Ndiko kwandakaita pakati pekuita zvepabonde here?
Kuita zvepabonde, kana kushandiswa maererano nevana nevana, kazhinji kunoreva nzira yekusimudzira hutano hwomunhu. Kuita zvepabonde hakusi utano hwakanaka hwepabonde .
Maererano neAmerican Psychological Association (APA), kuita zvepabonde kunogona kuratidza mumarudzi mana:
- Kana munhu akafanirwa kufungidzirwa kuti anobva chete kumurume wake.
- Apo mwana anotarisirwa kana anokurudzirwa kuita kana kupfeka zvepabonde.
- Kana munhu achibatwa sechinhu chepabonde kwete pane munhu wose.
- Apo maitiro chaiwo anoonekwa sechiratidzo chega chekuita zvepabonde.
Vose vakadzi nevanhurume vanogona kunge vakaitirwa zvepabonde.
Izwi rokuti "zvekuita zvepabonde" rinoshandiswawo kureva kurudzi rwepfungwa yekuzvidzivirira maitiro umo vanhu vanoshandisa hupombwe senzira yekugadzirisa kushushikana kwavo.
Muchimiro chedu, uye kunyanya nekuda kwechimiro chepop uye mamwe mhando dzevhidhiyo, zvinogona kuita sezvisingabviri kudzivisa kushandisa pfungwa iyo iwe unofanidza zvepabonde uye iwe pachako. Kutengeserana kunoshanda pasi peshoko rokuti "zvepabonde zvinotengesa." Magazini anobvisa mazano ezvepabonde sezvinonzi lollipops, uye misoro yakawanda inokurudzira nyaya dzinopikira kukuita kuti utarise zvakasimba, kemikiruru, sexier. Bhizimisi rose rezvemabhizimisi pamusoro pekudzivirirwa kwekuti vatengi vavo vanotarisa vachawana vachida kugadzirisa.
Uye ose aya aya mashoko anoparidzwa pane terevhizheni uye mumafirimu.
Zvinoratidzika kusingakwanisi kudzivisa kushandisa pfungwa iyi , kunyange zvisingazivi.
Ndingazvidzivirira Sei Nenharaunda Yangu kubva pabonde?
Iwe unogona kudzivisa kutenga mune zvekuita zvepabonde zvetiens kunyanya nekudzivirira zvose zvemashoko ehupi.
Iwe unogonawo kudzivisa hutano hwepakati pako nekuvabatsira kudzidza nezvehutano hwehutano hwakanaka pazera remakore, uye nokuvadzidzisa kuti ivo vakaita zvakanyanya kudarika maitiro avo, uye zvakanyanya kudarika zvavanoita zvepabonde kana t akabatanidzwa.
Zvechokwadi, pakutanga iwe unotanga kudzidzisa mwana wako nezvehutano hwehutano hwakanaka , zviri nani pfungwa yavo yekuzvidzivirira ichava, uye inowedzera kuvimba kwavo nekuzviremekedza kuchave. Vachavewo vakanyanya kuita sarudzo dzakanaka pamusoro pepabonde, kana kuita zvepabonde kana nguva yasvika. Vachavawo vakakwanisa kuzvidzivirira pachavo kune vanoita zvepabonde.
Isu tiri vanhukadzi zvepabonde kubva panguva yatinozvarwa. Tanga kudzidzisa mwana wako iwe pachako kuitira kuti vaite zvisarudzo zvakanaka mangwana.
Kunobva:
American Psychological Association. Kuita zvepabonde zvevasikana: Executive Summary. http://www.apa.org/pi/women/programs/girls/report.aspx?item=2