Migumisiro yeSvondo Nezvakaitwa Nevabereki Nevadzidzisi Funga nezvemutsa
Kana izwi rezvematongerwo enyika eUnited States nehurukuro pamusoro petrolls nemashoko asina kunaka uye mufambiro wakaipa nevanhu vanofanirwa kuva vatungamiriri vedu uye vamiririri iwe unonetseka pamusoro pemhando yeiyi iyo tsika yose isingaiti inoisa vana, iwe hausi woga: Kuongororwa kwenyika yakabudiswa neSesame Workshop muna Gumiguru 2016 inoratidza kuti mutsa unenge uri mupfungwa dzevabereki vakawanda muUnited States
Ongororo iyi, inonzi "K Ndiyo Mutsa: A National Survey on Kindness and Kids," vakawana kuti inenge chikamu chetatu chevabereki uye vanenge makumi mana nevashanu vevadzidzisi kazhinji vanonetseka kuti nyika inzvimbo isina kunaka kune vana. Maererano nekuongororwa, vabereki nevadzidzisi vane hanya kuti vanhu havasi kuzoenda kunobatsira vamwe, uye vanotenda kuti vana vanoda hutano hwakanaka hwemagariro evanhu kuitira kuti vaite zvakanaka muupenyu.
Kuongorora Mutsa
Kufananidza basa ravo seinobatsira vana kose-kose "kukura unyanzvi, wakasimba, uye ane mutsa," Sesame Workshop yakasarudza kutsvaga nyaya yerudo seyiyo inokosha kune vana nemhuri mumwaka uno. Vakasarudza kuisa pfungwa pamutsa nekuda kwe "nhamba inowedzera yenyaya nenyaya yekutsamwa, kutya, kudzvinyirira, uye chisimba, uyewo pfungwa yakawanda yekusagutsikana kwepamusoro pehurukuro yeruzhinji," uye nekuda kwekutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti narcissism iri kuwedzera uye tsitsi kuderera.
Sesame Workshop yakatsvakurudza vabereki vanopfuura 2 000 vevana vane makore 3 kusvika ku12 kuburikidza nefoni uye vakaita sangano rekutsvaga revadzidzisi vevana mazana mashanu mu-pre-K kusvika 6th grade. Zvigumisiro zvakaratidza kuti vose vabereki nevadzidzisi vane hanya kuti vana nhasi vari kukura munyika isina tsitsi uye kuti mapoka maviri aya anobvumirana kuti mutsa unokosha kuti vana vawane kubudirira mune ramangwana, kunyanya kupfuura zvidzidzo zvakanaka. Zvimwe zvinonyanya kukosha pakuongorora:
- 70 muzana yevabereki vanoti vanowanzonetseka kuti nyika inzvimbo isina kunaka kune mwana wavo
- 86 muzana yevadzidzisi vakati vanowanetseka kuti nyika inzvimbo isina kunaka kune vana
- 73 muzana yevabereki vakataura kuti zvakakosha kuti mwana wavo ave nomutsa kune vamwe kunze kwekudzidza kubudirira
- 78 muzana yevadzidzisi vakati zvakakosha kuti vana vave netsitsi kune vamwe pane kuti vabudirire mune zvedzidzo
Asi apo vabereki nevadzidzisi 'vachitarisa pamusoro pekukosha kwerudo zvakanaka, zvakaratidza kuva nechinguva chekuregererwa kuti zvinorevei mutsa. Vabereki vakataura kuti kuva nehanya kwakakosha kupfuura kuva nehanya kana kubatsira (kana tsitsi ) apo vadzidzisi vanonzwisisa tsitsi: Pavakabvunzwa kuti, "Ndeipi yeiyi inonyanya kukosha kuti mwana wenyu ave iye zvino?" Makumi makumi mashanu nesere kubva muzana evabereki vakasarudza tsika vachienzanisa ne 41% chete yevabereki vakasarudza tsitsi. Pakati pevadzidzisi, 63 muzana vakati tsitsi dzaikosha zvikuru zvichienzaniswa ne37 muzana dzakasarudza tsika.
Kunzwisisa Maitiro vs. Kunzwira tsitsi
Kusiyana uku kunofadza kunoratidza kuti vabereki vangave vachienzanisa tsika dzakanaka nekunzwira tsitsi. Asi chokwadi ndechokuti, tsika nekunzwira tsitsi hazvisi chinhu chimwe chete. (Somuenzaniso, mwana anoremekedzwa angaratidza unhu hukuru pamberi pevakuru vobva vashandura uye kushungurudza kana kuderedza mumwe munhu.) Uye kana zvasvika kune avo vanofanira kunge vari kudzidzisa vana mutsa, vadzidzisi vakaratidza kuti vabereki vanogona kunge vachiita zvakawanda (44% chete yevadzidzisi vakati vanotenda kuti vabereki "vose" kana kuti "vazhinji" vari kurera vana vavo kuti varemekedze, uye 34 muzana chete vanoti "vose" kana "vazhinji" vabereki vari kurera vana kuti vave netsitsi uye vane mutsa)
Vabereki, kune rumwe rutivi, vakati ivo varikushingaira kudzidzisa vana vavo mutsa: Vose vanenge 75 muzana yevabereki vakarondedzera kuti vanotaura nevana vavo nguva shomanana pavhiki kana kupfuura pamusoro pekuona zvinhu kubva kune vamwe vanhu maonero evanhu, uye 88 muzana vakati mwana wavo ane mutsa.
The Bottom Line
Saka izvi zvose zvinorevei kuvabereki, vadzidzisi, uye vana? Kune humwe humwe humwe humwe humwe hutano hwehutano uye hwepfungwa sekunzwira tsitsi uye mutsa zvakakosha kuti vana vabudirire. (Zvinonzwisisika-mushure mezvose, ndiani anoda kushanda neancissist uye anonyadzisa paboka ravo pabasa kana kuti ave neshamwari nemumwe munhu anozvitarisira oga?) Vabereki, vadzidzisi, uye vose vanogona kuita chikamu chavo kubatsira vana kuti varemekedze, mutsa, uye kuonga uye kudzidza tsika dzakanaka zvakare. Kana tikakwanisa kubatsira vana vemazuva ano vakadzidza kuremekedzana, pane tariro ingave yeramangwana.