Hazvina mhosva kuti mamiriro ako akadini ari pfuti, uye pasinei nokuti iwe unotova nepfuti mumba mako, zvakakosha kutaura nevana nezvepfuti. Vana vane ruzivo rwechisikigo pamusoro pemabhururu uye pasina dzidzo yakakodzera, kusaziva kwavo kunogona kunge kwakaipa.
Paavhareji, vana 19 vanourayiwa kana kuti vanowana kurapwa kwekukurumidzira kwemafuti zuva nezuva muUnited States.
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Inofungidzirwa kuti chikamu chetatu cheAmerica ine pfuti. Saka mukana wekuti muvakidzani, shamwari kana nhengo yemumhuri ane pfuti, zvichida asina kuchengeteka, mumba mavo akanaka.
Hazvina mhosva kuti iwe unofunga kuti mwana wako ndeyekuziva njodzi kana iwe usingatendi kuti angamboenda achiongorora mune imwe imba yomumwe munhu. Zvinoreva zvishomanana kuti mabhuni ako anogara akavharwa-kunyange kana zvombo zvakasiyana-kana kuti kuvhima kana kurongedza kunyorera chikamu chinokosha chemhuri yako.
Nzira yakanakisisa yekudzivisa njodzi dzine chokuita nepfuti ndeyokutaura nevana vako nezvepfuti kakawanda. Kubata kukurukurirana nguva dzose kuchabvisa chakavanzika uye kuvabatsira kuti vanzwisise kuti ndezvipi pfuti, maitiro avanoita, uye kuti vanogona sei kuzvichengetedza vakachengeteka .
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Zvinosuruvarisa, vabereki vazhinji vanotenda vana vavo kuti vasambobata pfuti mushure mokunge vanyeverwa nezvekuchengetedzwa kwepfuti .
Asi zviongorori zvakasiyana-siyana zvakawana kuti kunyange kana vana vakamboudzwa kuti varege kumbobata bhoti, vanogona kubata brasheni apo mukana unozviratidza. Uye migumisiro inogona kuuraya.
Saka kana uchitaura nevana vako vekuchikoro nevadzidzi vepurazi nezvepfuti zvinokosha, mwana wako achiri muzera raunoda kuita zvakawanda zvebasa rake-uye izvo zvinoreva kutaurira vakuru mumisha yaunoshanyira kuti uone kana kune zvombo muimba.
Zvinogona kunzwa sekutaura kusinganzwisisiki kuti iwe uite, sekunge iwe uchivapomera mhosva yekushanda imba isina kuchengeteka, asi edza kuendesa mberi izvo-zvose zviri muzita rekuchengetedzwa kwemwana wako. Ichokwadi, mumwe munhu mukuru angangodaro anoziva kuti uri kuunza nyaya yakakosha yakadaro.
Mune nyaya chaiye, taura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Ndisati ndarega vana vangu vakasununguka mumba mako, ndinongoda kuziva kana pane zvimwe zvinhu zvavanokwanisa kupinda. Iwe une pfuti mumba mako here? "Kana vakadaro, simbisai kuti zvese zvombo zvinosunungura, zvakachengetedzwa zvakachengeteka, uye zvisingawanikwi nemwana wako.
Asi, hongu, izvi hazvikwanisi kuva iwe mutsara wekudzivirira. Vana vaduku-zvikurukuru vakomana vaduku-kazhinji vane chido chokuzviita sokupfura nepfuti, uye tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti vana vakwegura se12 vane nguva yakaoma kusiyanisa pakati pechokwadi uye kutamba zvombo. Nokudaro, hazvina kumboitika kare kuti utaure nemwana wako nezvezvinofanira kuita kana vakawana chipfuti.
Tanga nekumuudza zvifananidzo zvemarudzi akasiyana-siyana epfuti, saka anoziva nzira yekuzviziva. Tsanangura kuti kana akambosangana nemumwe-kunyange kana achifunga kuti zvinogona kungoita sokuti pfuti-kuti anofanira kubva pakarepo uye owana munhu mukuru.
Shandisa pfungwa yacho kumba nekumubvunza.
Bvunza mibvunzo yakaita seyi, "Waizoiteiko kana ukaona bhofu patafura paimba yako?" Ipai mirwi yekurumbidza paanopindura zvakarurama.
Apo mwana wako achikura, wedzera hurukuro. Kurukurai musiyano pakati pekushandiswa kwepfuti mumitambo yeTV nemitambo yemavhidhiyo, kusimbisa kuti ivo vanoita-kutenda mamiriro ezvinhu, uye chii chinogona kuitika kana mumwe munhu ari kupfurwa-havaitizve hupenyu uye vanodzoka zvakare.
Vadzidzi veChikoro neTweens
Kana mwana wako ari kuchikoro chesekondari, angangodaro akanzwa pamusoro pezvimwe zviitiko zvepfuti chisimba munyika yose-kana kuti inogona kunge iri munharaunda yako.
Shandisai nhau sekumhanya kubva pane imwe nzvimbo kuitira kuti nhaurirano ibudise pachena nezvekuti zvigadziri zvinogona kuitika sei.
Ramba uchitaura pamusoro pekukosha kwekusagunzva zvombo, kunyanya kana akawana bhomba mumusha wemumwe munhu. Ita zvakajeka kuti kunyange zvazvo mwana wako angafunga kuti anoziva kubata gomba zvakachengeteka, kutora pfuti kunogona kuva nemigumisiro yakaipisisa.
Mwana wako anowedzerawo njodzi yekuva neshamwari inoda kuratidza zvombo zviri mumba make. Kumira kune shamwari isinganzwisisiki, saka fungidzira nzira dzako dzinogona kubuda mumamiriro ezvinhu pasina kukonzera mheremhere.
Ita kuti ataure chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Izvi zvinotyisa. Ngatitei tinoita chimwe chinhu. "Kana mwana wako ane shamwari anopa kumuratidza pfuti, kumudzidzisa kuti ataure chimwe chinhu," Zvichida gare gare. Regai tiite chimwe chinhu kunze. "
Mwana wako haafaniri kuparidza kana kuudza shamwari nezvepfuti kuchengeteka. Anongoda kuzvibvisa kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu.
Kana iwe uchibvumira mwana wako kuti avhime kana kuti ave nebhajhini , ita nechokwadi chokuti iwe unobatanidzwa mukumudzidzisa iye zvidzidzo zvekuchengeteka. Uye ega mutemo wakajeka unoti haabvumirwi kuashandisa kunze kwekuti iwe uri kumutarisira.
Vanodzidza Chikoro
Kunyange mune dzimwe nzvimbo dzenyika, vechidiki vari kutengesa pfuti kuenda kundovhima mushure mechikoro, mune dzimwe nzvimbo, vechidiki vari kutakura zvombo kuti vatye vamwe. Pasinei nokuti unogara kupi kana kuti pfuti dzinoonekwa sei munharaunda yako, zvakakosha kugara uchikurukura nevana vako nezvepfuti kuchengeteka.
Vechidiki vanogona kunge vasina kungwarira naizvozvo kunyange kana mwana wako achiziva kubata gomba zvakanaka, kuparadzaniswa kwechipiri chisarudzo zvose zvinotoda kuti kukuvara kuitike. Saka zvakakosha kuchengeta pfuti yakavharwa kunyange kana iwe uchifunga kuti mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka haazogoni kubata zvombo zvenyu.
Inogona kunzwa isinganzwisisiki kukwidza nyaya yepfuti nemwana wako. Nzira yakanaka yekutanga hurukuro yakaoma ndeyokubvunza mibvunzo yakafanana, "Vana vekuchikoro vachitaura nezvepfuti here?" Kana kuti "Unofunga kuti mumwe wevamwe shamwari dzako wakatombotakura pfuti here?"
Zvakakoshawo kuunza nyaya yechisimba chepfuti muchikoro. Taura nezvezvinofanira kuita kana mumwe mudzidzi achiunza pfuti kuchikoro-kureva, taurira mudzidzisi, mutungamiri wezano kana gurukota nekukurumidza.
Zvakakodzera kuti titaure kuti anogona kugara achiudza munhu mukuru kana mumwe mudzidzi achingotaura kana kutyisidzira kuuya nepfuti kuchikoro. Yeuka mwana wako kuti, nokuita izvi, vanogona kuchengetedza hupenyu uye kudzivirira mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma.
Taura nezvekupi kwekuchengeteka kunofanirwa nemwana wako. Bvunza kana pane dzimwe nguva apo anotya kuti mumwe munhu angauya pfuti kumutambo kana kuti mumwe munhu angave nepfuti kuchikoro. Kutaura pamusoro pezvaunofunga nezvemwana wako uye kumubatsira kuronga hurongwa hunomuchengetedza hunogona kugadzirisa zvimwe zvekutya kwake.
Nhau Dzemagetsi Nemitemo Yekufunga
Pasinei nokuti iwe pachako unonzwa sei nezvepfuti, hezvino zvimwe zvinhu zvaunofanira kufunga:
- Toys pfuti - Kusarudza kana iwe uchibvumira mwana wako kuti ave nehomwe yepfuti isarudzo yega pachedu. Asi kunyange kana iwe usingatengi zvidhori zvidhori, pane mukana wakazonaka mwana wako achizvifungidzira krayoni, tsitsi, kana chidimbu cheseriyumu ibhu saka funga kuti iwe unoda kupindura sei kufungidzira pfuti kutamba. Iwe unogona kuisa mitemo yakadai sokuti, "Usazvifungidzira kupfura vanhu."
- Mhirizhonga yemhirizhonga - Mitambo yakawanda yemavhidhiyo uye mafirimu romanticize mhirizhonga chisimba. Saka nyatsotarisisa izvo mwana wako ari kutarisa. Chengetedza kushandiswa kwemashoko emwana wako uye kuderedza kuwanda kwemhirizhonga mwana wako anonyatsoona.
- Kuchengeta pfuti - Kana iwe une pfuti, rega ivhare. Usangozvivanza panzvimbo 'yakavanzika' nokuti pane mukana wakazonaka mwana wako pakupedzisira achauwana. Uvanze mahwendefa kumapuraneti, zvisinei, uye usambosiya pfuti yako isina kutarisirwa iwe uri kutarisira kana kuichenesa.
Zvipfuti uye chisimba hazvisi nyore nyaya dzinokurukura nemwana wako, pasinei nezera rake. Somubereki, unoda kudzivirira mwana wako kubva kune zvinhu zvinotyisa zviri kunze uko munyika. Nekuchengetedza kukurukurirana kuvhura nezvepfuti, zvakadaro, ndizvo chaizvo zvauri kuita-kudzivirira mwana wako.
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