Chii Chinodiwa Kuti Uvandudze Ukama?
Nhamba dzakaoma dzakaoma kusvika, asi vazhinji vevashanda nemhuri vanoti vanoona chikwata chepamusoro: Vechiduku vakawanda kupfuura kare vanocheka kushamwaridzana nevabereki vavo. Kuna vanasekuru navanasekuru, izvo zvinowanzoreva kurashikirwa nekukurukura nevana vavo pamwe chete.
Mashoko akanaka ndeokuti vazhinji vana vakuru vanoti vanoda kudzorera vabereki vavo muupenyu hwavo.
Vanenge makumi matanhatu kubva kune makumi mashanu veavo vakazadza tsvakurudzo pamusoro peIndranged Stories website vakati vanoda kuda kuva neukama nemunhu wavanoparadzaniswa naye "iye zvino kana imwe nguva munguva yemberi."
Kuita Kuyananisa
Paakabvunzwa kuti chii chaizotora kuunza kuyananiswa, mhinduro yakakurumbira ndeyokuti vabereki vanofanira kutora mutoro. Zvichida izvi zvinoreva kusungirwa kwezvakaitwa nevabereki izvo zvakakonzera kusangana. Dambudziko nderokuti vabereki vazhinji vanoti vari murima pamusoro pezvakakanganisika. Pakati pevabereki vari kuita nhaurirano yeStranged Stories, 60% vakati vana vavo vakanga vasati "vagovana zvakananga" zvikonzero zvavo zvekuvhara shamwari.
Generational Differences
Zvinokonzera kukakavadzana nevana vakuru zvinogona kusiyana zvakasiyana. Dzimwe nguva vana vakuru vanowana mhosva pamusana pezvavakakurira. Vangave vasingazivi kuti vangave vakakurira apo kuberekwa kwechiremera kwaive kuchiri nzira inogamuchirwa yekurera vana.
Kunyange zvazvo kuberekwa kwevabereki kwakatanga kuwedzerwa kubvumira mushure meHondo Yenyika II, zvakatora makore mazhinji kuti shanduko iyi iite, kunyanya muAmerica. Kupfuura anenge zana remakore rechimakumi maviri, vabereki vakashandisa kushandisa chirango. Zvechokwadi, vakaudzwa kuti kana vasina kushandisa chirango chechirwere, vaiva vabereki vakaipa.
Kunyange vatungamiriri vechitendero vakakurudzira chirango chenyama. Zvimwe vanhu vangafunga kuti zvinoshungurudza nhasi zvakapfuura nokuda kwekuberekera kwakanaka kwenguva yakareba kwete kare kare.
Saizvozvowo, vana vakwegura dzimwe nguva vanonzwa sokuti vakanga vasina kukurudzirwa sezvavaifanira kunge vari. Mumhuri dzakawanda dzekare, zvisinei, rudo rwaisawanzoshandurwa nemashoko kana mumuviri. Icho chikonzero chaicho ndechokuti vabereki vakaratidzira rudo rwavo kuvana vavo nekuvatarisira. Hapana ainetseka zvikuru pamusoro pepfungwa yengwana kana kuzvikudza.
Mamwe Matambudziko
Vana vechikuru dzimwe nguva vanoramba vachidemba pamusoro pevabereki vavo 'vakaputsa muchato, kazhinji vanopomera mumwe wako kana mumwe. Imwe dambudziko rinowanzoitika ndeyekuti vana vakuru vanofunga kuti vabereki vavo havazvizivi sevanhu vakuru vane mano ekuzvisarudzira ivo pachavo. Mune dzimwe nguva, mukomana wemwana ndiye kupesana. Vabereki vangave vasingadi kana kuvabvumira mumwe wavo. Kusada kwavo kunoita kuti mwana asarudze pakati pevabereki pamwe naye.
Usazvidzivirira
Zvinogona kuve zvakadaro kuti vabereki vatsanangurire zvimwe zvezviito zvavo zvekare; zvisinei, kuzvidzivirira hakuna kukonzera. Kana vabereki vakaratidza kuti zvavakaita zvakanga zvakarurama kana kuti zvinogamuchirwa, zvino zvinotevera kuti mamwe mapoka akanga asina kunaka mukuita kwavo, uye kuratidza kuti munhu akanganisa haigoni kugadzirisa chero masvingo.
Zvinotaurwa nevana vakuru kuti vanoda kuziva vabereki vavo kutora mutoro uye, mune dzimwe nguva, kukumbira ruregerero. Heano mamwe mitsara inofanira kushanda:
- Ndine hurombo.
- Ndinonzwisisa manzwiro ako.
- Ndinoziva kuti ndakaita zvikanganiso.
- Ndingave ndakanyatsotsigira (kubatsira, kunzwisisa, rudo, nezvimwewo).
Usaita Chikumbiro Chokunzwa
Vabereki vanowanzoda kutaura pamusoro pekurwadziwa kukuru kwekusangana kwavakakonzera. Vana vaduku avo vakatora chirevo chairo chekugadzirisa kushamwaridzana havazogunzwi nekurwadziwa kwevabereki vavo. Vangangodaro vasina kunyanya kusunungurwa nehanzvadzi nasekuru nanasekuru pamusoro pokusaona vazukuru.
Ramba Uchikurukurirana
Zvinogona kutora kudarika imwechete kubva kumubereki mwana asati abvumirana kushanda kune kuyananiswa, asi zvipfeko hazvifaniri kunzwa sekunetswa. Zvose zvinotarisirwa ndezvokuti zvinoratidzika kuti zvive pamwe chete kune imwe nguva yakanyanya kunetseka yakadai sekudya kwemanheru kunze kana kubuda. Kana iyo yepamusoro yakarambwa, vabereki vanofanira kumirira kwechinguva ndokuedza zvakare.
Kana Kuyanana Kukundikana
Kana kuedza kudzorera ukama hwakakundikana, vanasekuru navanasekuru vari mumasangano chaiwo. Vanosiya tariro ipi yekuona vazukuru vavo here?
Dzimwe nguva kupindirana inzira inotevera. Kana kupikisana kuchikundikana, kana kuti mamwe mapato asingadi, vamwe vanasekuru navanasekuru vachatora mvumo yepamutemo, asi pane zvakawanda izvo vanasekuru navanasekuru vanofanirwa kuziva pamberi pekutsvaka kodzero yekushanyira. Mukuwedzera, kana vazukuru vachigara mumhuri yakagadzikana, vanasekuru navanasekuru havakwanisi kukunda kushanyira mumatare.
Iwe unogonawo kudzidza nezvenguva yevana vakuru 'kurambana' vabereki vavo.