kuti Azvione Sezvavari Chaizvo

Sezvo vasikana vachikura, vanowanzotonyanya kunyanya kutungamirirwa neshamwari dzavo kupfuura vabereki vavo. Kune musiyano pakati pekuve neshamwari dzinovaka kuzvidzora kwemusikana uye kuva nemaonero evanhu vakanaka mumararamiro avo uye kuva neshamwari dzisingadzose zviito izvozvo patafura. Shamwari dzakanaka dzinogonawo kugadzirisa miganhu inonzwisisika uye ine utano, iyo inogona kubatsira chero musikana muboka kuti adzidze kuti haisi yakarurama chete asi inokosha kuti ive nemhando iyo yemiganhu nevarume muhupenyu hwake.

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Mubatsire Awana mikana yekuvandudza kuzvidzora kwake uye kuzvikudza

Chimwe chezvinhu zvakakosha kurasikirwa nemusikana asina hanya zvinoreva kuzvikudza kwake. Anoda pfungwa yakasimba yekuzvimiririra kuti ararame uye abudirire munyika yake, uye asingakwanisi kuzvikudza kungamutungamirira kutsvaga kuvimbiswa munzvimbo dzose dzisina kunaka. Mumuise mumabasa anowanzovaka kuzvikudza. Zvinhu zvakadai semitambo, zvikwata zvekuchikoro, mapoka echechi, mimhanzi, nekudhanha kunogona kuva maitiro makuru ekuzviremekedza kwemusikana.

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Rumbidza Nyaya Yake Zvimwe uye Kuonekwa Kwake Zvishoma

Vasikana vasina baba vanogonawo kurwisana nekuzviremekedza sezvinoenderana nechitarisiko chake. Vanasikana vasina ruzivo vanowanzoedza kubhadhara nekupfeka zvisina kufanira, vachishanda zvakanyanya kuita kana kushungurudza pamusoro pechipimo uye mumuviri. Nokuisa pfungwa paunhu hwakanaka hunhu hwake nemabasa, vabereki vanogona kumubatsira kuona kuti iye akawandisa kupfuura kuonekwa kwake. Muise mumamiriro ezvinhu apo angakwanisa kukunda uye kuti angakwanisa sei kusimbisa zvimwe zvezvakanaka izvo zvichamubatsira kuti ave nechimiro chakanaka kunze kwekusafanira kutarisa pakuonekwa kwake.

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Muteererei Paanoenda

Kazhinji, vasikana vasina nharo vanorwisana nezvinetso uye vanogona kuzviwana vakatsamwa, kurwadzisa kana kuvhiringidzika nekuda kwekushaiwa kwababa. Teerera zvakasimba paanenge achitaurirana manzwiro ake nemafungiro ake, uye iva nechokwadi chokuti anokuona iwe segadziriro yakachengeteka yorudo neuchenjeri. Ramba kuninira pamusoro pokushaiwa kwababa vake, uye mubatsire kuona kuti kutaura kwakanaka kunogona kumubatsira kuwana nzira yake kuburikidza nepfungwa yekurasikirwa.

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Tsvaga Wako Support Network

Pakupedzisira, amai vemwanasikana asina nherera vanofanira kuve vakasimba pachavo uye kuratidzira zvinhu zvaanotarisira kuti mwanasikana wavo acharatidza. Zvisonganisa iwe nevamwe amai vari kurera vanasikana chete asi nenzira yakanaka. Tora mapoka makirasi, tora chikamu mumapoka evakadzi munharaunda yako kana chechi yako, uye uverenge mamwe mabhuku akanaka pamusoro pekurera vana. Taura neshamwari dzine uchenjeri hwekurera vana hwaunotenda. Sezvo iwe uchisimbisa unyanzvi hwako hwekubereka, iwe unogona kuva mubereki ari nani kuvana vako.

> Sources:

> "Daddyless Daughters & rsquo": Kukura Kunze Kushaya Baba Kunobatsira Maitiro AMukadzi Uye Kusarudza

> Nherera Mwanasikana Project.

> Jackson, LM (2010). Baba vangu varipi? Migumisiro yekusina baba pahukama hwevakadzi. (Dzidziso yeMwana, San Jose State University). SJSU Scholarworks.