Sekurukurukuru Vanofanira Kutarisira Matambudziko Nekutarisira
Inhamo kuna vanasekuru nanasekuru kana vachirambidzwa kusangana nevana vazukuru. Zvinogona kuvhiringidzika kune vazukuru, zvakare. Kunyangwe kusungira kodzero dzekushanyira ndezvekwanisika, kudzivisa kukakavadzana kwemhuri kwakadaro kunonyanya kudiwa.
Kuita-Kuparadzanisa Maitiro nekurukuru
Dzimwe nguva vabereki vane kodzero yekuramba vanasekuru navanin'ina vachikurukura nevana vazukuru.
Vanhu vanoita zvepabonde vanoita zvepabonde, vanodhakwa kana kuti zvinodhaka vanowanzochenesa mabasa avo nekuda kwekuti vanova vanasekuru navanambuya, uye vabereki vane mhosva yekusava nevana vavo vakavapoteredza.
Vabereki vanonzi vakarurama mukuramba kusangana nababete nanasekuru vanopesana nemitemo yevabereki nezvekuchengeteka. Vanasekuru navanambuya vanotakura vazukuru vasingashandisi mamiriro ekudzivirira motokari kwakakodzera havafaniri kubvumidzwa kutyaira vazukuru chero kupi zvako. Izvo zvinoenda kune chero humwe humwe hutano hwekuchengetedza hwakasimbiswa nevabereki, kana vanasekuru navanasekuru vanobvumirana naro kana kwete. Kana kukanganisa kusanyanya kukura, vabereki vanogona kufunga kubvumira vanasekuru navanasekuru kuti vaone vazukuru, asi chete pasi pekutongwa.
Zvimwe zviito naambuya navanasekuru zvinogona kuita kuti mhirizhonga yemhuri iite nyore kusanganisira zvinotevera:
- Kuderedza simba revabereki kana kukurudzira vana kusateerera vabereki
- Kutaura zvakaipa kune dzimwe nhengo dzemhuri, dzakadai sevabereki, vanababa kana vamwe vanasekuru nanasekuru
- Kuramba kutevera mitemo yevabereki yevana pamusoro pekudya, firimu yeTV, nguva dzekurara nezvimwe zvakadaro
- Kupa vazukuru zvipo izvo vabereki vasingadi kubvuma
- Kunyanya kuvhiringidza vabereki kuti vawedzere kufambidzana, zvakadai sekushanya kweusiku, vabereki pavanenge vasingadi.
Mhuri dzinokwanisa kukwanisa kugadzirisa nyaya idzi dzisinganyanyi kuderedza pasina kubvisa kushamwaridzana pakati pekuru nasekuru nevanzukuru, asi zvakanakisisa kutengesa ndeyokudzivisa tsika dzakadaro pakutanga.
Zvinotyisa kuNowanikwa
Kuita zvisina kunaka nevabereki nembuya, kutarisira komutemo ndechokuti vanasekuru navanasekuru vanokwanisa kuwana vazukuru vavo kuburikidza nomubereki ari mwana wavo. Izvi zvinotarisirwa kuva vechokwadi zvose mumhuri dzakasimba uye mumamiriro ezvinhu apo vabereki havachisiri pamwe chete. Dzimwe nguva, kunyange zvakadaro, mubereki anoshumira sekuru sekuru nhengo dzevana vanorasikirwa neshamwari navo zvakare. Izvi zvinogona kuitika nokuda kwezvikonzero zvakawanda, zvakanyanya kuparadza, zvechokwadi, kuva rufu rwemubereki. Zvimwe zvinetso zvinonetsa zvinosanganisira:
- Vabereki havana kuroorwa, uye baba havana kuwana kodzero dzevabereki.
- Mubereki akasiya kodzero dzevabereki vake.
- Mubereki ari mujeri.
- Mubereki anorega kuona mwana nemhaka yekushandisa zvinodhaka, kubatwa kwepabonde kana chimwe chinhu chakafanana.
- Mubereki ane musungwa anoendesa kure kure nekurukuru nasekuru.
- Mubereki uyo aiwanzopa ruzivo kuvana vazukuru vanoenda kure kure.
Chimwe chiitiko chinowanzoita kuti vanasekuru navanasekuru vaparadzwe kubva kuvabereki vavo ndevaya vabereki pavanoshungurudza zvinhu. Vabereki vari vashandisi zvakasununguka vanoda kuchengeta tsika dzavo zvakavanzika. Chimwe chimiro ndechekuti ivo pakutanga vanoshandisa vanasekuru nanasekuru sevana, vachibvumira vabereki rusununguko rwekudzidzira tsika dzavo.
Kana vanasekuru naambuya vachibatanidza pane zviri kuitika, kana kuvhiringidza kwevabereki kunowedzera zvakanyanya zvokuti zvakaoma kuvanza, vabereki vanowanzoputsa na vanasekuru navanasekuru, kuti vasave nekwanisi yekuona. Kuparara kwemhuri kwakadaro kunogona kunge kwakaipa chaizvoizvo uye kunogona kuisa vanasekuru navanambuya munzvimbo isingazivikanwi yekuzvimirira kodzero yekushanyira.
Mamwe Mhuri Makakatanwa
Zvimwe zvinopesana zvinokonzera kukanganisa zvinogona kutungamirira kumhuri kusangana. Maererano nenyanzvi yemapfungwa Marsha L. Shelov, mamiriro matatu anogona kukonzera kukakavadzana pakati pevabereki nekuru nanasekuru:
- Vabereki uye vanasekuru navanasekuru vanopesana pamusoro pezvinhu zvakadai sechitendero.
- Kune hukama hunopesana pakati pekuru nanasekuru uye mubereki; Amai vamwene nemwanasikana wemwanasikana vanopesana zvinowanzoitika.
- Vabereki vekare-vana kukakavadzana "kunoyerera kusvika kuchizvarwa chinotevera."
Iyi ndeye nyaya dzinogona kukonzera kukakavadzana kwemhuri zvakakomba asi izvo zvinogona kuregererwa kana vanasekuru navanasekuru vachiwedzera kuyananisa uye kugadzirisa. Sezvo zvakaoma sezvinogona kuva kuna vanasekuru navanasekuru vanofunga kuti ivo vari kurudyi, kuva nekupa zvishoma zvingasarudzwa kudarika kusangana nevana vazukuru. Kupa mazano kwemhuri kunogona kubatsira pakubata kukakavara kunonyanya kunetsa, kunyanya kana kuchibatanidza kusagadziriswa kwevabereki nemwana kukakavadzana.
Dzimwe nharo dzemhuri dzinokanganisa mari. Vanasekuru navanasekuru vanopa mari kuvana vavo dzimwe nguva vanovhundutsa kuti vabvise rubatsiro rwezvemari kunze kwekuti zvimwe zviitiko zvikaitika. Vanasekuru navanasekuru vanosarudza kupa rubatsiro rwemari vanofanira kuzvipa vakasununguka uye kurega kushandisa mari senzira yekudzivirira. Kusiyana nemutemo uyu, hongu, ndeye apo vanasekuru navanasekuru vanobvumirana kubhadhara chikoro chega, kojiji, kana kuti zvidzidzo zvakakosha kana kudzidzisa kwevana vavana vavo. Mune mamiriro ezvinhu aya, vane kodzero yekuda kuti michero yavo ishandiswe seyakasarudzwa.
Kune rumwe rutivi, vabereki vanogona kushandisa kushamwaridzana nevazukuru nenzira imwecheteyo, nekutyisidzira kusaregera mazano kunze kwekuda kwekuita mari. Vabereki avo vakagamuchira zvikwereti kubva kuna vanasekuru navanasekuru vanogona kubvisa shamwari kuti vaderedze kushanda kubhadhara zvikwereti. Chero kutengeserana kwemari pakati pezvizvarwa kunofanira kuonekwa neziso kumakakatanwa anokwanisa kubudiswa.
Kurarama Kwemunhu Kurwisana kana Matambudziko Epfungwa?
Vabereki vaviri uye vanasekuru navanasekuru vanobatanidzwa mukukakavadzana dzimwe nguva vanotsanangura mamwe mapato sekupfungwa kwepfungwa. Mhosva dzinowanzoitwa ndeyekuti mumwewo mutori ndiye munyengeri, ane bipolar kana anotambura narcissistic personality disorder. Mhosva dzakadaro dzinowanzoonekwa mumashoko akanyorwa paIndaneti kune avo vanobatanidzwa mumakakatanwa emhuri. Dzimwe nguva vanhu vari mubvunzo vave vakaonekwa kuti vane chirwere, uye dzimwe nguva mumwe munhu ari kutamba nezvechirwere chepfungwa chinonyadzisa. Kana mubereki kana vanasekuru vanopinda mukukakavadzana vachirwara mupfungwa, basa rose rinofanira kuitwa kuti riwane rubatsiro. Kune rumwe rutivi, kutarisana nemhosva dzakadaro kune mumwe munhu nekuda kwekusawirirana kurichera uye kunogona kupesana-kubereka. Zvakanaka zvikuru kuisa pfungwa pakugadzirisa kukakavara.
Kuvhara Mitsara
Dambudziko rinowanzovapo pakati pezvizvarwa rinokonzerwa nekuru nasekuru vanoremekedza miganhu. Mhando iyi yekudarika inogona kutora maitiro ekuputsa miganhu yemuviri, yakadai sokuderera mukati memhuri uye kupinda pasina kugogodza. Apo miganhu iri kuparadzaniswa ndiyo miganhu pakati pemubereki nekurera vana, kuputsa kwakanyanya kuoma.
Izvi zvinowanzoonekwa apo vabereki vaduku vanoda rubatsiro uye vanasekuru navanasekuru vanofunga mabasa ekurera vana. Dzimwe nguva vanasekuru navanasekuru vanofunga kuchengetedzwa. Zvimwe zvinowanzoita kuti vatarise vana uye kazhinji rubatsiro rwemari. Kana vabereki vakaita chisarudzo chekudzikinura kodzero dzavo dzekurera, vanasekuru navanasekuru vane dzimwe nguva vane dambudziko rekuvasiya. Kazhinji chikonzero chacho ndechekuti vanasekuru navanasekuru avo vave vari pedyo zvikuru nevana vavo vanobviswa kubva kwavari nevabereki vane shungu dzokudzorera vana vavo. Vanasekuru navanambuya vakachenjera vanozvidzivirira nekukumbira kushivirira kwevabereki pavanoita shanduko nekudzorera mukana wekunakidzwa nevana vavo sekuru nanasekuru pane kuti vatakure mitoro yakawanda yebasa revabereki.