Nzira yekuziva kuti ndeupi muitiro wekurera iwe unowira uye nei
Iwe uri mubereki werudzii? Ndeipi iwe waungati unonyatsorondedzera mararamiro ako ekurera vana - mumwe munhu ari kuda uye kutonga; mumwe munhu anodziya uye anoteerera; kana mumwe munhu anofarira vana vavo uye asingamborevi kuranga? Sezvakaita munyaya dzeGoldilocks neTatu Bears, imwe yemitambo iyi inonyatsove nani pane dzimwe.
Mhando Ichina Yekurera Vana
Muma1960, nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Diana Diumirind akanyora papepa rinoputika kubva pakutsvakurudza kwake kwaakanyatsorondedzera maitiro matatu ekurera vana maitiro aakaona: ane masimba, anobvumira, uye ane mvumo yekuberekera vana.
Chiremera Parenting
Vabereki vanowira pasi pechirongwa ichi chekurera vana vanowanzoda kuterera kwakakwana kubva kuvana vavo, kwete kana, uye, kana. Vabereki vanoita vana vekuremekedza kuvabereki havatendi kuti vanoda kutsanangura chero yemitemo yavanoisa, uye vanotarisira kuti vana vateerere, pasina mibvunzo yakabvunzwa. Vanoshandisa kuda kwavo pamusoro pevana vavo uye vanovaranga nechingwa chiduku kana kutsigirwa. Vana vevabereki vekutonga vanowanzozviratidza kuzvidzora, kuzvidya mwoyo, uye kutya kwemamiriro matsva.
Kubvumira Parenting
Vabereki vanorega kubvumira vana kurega vana havaregi kana kupa mitemo; havadi kuve nekupesana nevana vavo vanotenda vana vanofanira kuzvidzora ivo pachavo. Vanodziya uye vanonzwika zvinopindura kuvana vavo, izvo zvakanaka; asi vanozeza kuisa miganhu kana kudzora maitiro evana vavo, izvo zvisiri izvo chaizvo. Vanopinda mune zvido zvevana vavo uye vanorega kusava nemafungiro akaipa, izvo zvinogona kuva nemigumisiro yakaipa yevana.
Kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza kuti vana vanorerwa nevabereki vanobvumira zvisizvo havafungi, vasingateereri mitemo nemiganhu, vanowanzova nehuwandu hwemhirizhonga uye njodzi yakanyanya yekushandisa zvinodhaka sezvavanokura, uye kunyange vane ngozi yakanyanya yekuora mwoyo nekuzvidya mwoyo . (Zvinonzwisisika - kana vana vasina kupiwa miganhu uye kunzwa sokuti vane simba pamusoro pevabereki vavo, zvinogona kuva chinhu chinotyisa uye chinotambudza kwavari; ichi ndicho chikonzero nei vana vachida miganhu nemitemo.)
Chiremera Parenting
Iyi nzira yekurera vana ndiyo "isina kupisa, kwete kunotonhora" peji yemitambo yekurera. Iine zvikamu zveubereki hwekuremekedza (vabereki vanoisa mitemo nemiganhu, kusungira mitemo, uye kupa vana migumisiro kana vasingavateereri) asi vabereki vane chiremera vane manzwiro evanhu vanofarira uye vanodziya uye vanoteerera uye vanotaurirana nevana vavo. Vabereki vane chiremera vanopa vana kuremekedza uye vanoteerera (uye vanotarisira vana kuti vaite zvakafanana) uye vanokurudzira vana kuti vave vanofunga vakasununguka, asi havasi kupa vana uye vanotarisira kushandira pamwe nemafambiro akanaka. Apo vana vakaita chimwe chinhu chisina kururama, vabereki vane kodzero vacharaira kuburikidza nekuedza kutungamirira nekudzidzisa vana vavo, uye kuchinja zvavanotarisira kuvana zvichienderana nemamiriro ezvinhu uye zvinodiwa nemwana mumwe nomumwe. Iyi nzira yekuberekera vana yakaratidzwa kutungamira kune zvakanakisisa zvinobudirira muvana, kusanganisira kunaka kwehutano hwemagariro, hutano hwemagariro evanhu, kuwedzera kugadzirisa, nekuchengetedzwa kwakanyanya kune vabereki vavo. (Dzimwe humwe rubatsiro rwevabereki vane kodzero dzakanyorwa pasi apa.)
Kubvisa Parenting
Iyi nzira yechina, yakaonekwa nevatsvakurudzi Eleanor Maccoby naJohn Martin, inotsanangura nzira yekurera vana, kusina kubatanidzwa muhupenyu hwevana vavo, kushamwaridzana uye kuchengetedza kwevana vane hanya nemanzwiro, uye kusakwanira kana kusakwanira kutarisira kuranga vana kana kuvatarisa.
Kuberekwa kusina kuwanikwa kunobatanidza nemigumisiro yakaipisisa yevana: Vana vanorerwa nemararamiro aya ekuberekera vana vanowanzotora pfungwa, vanozvidya mwoyo uye vangave vari pangozi yekunyadzisa uye kuipa kwezviito pamwe nekushandisa zvinodhaka.
Makomborero Okukurudzirwa neMubereki Ane Chiremera - Sei Ichi Chibereko Chokubereka Chishanda
Kubva pamitambo yose yekurera vana, vana vanokurudzirwa nemararamiro ekuremekedza ekurera vana vave vakaratidzirwa kuratidzira mhinduro dzakanakisisa. Zvimwe zvezvikomborero zvizhinji zveyi nzira yevana zvinosanganisira zvinotevera:
- Vanowedzera kutarisira, vanogona kuzvidzora ivo pachavo, uye vanodzidza kuita zvisarudzo zvakanaka ivo pachavo.
- Vanoremekedza vanhu vakuru, vamwe vanhu, uye mitemo.
- Havana kushungurudzika kana kunetseka kuti ndiani ari kutarisira nokuti vanoziva kuti ndiani ari kuita zvisarudzo kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti vane utano uye vanofara: amai nababa.
- Ivo vanonzwira tsitsi , vane mutsa , uye vanodziya.
- Vanowanzova nematambudziko mashoma emunharaunda nevezera ravo, vanobatana nevadzidzisi, uye vanowanzozivikanwa kuchikoro.
- Vanowanzova nehutano hwakasimba uye hukama hwakanaka nevabereki vavo.
- Vangave vakanyanya kukunda kushamwaridzana nevamwe.