Baba-mwanakomana hukama hunogona kuoma. Vanababa nevana vane zvinetso zvakasiyana zvakasiyana vanogona kuwana zvakaoma kuratirana kune mumwe. Dzimwe nguva vana navana vanonzwa vachikwikwidzana. Dzimwe nguva varume vavo vane tsika dzisingatauri manzwiro anowedzera sezvo vose vari kuda baba vakanaka-mwanakomana hukama asi hapana anoziva kuti ungaita sei pamusoro pazvo.
Sezvo ndakatarisa ukama hangu nevanakomana vangu, ndaifunga nezvehukama hwangu nababa vangu, uye ndakaona madzibaba mazhinji nevanakomana vakawanda vachibatanirana pamwe chete nemakore, ndakaona zvimwe zvinhu zvinokosha pakusika uye kuvaka simba baba-mwanakomana ukama .
Kuvaka Ukama Hwakasimba neMwanakomana Wako
1. Cherechedza kuti vanakomana vanofurirwa nemadzibaba avo. Pasinei nokuti tinozviziva kana kwete, vanakomana vedu vanodzidza nezvekuva munhu kunyanya kuburikidza nekuona madzibaba avo. Kufurirwa kwababa pamusoro pekuvandudza kwomwanakomana wake kazhinji hakuoneki asi zvisinei. Sezvo jaya rinotarisa baba vake vachibatana naamai vake, anodzidza nezvekuremekedza (kana kusaremekedza), pamusoro pekuti varume nevakadzi vanobatana sei uye kuti varume vanofanira kubata sei nekupesana nekusiyana. Sezvaanotarisa baba vake vachitaurirana nevamwe varume, iye achadzidza kuti varume vanotaura sei, kuti vanobatana sei pamwe chete uye kuti vanoita sei nevanhurume.
Kunzwisisa kuti baba vane simba kumwanakomana wavo hazvina kufananidzwa kunobatsira baba kufungisisa zvakanyanya nezveukama hwake nemwanakomana wake uye kutora ukama ihwohwo zvakanyanya.
2. Ita zvinhu zvinowanzodiwa. Ichi chidzidzo chandakadzidza kubva kuna baba vangu. Baba vangu vaiva mukuru wekuchengetedza mutemo panguva yekukura kwangu kwemakore uye akashanda mabasa akawanda ekuchinja.
Baba vaiva murume wemurume munzira dzakawanda. Akaita mitambo yakawanda uye akafara nguva neshamwari dzake (izvo zvishoma zvaaiva nazvo kunze kwebasa). Ndakanga ndava mubhuku remabhuku, ndakanga ndisingazivikanwi ndichikura uye ndaivenga kutamba mitambo uye dzidzo yepanyama kuchikoro. Akashanda nesimba chaizvo kundiita semitambo uye akandisundira kune zvinhu zvakaita seLittle League baseball, asi ndingadai ndave ndigere pasi pemuti uchiverenga. Asi chinhu chimwe chete chatakava nacho chokuda chakanga chiri musasa, uye takawana humwe chaihwo huri mumapango akaisa tende kana kubika moto. Apo patakatanga kuwedzera nguva yedu pamwe chete kunze uye kushandisa nguva pamwe chete tichiita chimwe chinhu chatinakidzwa nazvo, ukama hwedu hwakakura.
3. Usatya zvishoma kudonhora. Vakomana vangu, kunyanya pavaive vaduku, vaida chero chinhu chakanga chiri kushingaira uye chakashata. Kushongana zvishomanana kumashure kwaiita sokuti ndiko kuenda kure. Zvinoratidzika kufanana nevakomana, ichi chiduku chemhuka dzesango chiitiko chekubatana. Iwe unofanirwa kuchengeta iwo akachengeteka, asi iwe unogona kutora zvimwe zvingangoita zvishoma uye zvakatarwa kuti ugovapa ruzivo rwakawanda. Gare gare muupenyu, izvi zvinogona kushandura mumabasa akaita sekumhanya kwedombo, skateboarding, uye ice hockey.
4. Shingaira mubasa rebaba-mwanakomana. Mhuri yedu, ndakazviwana ndiri pedyo nevanakomana vangu sezvataifarira Boy Kuongorora pamwe chete.
Takadzika musasa, takasimuka, takashanda pamabheji uye kufambira mberi uye taingofarira kugara pamwe chete. Ndakanga ndiri muchengeti wevanakomana vangu vaduku vaviri uye saka tine nguva yakanaka pamwe navo uye neshamwari dzavo neni vhiki imwe neimwe uye vhiki imwe chete mwedzi. Chimbofunga kunyora mwanakomana wako seMukomana Scout ndokuzobatanidzwa semunhu mukuru wokuzvipira. Izvi zvakaitika zvakagadzikana zvinopa mikana yekukura pedyo.
5. Tora pabasa guru. Pane chimwe chinhu chinoita zvemashiripiti kune mukomana pamusoro pekubatanidzwa mune chimwe chinhu chikuru kupfuura iye. Ndiyo imwe chikonzero ndinonakidzwa kushanda nevanakomana vangu pazvirongwa zvavo zveEagle Scout.
Asi aya makuru, maitiro anooneka anogona chaizvo kubatsira baba nemwanakomana kusungwa. Kuna baba vangu neni, kwaiva kuvakazve majini engoro uye kuisa motokari zvakare. Vamwe vana navanakomana vanovaka mabhokisi eplanti, nzvimbo yevheji, kuvaka kambani yezororo kana kuti kubuda muhomwe huru yezororo. Chero zvazviri, chikuru pane hupenyu huri kuitwa pamwe chete unogona kuita chisungo chichagara kwenguva yakareba uye chiyeuchidza iwe uchataura pamusoro pemakumi emakore.
6. Teererai kuvanakomana venyu. Varume vanoita sevanowanzopikisana nekutaura kwakanaka . Ndinoona kuti ndinogara ndiine tsika yekuteerera kweminiti kana maviri ndisati ndasarudza kuti chinetso chacho ndechei uye ndinoenda nekugadzira kugadzirisa. Kutanga kubva kumakore ekutanga evanakomana vedu kuti vateerere ivo pasina kutonga uye pasina kuedza kugadzirisa zvinhu nokukurumidza zvichaenda nenzira yakareba yekuvaka ukama husingaperi. Tsvaka mikana yekuve nevanakomana vako apo iwe unogona kungoteerera. Kubata pamwe chete, kuenda kumutambo wemutambo, kana kutora rwendo rwese kunogona kuva nzira dzakakosha yekuumba nzvimbo yekuteerera. Zvadaro zvipira kupedza 25% chete yenguva iyo uchitaura uye upedze zvese mumuteereri unoteerera.
7. Usatya hurukuro huru. Tora nguva yekudzidzisa vanakomana vako nezvebonde uye hukama. Kuva wakasununguka pakukurukurirana uku kunobatsira vanakomana vako kukudziridza mafungiro akanaka pamusoro pepabonde uye vasikana. Nekuwedzera kwekuita zvepabonde mune zvevhidhiyo, pamakombiyuta uye mukukurukurirana neshamwari dzavo, uchawana hukama hwako husina simba sezvaungaita kana ukarega kutaura pamusoro pezvidzidzo izvi zvakaoma uye kuvabvumira kukudziridza mafungiro avo pamusoro pepabonde uye hukama kubva kune dzimwe nzvimbo dzinogona kunge dzisingatauri tsika dzako.
8. Funga nezvezvipo. Vana vedu vanoputirwa nemashoko asina kunaka ose akavapoteredza. Kungotarisa kushambadzira pane terevhizheni kuchaita kuti tisazvikwanisa kuvanakomana vedu. Vangangove vasina kusimba zvakasimba, vangave vasina six pack pack kana kuti vakanaka sevakatarisa sevarume vanoona paTV. Sezvo tadzibaba, tinoda kuvabata ivo vachiita zvinhu zvakanaka uye vachitaurirana kuti tinobvumirwa . Tinofanira kugadzira nzira dzakanaka dzokupemberera zvavakaita. Kuvapa zvokudya zvekusimbisa nguva dzose kuchabatsira kuvaka hukama hwekutenda uye kukunda izvi zvinogara zvisingabatsiri izvo zvinosangana zuva rega rega.
9. Ita imwe panguva imwechete. Tinofanira kuwana nguva yehukama hwehukama nemwana mumwe nomumwe. Saka iva nechokwadi chokuti iwe unoronga imwe nguva kamwechete nevanakomana vako. Mwanakomana wangu wekupedzisira anoda basketball, uye takapedza maawa akawanda tichipfura hoops mumugwagwa manheru mushure mekudya kwemanheru. Mwanakomana wangu wedangwe aida gakava pachikoro chesekondari , saka ndakadzidza zvakakwana kuti ndive mutongi wenhaurirano uye ndakaenda naye kunotaura uye kukakavadzana nhepfenyuro munyika yose. Zvimwe zvezviyeuchidzo zvedu zvakanakisisa zvakagara pamwe chete kuchikoro chesekondari kana pabhazi kuenda kune uye kubva kune nharo dzezvakaitika.
10. Funga nezvemweya. Kubatsira mwanakomana kugadzirirwa mumweya ibasa rinokosha kuna baba. Chero zvisinei nekutenda kwako tsika, tsira mwana wako kunzwisisa zvinorehwa nehupenyu. Kana iwe usina rutendo rwomutendi, mubatsire kuti asvike kune zvake mukati uye edza kuva nemafungiro ayo achamubatsira kutarisa zvinhu zvakadzama kupfuura pamusoro. Sezvo jaya rinopindirana nehupenyu, Mwari uye iye pachake, achava nemuenzaniso muupenyu hwake huchazomubatsira kutsungirira matambudziko uye kubudirira pachake. Vanababa vanogona kuva nehurukuro idzi nevanakomana vavo nenzira yepanyama sezvavanogovana pfungwa nemanzwiro pamusoro pehupenyu, hukama uye zvinhu zvemweya.
Kufunga nezvevanakomana vedu, kushandisa nguva yakanaka pamwe chete uye kutaura pamusoro pezvidzidzo zvehupenyu, vakapararira nehurukuro yakakura yekuteerera uye kuteerera , vanobatsira baba nevana kukudziridza hukama hwakanaka uye hunobatsira uye kubatsira vanakomana vedu kuumba mafungiro achavabvumira kukura kuva varume mumutengo wakanyanya kwazvo wezwi iroro.