Kuita sarudzo yekurambana hakusi nyore, uye kuudza vana vako hakuiti kuti zvive nyore. Kutaura nevana vako nezvekurambana-pamwe nemumwe wako, kana zvichibvira-zvakakosha. Uye zvechokwadi haisi nyaya yekutora zvishoma.
Nzira iyo iwe unotaurirana nehurukuro uye zvinhu zvaunotaura zvichaita kuti mwana wako aone kurambana, uye izvi zvinogona kuita kuti pave nemafungiro ekuti anoshanda sei nechakushandura mumhuri yako.
Usati Wataura
Zvingava zvakaoma kupedza nguva pamwe chete nekukurumidza-kuva-iwe wawakaroorana naye; zvisinei, panguva ino, iwe vaviri munofanira kunge muchigadzira boka kuti muritsigire vana venyu. Zvakanakisisa kana iwe ukakwanisa kushanda pamwe chete kunyora hurukuro huru yekukurukurirana, saka imi mose muri peji rimwechete uye muchapa mhinduro imwechete kumibvunzo iyo ichanyatsobvunzwa.
Iyi ndiyo nguva yekubvumirana kuti musarwisana pamberi pevana, kushata-muromo mumwe nomumwe, kana kumanikidzira vana kuti vasarudze rutivi.
Kana imi mose musingagoni kutsungirira kuva panzvimbo imwe chete kuti muudze vana venyu nezvekurambana, iwe uchiri kuda kuva nehurukuro pamusoro pezvinodiwa nevana uye kuita mhiko yakafanana pamusoro pokurapa mumwe nomumwe noruremekedzo. Apo hurukuro pamusoro pokurambana inowanikwa nemubereki mumwe nomumwe, vanofanira kunge vachidzokorora zvakarehwa nemumwe mubereki.
When and Where to Talk
Ipa pfungwa dzakawanda pane nguva uye kupi kwaunofanira kunge uchitaura nevana vako.
Iwe unoda kuvapa nguva yakakwana yekubvunza mibvunzo uye kugadzirisa kusati kwachinja kuchinja, uye iwe unoda kuzviita munzvimbo yakanyarara isina zvipingamupinyi.
Zvakanaka, taura nevana vako nezvekurambana kwako kwemavhiki maviri kusvika matatu usati waparadzana iwe nemumwe wako-haudi kuti mubereki mumwe chete aende kunze mushure mokukurukurirana.
Vana vachada nguva yekugadzirisa uye kubvunza mibvunzo, saka funga kutaura navo pakutanga kwevhiki. Nenzira iyo, iwe uri pedyo kuzotaura kana vachida kurukura kurambana zvakare uye vachave nemazuva mashomanana kuti vafunge nezvazvo vasati vazodzokera kuchikoro.
Whom To Tell
Ichi chiri nyore-taurira munhu wese panguva imwe chete. Zviri kuedza kungoudza mwana akwegura uye kudzivirira mwana wemhuri; zvisinei, ipapo iwe unoisa mutoro wekuchengetedza pakavanda kune mukuru.
Kunyange kana iwe usingafungi kuti mwana muduku achanzwisisa, kuunganidza mhuri yose kamwechete nokuda kwekukurukurirana pamusoro pokurambana.
Zvokukurukura
Iyi haisi nguva kana nzvimbo yekupinda mu nitty-gritty yekuti nei uchirambana. Kutya hakusi kwepano.
Ita kuti shoko rako rinyatsojeka uye rakanaka: Takasarudza kuti hatigoni kugara pamwe chete. Iyi yakanga isiri chisarudzo chakaoma asi chakakosha kuita. Isu tose tinokuda zvikuru, zvikuru, uye chisarudzo chokuparadzanisa hachina chokuita newe .
Dzokorora kuti kurambana haisi mhosva yemunhu-kunyanya mwana wako-uye iwe uchave uri mhuri, nenzira imwe chete. Vimbisa vana vako kuti vachakuonai mose, uye mucharamba muchivada zvakangoita sezvamakamboita.
Nzira Yokubata Nayo Nokusava nechokwadi
Mwana wako angave ane mibvunzo yakawanda yausati wava kukwanisa kupindura. Zvinogona kunge zvakanyanyisa kuti upe mhinduro dzemibvunzo yakadai seyo, "Ndiri kupi?" Kana kuti "Ndinowanzogadzirisa sei dzimba?"
Bvuma apo iwe usingazivi mhinduro asi upe chivimbo. Iti, "Hatizivi kuti urongwa huri huri huri hupi. Asi tichaenda kushanda nesimba kuti tiwane chimwe chinhu chichakuitirai zvakanaka. "
Gutsikana Manzwiro Emwana Wako
Dzivisa kutaura zvinhu zvakadai, "Usazvidya mwoyo, tichava wakanaka," kana "Usachema. Tichave tiri mhuri. "Pane kudaro, gadzirisa manzwiro emwana wako . Taura zvinhu zvakadai, "Ndinoziva izvi zvinofanira kunge zvinotyisa chaizvo iye zvino," kana "Zvakanaka kusuruvara kuti hatisi kuzogara pasi pedenga rimwe chete."
Uye usashamisika kana mwana wako achiita saiye asingatarisiri kuti uri kurambana. Zvinogona kutora nguva kuti ukuru hwemamiriro acho ezvinhu kunyatsopinda mukati.
Mwana wako achange achishungurudza kuchinja kunosanganisira kurambana nenzira yake. Anogona kunge achisuruvara zuva rimwe chete nokuti hausi pamwe chete uye unofara zuva rinotevera nokuti anoziva kuti achava nemadzimai maviri. Ita kuti mwana wako azive kuti chero chii chaanofunga chiri chakanaka, kunyange zvazvo mamwe emanzwiro iwayo angave asinganzwisisi dzimwe nguva.
Inform Other Caregivers
Unogona kufunga kuudza vadzidzisi vevana vako nezvekurambana zuva risati wasarudza kusarudza kukurukura. Izvi zvinogadzirira mudzidzisi chero ipi zvayo inogona kugadzirisa kushaya tsika, iyo yaanogona kukuudza zvakare.
Zvechokwadi, bvunza mudzidzisi kuti ave akangwara nemashoko acho uye arege kutaurirana nemwana pamusoro payo, kunze kwekunge achizvikwidza ari oga. Vazhinji vadzidzisi vanozokoshesa kuziva zviri kuitika mumba.
Iwe unofanirwawo kuzivisa chero ani zvake ane vatarisi kuti iwe waputsa nhau kuvana vako. Vashandi vekuchengetedza zuva, vadzidzisi, kana vamwe vanhu vakuru vanotarisira vana venyu vanogona kubatsira kuongorora kuti nyaya idzi dzinobata sei mwana wako kune dzimwe nzvimbo.
Tsvaga Rubatsiro Rwenyanzvi Paunenge Uchifanira
Kurambana kunogona kutora kurasikirwa kwepfungwa pamusoro pevana . Iva wakatarisa chero zviratidzo zvekuti vana vako havagadziri zvakanaka. Zviratidzo izvi zvinogona kusanganisira:
- Vachikoro vepachikoro - kushushikana, kuvhiringidzika kana kutsika shure kumashure, pakukwira pakati peusiku kana kuva nezviitiko.
- Elementary school children - kutya, kutsamwa kana kushungurudzika, matambudziko emararamiro akawedzerwa , uye kuderera kukuru kuchikoro.
- Vechidiki - hutsinye uye hutsinye hwekuita, kubvisa, kusaita zvepabonde zvisina kukodzera , kushandiswa kwemishonga, uye kushanda zvakanaka kwechikoro.
Kana mwana wako ari kutambura kuti agadzirise kuchinja, tsvaka rubatsiro rwezvenyanzvi . Taura nechiremba wemwana wako kana kuti taura nevanodzidza nezvehutano hwepfungwa.
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