Nzira Iyo Vabereki Vanogona Kuziva
Mubereki angaziva sei kana mwana wavo ari kuyaruka ari kushandisa zvinodhaka? Uyu mubvunzo wakaoma hauna kupindurwa nyore nyore sezvo zvinotora nguva uye kukwanisa kuisa zvikamu zvepfungwa yako yepabonde yemafungiro. Asi zvakakosha kuti vabereki vatsanangurire kana vana vavo vasina kushandisa chero mhando ipi yekushandisa zvinodhaka sekushandisa zvinodhaka zvechirwere zvinogona kutungamirira kumigumisiro inosuruvarisa - semwana wako achiri kuyaruka asingakwanisi kusvika pane zvaanogona kana zvimwe zvinowedzera kuipa sekufa.
Heino nyaya dzinodiwa nevabereki kuti vazvifungisise pavanofunga kana vana vavo vari kuyaruka vari kukwira pamishonga kana kunwa doro . Vaya vashoma ndivo mazano ekupinda muhutano hwakanaka hwepfungwa paunenge uchitarisana nechinhu ichi chakaoma uye mwana wako ari kuyaruka. Zvose zvinotora matanho aunofanira kutora kana pane chiyeuchidzo chekushandisa zvinodhaka mumba mako nemwana wako.
Iva Kupfuura Mukushamisika Sekukurumidza Sezvaunokwanisa
Kuwana, kunyange kutora chiduku chiduku, icho mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka ari kuita zvinodhaka zvinotyisa. Zvinotora nguva yekugadzirisa pfungwa nemanzwiro aunofunga uye manzwiro. Asi nekuda kwehutano hwekushandisa zvinodhaka zvevechidiki uye huzhinji hwahwo hupenyu nehupenyu hwekufa, nguva iyoyo vabereki vanogara vachiri kuyaruka vari kushandisa havagone.
Iwe nevekuyaruka zvichave zviri nani kana uchiziva nezvekushandisa kwavo kushandisa zvinodhaka sezvo zvinogona kutungamirira kumwana wako kuyaruka kuwana chero rubatsiro rwavanoda kuti arege kushandisa chirwere. Saka, apo iwe unogona kunge uchishanda kuburikidza nemanzwiro ako, tora matanho ekuziva kana vari kunyanya kushandisa madhiragi uye kuwana rubatsiro kune mwana wenyu achiri kuyaruka - uye edza kusazununguka.
Usakanganwa Kuti Kushandiswa Kwezvinodhaka Kwave Kwaitika
Vamwe vabereki vanotenda kuti vana vavo vari kuyaruka havazomboiti zvinodhaka nekuti vane zvikwereti zvakanaka kana vechidiki wavo mutambi. Kunyange zvazvo izvi zvingangodaro zvave zviri zvechokwadi munguva yakapfuura, kushandiswa kwezvinodhaka zvekuyaruka hakusi dambudziko kune vashoma vasikana vechidiki avo vakanga vari vana 420 yemishonga yemishonga .
Mazuva ano ose ari kuyaruka anokwanisa kuwana marudzi mazhinji emishonga. Vatambi vanogona kutonyanya kunetseka kune dzimwe mhando dzemishonga se steroid, sezvo vamwe vadzidzi vakanaka vanogona kutora nokukurumidza kuti vaite zviri nani mumakirasi avo. Kunyanya, kushandiswa doro uye kushungurudzwa kwave kuri dambudziko kune vechidiki uye vechidiki vakuru kwezvizvarwa zvakawanda. Bvisa zvinyorwa uye uchengete pfungwa yakajeka paunotsvaga izvi zvingaitika.
Ziva Kuti Kurapa Kwemishonga Kwemakore Hakusi Rite of Passage
Vabereki vangave vasingadi kutenda kuti kana vana vavo vachiri kuyaruka vari kukwira kumusoro kana kunwa doro hazvisi chinhu chinopfuura chikamu kana rwiyo rwekufamba. Kana kuti, vanogona kutenda kuti kunwa doro shomanana kana kushandisa mbanje chinhu chinoitwa nevana, chinhu chevechiri kuyaruka uye chichava chakanakisisa nokuti vakazviita zvakare pavakanga vachiri vaduku uye vakabuda zvakanaka.
Nokudaro, vanoramba kushandiswa kwemishonga yekuyaruka kuri kuitika mumhuri yavo kana kuti havazooni zviratidzo zvekunyevera zvevana vavo vachishandisa. Vamwe vabereki vangatoenda kusvika pakupa zvinodhaka kana doro - kazhinji inenge doro - kune vechidiki vavo uye vamwe vechidiki. Kana izvi zvichitsanangura iwe, iwe uchada kugadzirisa mafungiro ako pamusoro pemishonga yekushandisa zvinodhaka uye uve mubereki wako wevechiri kuyaruka, kwete shamwari yavo .
Taura Nomwana Wako
Zvakakosha kutaura nemwana wako nezvekushandisa zvinodhaka, kwete chete kana iwe uchinzwa kuti vangave vari kushandisa zvinodhaka, asi sechidziviriro chiyero. Asi kana wakawana uchapupu hwomwana wenyu ari kuyaruka achishandisa, tauriranai nemwana wenyu zvekuyaruka izvo zvamakawana uye nei muchifunga kuti vari kushandisa madhiragi. Mwana wako ari kuyaruka angaedza kujekesa nyaya dzaunomutsa kana kuti achadzivirira zvikuru uye kutanga simba rekugadzirisa hupenyu hwekushandisa zvinodhaka.
Chero nzira, iwe uchada kubvunza mwana wako kana ari kushandisa madhiragi. Makumi makumi mapfumbamwe nemapfumbamwe muzana yenguva iyo mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka achati, 'kwete', pasinei nokuti ivo kana kwete. Kuve nekutya uye kutya kwekubatwa kunowanzoita kuti vechidiki varare pavanobvunzwa mubvunzo iwoyo.
Ndinoda kutarisa pano kuti haufaniri kunge uine hurukuro iyi nemwana wako kana mwana wako kana iwe uchifunga kuti vakakwirira kana kunwa. Havana kugadzikana uye havakwanisi kutaura nemwi zvakakodzera. Mirira kusvikira vanyoro.
Ziva zviratidzo zvekushandisa zvinodhaka zvekare
Mwana wako wekuyaruka angasazoendesa zvinodhaka kumba asi kushandisa zvinodhaka kuchikoro, pane imwe nzvimbo iri kunze kana kumusha wemuvakidzani. Ikoko kune nyevero zviratidzo zvekushandisa zvinodhaka zvechirwere kusanganisira zvinhu zvakadai semakero ekudonha, mafungiro evanhu vari kutendeuka uye kurasikirwa kwekufarira mune zvido zvavo zvekudya kana mhuri.
Kunewo zviratidzo zvakananga zvekunyevera zvechirwere chechiri kuyaruka chekusarudza. Semuenzaniso, kukwirira pamamiti kuchaita kuti wechidiki jumpy dzimwe nguva ave nemaawa makumi mana nemaviri kana kupfuura apo kuve kwakakwirira pamucheka kuchaita kuti mudiki ave nehope mushure mekutanga kwepamusoro. Kana iwe wakaziva zviratidzo zvaunogona kuva pahanya nazvo.
Chengetedza Imwana Yevana Venyu Zvinodhaka kana Mishonga Inodhaka
Hungu, hupombwe hunokosha mumhuri, asi hahukoshi sekutora mutoro wekubereka mwana wako ari kuyaruka. Kana iwe uchifungidzira kushandisa zvinodhaka nemwana wako, iyi ndeimwe yezviitiko izvo iwe unoda kuva mubereki anoongorora nzvimbo yavo yega yega kusanganisira imba yavo yekurara uye kwete shamwari yavo iyo isingakwanisi kuita basa rakaoma nekuda kwezvakavanzika.Kana iwe ukawana zvinodhaka kana mishonga yemishonga, kune zvimwe zvinhu zvishoma zvaungaita. Yokutanga ndeyokushandisa zvinodhaka nekudzirasa. Ita kuti mwana wako azive zvawakawana uye zvawakaita nazvo. Vaudze kuti unonetseka nezvekushandisa kwavo zvinodhaka uye kuti uri kutsvaga rubatsiro kwavari nokuti panguva ino unoziva kuti mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka ari kushandisa zvinodhaka.
Asi kana iwe wakanga uri mumugwagwa uyu usati waenda nemukomana wako, inguva yekupa uchapupu hwechirwere kune mumwe wavo mutungamiriri wezvinodhaka kana kumapurisa. Chero nzira, mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka achasangana nemigumisiro kunze kwemusha. Ichi chiyero chinorwadza uye chinofanira kungoshandiswa chete kana wakaneta dzimwe nzira dzose dzekubatsira mwana wako achiri kuyaruka nokuti pane imwe nguva zvinotarisirwa nemhuri yako zvinoda kusvika pamberi pemishonga yavo yemishonga. Mhuri yako inoda kuva yakachengeteka uye kushandiswa kwemishonga yako yemukomana hakusi yakachengeteka kune ani zvake ari mumba mako.
Vabereki Vanogona Kusarudza Kushandisa Kititi Chekushandisa Mishonga Yekumusha
Kana iwe uchiri kunyatsoziva kana mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka ari kushandisa zvinodhaka, asi iwe unofunga kuti zvinonyanya kuitika, unogona kusarudza kushandisa chikwata chekuedza zvinodhaka. Makikiti anogona kutengwa pane zvekushandisa zvinodhaka munzvimbo yako uye paIndaneti. Tarisa chitupa cherwendo rwemishonga iyo inowedzera, kazhinji ndiyo marijuana, amphetamines, methamphetamines, ecstasy, cocaine uye opiates.
Vamwe vabereki havana imwe sarudzo asi kushandisa kadhi yekuongorora zvinodhaka sezvo vechidiki vavo vacharamba kushandisa madhiragi uye vanovanzika zvikuru. Vamwe vabereki vachave vachiri kuyaruka vachiedza nguva dzose kuti vadzivirire pakushandisa zvinodhaka - chimwe chinhu chandinokurudzira kana mwana wenyu achiri kuyaruka akashandisa zvinodhaka munguva yakapfuura. Izvo zvipi zvaunosarudza kushandisa chirwere chekushandisa zvinodhaka, ziva kuti kunyange kana mwana wako achiri kuyaruka akatsamwa newe, unogona kushanda pakuvakazve kuvimba kwaunoita iwe wese muukama hwako kana kushandisa kwavo zvinodhaka zviri pasi pesimba.
Zvakadini kana kuongorora kwechirwere kuchibuda kwakachena uye mwana wako achiri kuyaruka asingashandisi zvinodhaka ? Wakafamba kuburikidza nezvose izvi pasina here? Kwete. Zvawakaita zvinoratidzika kunze kwechinetso chimwe. Chimwe chinhu chakaita kuti iwe ufunge kuti mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka ari kushandisa zvinodhaka uye zvinosuruvarisa, kushandiswa kwezvinodhaka hakusi iyo chete yega inotarisana nevechidiki vechidiki. Ita musangano pamwe chete nachiremba uye ugovawana muviri wakakwana kuti uone chimwe chinhu chinogona kuva dambudziko.