Tsvaga zvinyorwa zvisiri pachena zvekudheerera
Kuziva kutarisa munhu anodheerera hakusi nyore sezvazvinonzwika. Zvechokwadi, hakuna rumwe rudzi rwehurumende kuchikoro. Zvinodheerera zvinouya mumhando dzose, hukuru uye hupenyu hwemarudzi. Vamwe vanodheerera vanozivikanwa uye vanofarirwa apo vamwe vari kusurukirwa neshamwari shomanana chete. Dzimwe nguva, vana vanoshandisa kushungurudzika senzira yekudzivisa kuva chinangwa ivo pachavo. Vaya vanodheerera vanowanzotumidzwa sevanokuvadzwa -vakaurayiwa nokuti vakamborwiswa munguva yakapfuura.
Somugumisiro, ivo vari kutsvaga kutsiva kana vari kushandisa zvikamu zvekudheerera semunhu anozvidzivirira.
Asi, pasinei nokuti munhu akaita sei kudzvinyirira, pane zvimwe zviratidzo zvinogona kukubatsira kuziva kana mwana ari munhu anodheerera kana kwete. Kuziva ruzivo urwu kunobatsira kuti vadzidzisi vatarise kuti vaone vanodzvinyirira mukirasi yavo. Heano maitiro makuru mapfumbamwe ekuona vana vanovhiringidza vamwe.
Ziva zvinowanzosanganisira varimi.
Kudheerera hakusi ukuru-kufanana-zvose zvinoitika. Zvechokwadi, kune marudzi matanhatu akasiyana-siyana evanhu vanokonzera kushamwaridzana, kushamwaridzana, kushungurudzika, kuvhiringidzwa kweboka uye kushungurudza vamwe. Kana iwe ukatora dzimwe dzenhema pamusoro pekudheerera , kusanganisira kuti vese vanodheerera vari kusurukirwa vasina shamwari uye kuderera kwekuzvidzivirira, iwe uchanonoka zvimwe zvakawanda zvemarudzi evanhu vanodheerera. Iwe unonyanya kukanganisa kushungurudza kwakashata, izvo zvinowanzonyanya kuoma marudzi evanhu vanodzvinyirira kuona nokuti mufambiro wavo unowanzowanikwa uye wakavanzwa kubva kumaziso evanhu vakuru.
Kunzwisisa kuti vakomana nevasikana vanoshungurudzika zvakasiyana sei.
Hapana munhu achareva kuti kudzvinyirira kwepanyama kunonyanya kuonekwa kudarika chero hupi hwehupi hupi hwehutsinye. Nokuda kwechikonzero ichi, vabereki nevadzidzisi vanowanzosasikirwa nechokwadi chokuti vasikana vari kudheererawo. Vangangodaro vasingashandisi kurwisa kwemuviri kuti vaite. Pane kudaro, vanoshandisa kurwisana kwepabonde , kushorwa nemashoko uye kudana zita .
Nokudaro, zvinokosha kuti uwedzere maonero ako uye iva nechokwadi chokuti unozviziva nematanhatu matanhatu anowanzoshungurudza .
Tarisa zviratidzo zvekodzero.
Nenguva dzakawanda, vanodheerera vanotenda kuti mitemo haishandi kwavari. Kana, vanogona kunzwa kuti nokuti vakanaka kuchikoro, vakanaka pamitambo kana vanobva kumhuri yakakurumbira iyo vanogona kuita chero chavanoda. Vanotendawo kuti vamwe vari pasi pavo. Iwe uchaona pfungwa yakasimba yekuzvidzwa mumhando iyi yevanyunyuta, kunyanya kana vachikurukura nevamwe vanofunga kuti vari pasi pavo. Cherechedza kuti vana ava vanobata sei vashandi vekudya kwemasikati, vashandi vezvokudya, vamiririri, vamiriri vezvitoro nevamwe vanhu vari munzvimbo dzinoshandiswa kushanda.
Ngwarira kubuda kwehasha kana utsinye.
Dzimwe nguva vanodzvinyirira vanotambudzika kugadzirisa manzwiro, kunyanya kutsamwa . Saka ivo vari kutonga uye vane utsinye kuitira kuti vawane zvavanoda. Vanowedzerawo vamwe vana kuti vaite zvavanoda kuti vaite. Pane kushamwaridzana kwakanyanya uye kazhinji kushandiswa kukuru. Paunowona maitiro aya emafambiro nemaitiro akasagadzikana, kuvhiringidza kunogona kuva chinhu icho vana ava vanoshandisa kuti vawane nzira yavo kana iwe usingatarisi.
Tarisa pedyo kana mwana achiita seakanyanya kunaka kuti ave wechokwadi.
Izvi zvinowanzoita kuti munhu ashungurudzike achifananidzwa naEddie Haskell.
Eddie Haskell akanga ari munhu akafungidzirwa paAsiya iyo kuva Beaver uyo aizokwazisa vabereki vevabereki vake nekunyanyisa tsika dzakanaka uye mazano. Asi, apo vabereki vakanga vasipo, Eddie akanga asiri mwana akanaka. Akanga achiwanzogadzirisa uye kushungurudza shamwari dzake. Kana kuti, akanga achidzvinyirira mukoma waWally mudiki Beaver. Kazhinji, vabereki uye vadzidzisi vanoshamiswa kuziva kuti rudzi urwu rwemucheche ndiye anodheerera nokuti iye nguva dzose ave akanaka uye akanaka.
Chengetedza zvakadzama kana mwana aine nyaya nesimba.
Kunyange zvazvo vamwe vanodheerera vachiita zvisinganzwisisiki nechisimba, vamwe vanodheerera vanojeka vane nyaya nevanotevera mitemo uye vanoteerera kuzviremera zviremera.
Somuenzaniso, vamwe vanyengeri vachapinda mukukakavadzana nevadzidzisi, vadzidzisi, vatungamiri mazano nevabereki. Vanogonawo kutaurirana zvakare, kutaura mazwi okunyomba uye kuva nehuwandu husina kuremekedza mafungiro kune ani ane simba. Kana mwana achida kuita zvehasha kune munhu mukuru kana munhu ane simba, ivo vanogonawo kuva nehasha nevezera ravo.
Usakanganwa vateveri kana nhengo dzemakambani.
Nenguva zhinji, kudheerera kunenge kuwana kana kutosimbisa nzvimbo panzvimbo yepamusoro pakushamwaridzana kuchikoro. Somugumisiro, vazhinji vangave vakanaka vana vanozovhundutsa vamwe nekuda kwekuda kufanana nevamwe . Vanogonawo kukuvadza kuti vawane pfungwa kana kunzwa sevari chikamu cheboka kana clique . Mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, kuvhiringidzika kuchaita kuti vateveri vaite basa ravo tsvina. Uye vana ava vanoteerera nokuti vanotya kuva mavari ivo pachavo. Kana, vanoteerera nokuti vanofunga kuti ndiyo nzira chete yekugara muboka.
Cherechedza vana vanosiya vamwe.
Imwe yenzira dzakakurumbira dzechisimba, zvekudzivisa, kusaisa kana kubvisa vamwe vana . Kana mwana nguva dzose anoramba kuva shamwari nevamwe vanhu, haadi kuve akabatanidza vanhu vose kana kusarudza uye anosarudza vanhu kushamwaridzana navo, ichi chiratidzo chakanaka chokuti kudheerera kunogona kuva nyaya. Chimwe chiratidzo chekudheeresa mwana ari kusagamuchira kusiyana kweumwe munhu. Vana vasina hanya vanowanzoshungurudza vamwe vakasiyana.
Teerera apo vana vanoita sevakakombwa nemutambo.
Zvichireva vasikana , shamwari dzepedyo uye vavengi vanowanzotora dhayi yakawanda. Mukuwedzera kune kudzvinyirira zvisiri izvo vamwe, vanoitawo sevanoita kukanganisa nekuzvidya mwoyo pakati pemapoka eshamwari. Izvo zvinowanzoita kuti kuparadzira makuhwa , cyberbullying uye slut kushora vamwe. Nepo huzhinji hwemhando iyi yehutano hunoitwa kunze kwemaziso evanhu vakangwarira, mutambo unoita kuti uoneke. Nokudaro, kana iwe ukaona mutambo wakawanda pakati peboka kuchikoro, ita zvishoma kutsvaga kuitira kuti uone mudzi wechinetso chacho. Kazhinji yenguva, iwe uchawana munhu anodheerera pamagumo.
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Somudzidzisi, zvinogona kukanganisa pane dzimwe nguva kubata nekudzvinyirira nguva dzose. Asi kana iwe ukagadzirisa mamiriro ekuremekedza mukirasi yako yekutanga, uchaona kuti nyaya dzekudheerera dzinoitika zvishoma nezvishoma. Uyezve, vadzidzi vako vachadzidza zvakawanda uye vanoita zviri nani mukirasi yako kana vane chivimbo chokuti hamuzoregi kudheerera. Vanogona kuisa pfungwa pakudzidza panzvimbo pokunyunyuta pamusoro pekutsvaga nokuti vanoziva kuti iwe unotungamirirwa.