Kuwana munhu anodheerera kunogona kukutorera iwe kuzviremekedza kwako
Kana iwe wakafanana nevechiri kuyaruka, iwe ungasaziva kuti kufanana nekuyaruka kwevechidiki zvekuyaruka ndeyechokwadi. Iwe unogona kutenda kuti zvinongoitika kune mumwe munhu mune chikoro chiri kure kubva kwaunogara. Iwe unogonawo kufunga kuti vasikana havagoni kutambudza, kuti ndivo vakomana bedzi, kana kuti kushungurudzwa kwepanyama ndiko chete kunobatsira. Ichokwadi ndechokuti kushungurudzwa kwevechidiki kuyaruka kunoitika kwose kwose, kunyange kuchikoro chako.
Nhamba dzinoti 23 muzana yevasikana vechidiki uye 14 muzana yevakomana vakawana chisimba chekufambidzana vasati vava nemakore gumi nemasere ekuberekwa kwavo. Munguva iyi, mumwe wevadzidzi vekusekondari 10 ave achida kurohwa, kurohwa, kana kukuvara mumuviri kana mukomana kana musikana. Zvinokonzera ndezvokuti zvinogona kuitika kwauri kana shamwari yako.
Nhanho yekutanga mukudzivirira kudanana kushamwaridzana mukati mehupenyu hwako kuve nekuziva zviratidzo zvekunyepedzera zvekushungurudzika mupfungwa. Kana imwe yako inokosha ichiita kunyange chimwe chezvinhu izvi, unofunga kufunga zvakanyanya nezvekubuda muhukama.
Kuremekedza Iwe
Kana shamwari yako yepedyo inoseka pamusoro pako uye inokushevedza mazita asina kuremekedza, uri muukama nevanodheerera uye anonyomba. Zvimwe kusaremekedza maitiro ekudzvinyirira kutarisa kunze zvinosanganisira:
- Kukutsoropodza uye kuderedza pfungwa dzako
- Kukuudza iwe unofanira kunzwa sei pane kugamuchira manzwiro ako echokwadi
- Kukupomera kuti uri kunyanyisa kana kunzwa kana iwe uchiedza kukurukura maitiro akaipa
Mabasa Superior uye Nheyo
Vanyengeri vanotaura kune vamwe uye vari kuzvideredza uye vasinganyengeri. Unogona kumunzwa achitaura kuti maonero ako (uye pfungwa dzevamwe) ibenzi kana kuti hazvina musoro.
Nenzira yakawanda, vanodheerera uye vanodheerera vanotaura kuti iwe kana vamwe kune vakaderera mune imwe nzira. Zvimwe chete, zviito izvi chikamu chegadziriro yekuchengetedza simba uye kutonga pamusoro pako kana vamwe.
Kutendeseka pamusoro pekusagadziriswa
Maitiro ekugumisa ndeyepfungwa uye / kana muviri wekuedza kusimbisa nekuchengetedza simba uye kutonga pamusoro pako. Shamwari yako yepedyo inogona:
- Iva kutyisidzira muviri nemitambo yakafanana nekurova masvingo, kushatisa zvipfuwo zvako, kana kukanda fesheni kumativi ose
- Kuratidzira kushungurudzwa kwepfungwa nekutyisidzira kukunyadzisa iwe nekuzarura ruzivo rwomunhu oga
- Shandisa mazwi anoita kuti iwe unzwe usina kukodzera iwe unofunga kuti hauna kukodzera kurapwa kwakanakisisa
Haina Kunzwira tsitsi
Kunzwira tsitsi ndiko kusava nehanya kwekunzwa kwevamwe vanhu uye unhu hunoita kuti vanhu vanotambudza vanowanzoshaikwa. Havana kuratidza mafungiro echokwadi kana kufungira vamwe vanhu. Somuenzaniso, vanogona kuratidzira manzwiro, asi ivo havana kunyatsovimbika pamusoro pavo. Pane kudaro, zvinoratidzika sokunge vari kuisa chiito chezvinhu zvinogamuchirwa mumamiriro akapiwa. Vanotadzawo kuregererwa kwechokwadi kune chakaipa chipi nechipi.
Kurwisana Nemhanje uye Kushuva
Chiratidziro chegodo negodo ndeche mutsvuku. Inowanzovawo chimwe chezvinhu zvekutanga zvauchaona. Usakanganise godo nekuda kwe rudo.
Izvi zvinotyisa zvinotungamirira kutonga nyaya uye zvinomiririra kutya kwekutsamwa kwekurasika hukama. Kana shamwari yako yepedyo ine godo zvikuru, inguva yekufamba mberi zvinhu zvisati zvawedzera.
Inoita Zvinoda Kubatsira
Vanhu vanodzvinyirira kazhinji havanzwisisiki kune vamwe, kunyanya avo vanofunga kuti vaduku kupfuura ivo, sevashandi kana vamwe vashandi vebasa. Pakupedzisira, mumwe wako achaisa zvido zvisina musoro kwauri, zvakare. Somuenzaniso, mumwe wako anogona:
- Unoda kuti upedze nguva yako yose pamwechete
- Edza kudzora zvaunopfeka
- Anokupomera kuti hauna kuzvipira kune hukama kana iwe usingaiti zvaanoda kana kutevera mitemo yake
Ostracizes uye Isolates Iwe
Kuvhiringidzika uye kushungurudzwa zvose zvine chokuita nekutonga. Izvi zvinotyisa zvinotarisirwa uye zvinokanganisa chero munhu asingaiti chikoro.
Sezvavanodzorera kushungurudzwa kwavo pamusoro pako, vangaedza kuedza kutora hupenyu hwako ne:
- Kutora foni yako kuti uongorore magwaro ako, kudana magogo, uye mazwi evoicemail
- Kushora shamwari dzako nemhuri yako
- Kukuchengetedza kuti upedze nguva yako yose pamwe navo uye kutsamwa kune dzimwe shamwari dzako
Izwi rinoshora vamwe
Vanyengeri uye vanonyomba vanowanzonyadzisa vanhu pamberi pevamwe. Chinangwa chavo ndechokuita kuti mumwe munhu achinzwa sediki uye asina chaanobatsira apo achinyengera simba ravo mumamiriro ezvinhu. Kana mukomana wako kana musikana wako achiwanzoita mukudanwa mazita , inguva yekubuda muukama.
Shoko Rinobva Kunyanya
Yeuka, kushungurudzwa kwemarudzi ose hausi chikamu cheukama hwakanaka. Uyezve, kudzvinyirira kwomumwe wako uye kukanganisa hakusi mhosva yako. Aya maitiro asina kukodzera ndiwo anosarudzwa nevanovhiringidza uye munhu iyeye oga ndiye ane basa rekuita.
Kana iwe uchifunga kuti mudiwa wako angave achikudzvinyirira iwe, tsvaga kunze kwekutsigirwa uye tarisa zvingasarudzwa kuti ungagumisa sei ukama. Taura nevabereki vako kana mumwe munhu mukuru waunovimba uye tora matanho usati watumidza iyo inopera. Iyi ndiyo nguva imwechete apo kuputsa kuburikidza nemutauro wepakombiyuta kana mukurumbira kwakakodzera. Kushandisa utsinye kunowedzera kana hukama huri kuda kupera. Iva nechokwadi chokuti iwe ugare wakachengeteka paunoita kupedzisa kwekupedzisira.
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