Rimwe Rutivi Runoswedera Pedyo Nevadzidzisi
Vose vanasekuru nababa vasati vasikwa vakaenzana. Zvose zvesayenzi uye kuongorora kwehutano hunoratidza kuti kazhinji vanasekuru navanamai vakaberekwa vari pedyo nevanzukuru kupfuura vanasekuru vebaba. Nzvimbo inowanzogara inofanana neiyi, kubva pedyo nekuswedera pedyo pedyo: mbuya mbuya, mbuya mbuya, mbuya baba, baba vebaba. Kusiyanisa, hongu, zvinoitika.
Zvikonzero Zvokusiyana
Vamwe vanofunga kuti mutsauko uyu unokonzerwa nebasa revabereki sevatariri vemagedhi pakati pekuru nasekuru nevabereki. Pasinei nekukwikwidza kwehutano hwevakadzi, vanaamai vanogona kutungamirira mabasa avo emwana. Vanogona kupa kukosha zvakanyanya kuonana nevabereki vavo.
Vamwe vanofunga kuti ukama pakati pemukadzi naamai vomwene wake-mbuya-mbuya vevana vavo-nguva dzose ichava yakaoma. Zvinhu, zvekutaura, zvemurume akachengetwa, zvakapfuura kubva kuna amai kuenda kumudzimai. Chimwe che godo nekukwikwidzana ndechezvisikwa. Kunyange zvakadaro, inogona kumira nenzira yeukama hwepedyo, iyo inogonawo, inogonawo, kumire munzira yehukama pakati pekuru nababa uye muzukuru. Zvichida vanaamai varoora vanowanzoshorwa zvisina kukodzera, asi dzimwe nharo dzinovakwa muhururo.
Masayendisiti anopa tsanangudzo yakasiyana, shanduko yekushanduka-shanduka, iyo vamwe vanocherechedza vanotora.
Tsanangudzo yesayenzi inotaura kuti vanaamai vanogara vachiziva kuti ivo vabereki vevana vavo, asi pane kunge vasina chokwadi mumafungiro ababa. Pamberi kwezera rekuongorora DNA, baba vainge vaine nzira dzakawanda dzekuratidza kuti mwana wacho aiti iye ndiye akatakura majini ake. Izvozvo zvinowira kaviri zvokwadi kuti tateguru achishamisika kana muzukuru wake ndiye chaizvoizvo muzukuru wake.
Saka mbuya vanamai vanonyatsoziva nevanenge vane 100% chechokwadi kuti muzukuru wavo ane chimiro chakafanana naye. Imbuya sekuru kana amai vambuya vane hafu yezvakanaka izvozvi, uye sekuru vebaba havana chokwadi zvachose.
Ichokwadi kuti zvimwe zvakawanda zvinokonzera kuswedera kwehukama. Kufambidzana kwenharaunda kunokosha, kunyange vanasekuru navanambuya vanogona kukurira kure. Nzvimbo yebasa rekurukuru, hutano, hupfumi, uye unhu hunogonawo kuva zvinhu zvine simba. Rimwe shanduko nhamba yevana vazukuru vanasekuru vane. Imbuya nevana vakawanda vanogona kuwana zvakaoma kushandisa nguva yakanaka uye kushamwaridzana nemumwe nomumwe.
Kubvumirana Kwokutanga
Zvinotarisirwa kuti vanasekuru navanamai vanoberekwa vatanga, uye mbuya vanamai vanogona kunge vakakokwa kupinda muimba yekutakura . Saizvozvowo, mbuya vanamai ndivo vanogona kubatsira shure kwekuberekwa kwechecheche, kutungamira kushamwaridzana kwekutanga nezukuru. Vanasekuru vazukuru vanobatana nekutanga nemzukuru vanowanzobvunzwa kuti vawane vana vanozozotevera uye vanowanzoita basa rekuchikoro apo muzukuru anotanga kuchikoro.
Vechiduku nekurukurukuru
Dzidzo nevechiri kuyaruka inoratidza kuti kubatsirwa kwaamai vanamai vanoita kuti vasaparadzana nenguva.
Zvidzidzo zvevabereki vanoyaruka zvinonyanya kukosha, nokuti vechidiki vanogona kunge vakwegura zvakakwana kuti vatange kusangana na vanasekuru navanasekuru vari voga, uye nokuti vakwegura zvakakwana kuti vawane zvikwaniso zvehukama pamusoro pehukama.
Mune rumwe ruzivo rwevechidiki vechiBritish, 9 pavatatu vakati amai vavo vamai ndivo vaiva vakakosha nhengo yemhuri kunze kwemhuri yavo yepedyo. Amai vababa vavo vainge vachitevera. Kuvhara kwakasimbiswa, maererano nevechiri kuyaruka, nokubatanidzwa muhupenyu hwavo hwechikoro. Mukuwedzera, vana vasere kubva pa10 vanoti amai vavo vamadzimai vakurukura ramangwana ravo navo uye vakapa vechidiki mazano akanaka.
( Avon Longitudinal Kudzidza Kwevabereki nevana, Yunivhesiti yeBristol, 2007)
Apo Going Inowana Tough
Basa revanasekuru navanamai navanaamai vanowanzosiyana-siyana kana vabereki vezukuru vavo vachirambana. Pasinei nekufambira mberi muhutano hwehutano, inenge imwe chete mumasere matanhatu inobata kuchengetedzwa kwekutanga mushure mekurambana . Apo amai vanowirirana kuchengetedzwa, vanasekuru navanamai vanowanzopindira kuti vazadze zvikanganiso mukubereki uye kupa hukama kumhuri. Mukugadzirisa, vanowanzova pedyo nevana vavo. Izvi zvinogonawo kuitika nababambuya vanasekuru kana baba vachichengetwa, asi iyo ndiyo imwe nguva inenge isingawanzoitiki.
Apo amai vanowirirana kuchengetedza mushure mekurambana, vanasekuru navanasekuru vanowanzoona vazukuru vavo vashoma. Vanogona, kunyange zvakadaro, vanoita basa rinokosha pakufambidzana pakati pevana nevana vemhuri dzavo.
Multigenerational Living
Zvinotarisirwa kune vanasekuru navanamai vasiri amai hazvisi zvakajeka kana zvichitaura nezvehupenyu huzhinji. Kana vechidiki vachigovana mhuri nevabereki vavo, tsika dzechiitiko dzinogona kuziva kana dzichaenda nevanasekuru navanamai kana baba vavo. Zvechokwadi, zvimwe zvinhu zvakadai senzvimbo uye zvehupfumi zvinogona kudarika tsika dzetsika.
Mumhuri dzeIndia, dzeBangladesh uye dzePakistan, vabereki vaduku vanotarisirwa kugara nemasekuru nasekuru. Mumitauro yeCaribbean, vangave vanotarisirwa kugara nemasekuru navanamai.
Kazhinji, mavara machena, akasiyana-siyana, mhuri dzevanhu vemauto neCaribbean vane mikana yekurarama navanasekuru navanamai. Mune kumwe kuongororwa kwevechidiki vechiBritish, 74% vakataura kuti havazofungi kana mbuya vavo vamwana vaigara navo, asi 54% vakataura zvakafanana naamai vavo vebaba. ( Kukwegura uye Society )
In Summary
Hazvina maturo kutaura, kushanda kunoitwa naasekurukuru nguva dzose kuchava chinhu chakanyanya kukosha kuti kana vanasekuru navezukuru vane ukama hwepedyo. Vanasekuru navanasekuru vanoda kuve muhupenyu hwevana vazukuru vavo uye asi avo vanogona kuremekedza mabasa evabereki vane mukana wekubudirira. Uye izvi ndezvechokwadi pasinei nenzvimbo yavo pamhuri.