Kuongorora Zvikonzero Vabereki Vanopa Kutora Vana Vavo
Kutora chirango chevana ndechidzidzo chinokonzera kukakavara kukuru uye nharo. Kunyange zvazvo nyanzvi dzehutano nehutano dzichiratidza kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti chirango chenyama hachina kubudirira uye chinoisa vana pangozi yezviitiko zvisingaverengeki, tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti kupwanya kuri kuitwa mumisha yakawanda. Vose vanosvika 83 muzana yevana muAmerica vakarohwa mumuviri nevabereki vavo nechechi yechishanu, maererano naLiz Gershoff, Ph.D.
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Asi pane zviratidzo zvekuti vazhinji vari kutama kure nekurangwa kwevana, anodaro Victor Vieth, Mutungamiri Mukuru Emeritus paGundersen National Child Protection Training Center, muWinona, MN. "Pane chimiro chakajeka kunze kwechirango chomunhu," anodaro Vieth. "Vakawanda vanovimba nekutenda vari kutama kure nazvo."
Kune vabereki vazhinji, kushandisa chirango chevana kune vana vavo chinhu chavanofunga sechisarudzo chemunhu oga. Vanozviona sechinhu chinokosha, chinoshanda, uye chinobatsira pakudzidzisa vana maitiro ekuzvibata, uye vazhinji vanotenda kuti chirango chepanyama chakakosha kunonzwa kuzvidzivirira apo chirango chinonzi chakashata sechisingabatsiri uye chinogona kukuvadza.
Asi kuvabereki vari kumativi ose emakakavadzana, kuisa pfungwa-pamwe chete nekushorwa kana kutongwa-uye kutarisa kutsvakurudza ndiyo imwe nzira yakanakisisa.
"Kune chidikanwi chaicho munyika muno kuti tive nekutaura pamusoro pekurangwa kwechirwere izvo zvisinganzwi," anodaro Vieth.
Chinoita Kuti Vabereki Vapedze Vana
Heano mamwe emakakatanwa akaitwa neavo vanotsigira chirango chechirango, uye ndeupi mwana anoranga nyanzvi achiti:
1. Vabereki vakawana chirango chavo uye havazvioni zvakashata. Kutora vana uye kushandisa mamwe maitiro ekuranga kwemuviri kune ngozi, kwete chivimbo chokuti vana vachakurira matambudziko.
Zvakanyatsonyatsojeka kutarisa chirango chekuchengetedza senzira yekuchengeteka, anodaro Deborah Sendek, mutungamiri weCent for Effective Discipline, chirongwa cheGundersen National Child Protection Training Center, chinoshanda mukusimudzira kururamisa kwevana uye kugumisa zvibvumirano zvose kurangwa kwevana. Nhasi, takaita shanduko dzakawanda kuti vana nevakuru vadzivirire. Sendek anoti, "Pane zvinhu zvakawanda zvakaitika makore gumi kana makumi maviri akapfuura zvatisingaite nhasi, sekusava kushandisa zvigaro zvemotokari kana helmets bhasikoro. Asi nhasi, handidi kuisa mwana bhasikoro pasina helmete. Takaita shanduko. "
Sendek anoratidzira kuti vabereki avo vakaputirwa sevana vanogona kuda kutarisa zvakanyanya pane zvakaitika kwavari. "Zvibvunze nokutendeseka kana iwe uchinzwa sokuti uri kushamwaridzana nababa vako kana amai vako pawakarohwa," anodaro Sendek. "Ndizvo zvaiitika izvo zvakakudzidzisa chidzidzo here kana kuti ndiko kukurukurirana kwawakaita nevabereki vako uye zvinhu zvawaifanira kuita kuti uite zvakaipa?"
2. Inzira yakanakisisa yekuita kuti vana vateerere. Kutamba kunogona kumira vana munguva iyoyo asi kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti munguva refu, kurwadziwa uye kutya zvinogona kudzivirira vana kuti vadzidze zvidzidzo vabereki vari kuedza kuvadzidzisa.
"Kutaura hakudzidzisi vana kuzvibata nenzira iyo vabereki vanoda kuti vaite, uye vanogona kuva nemigumisiro yakasiyana," anodaro Dr. Gershoff. "Vana vakarohwa vanowanzomiririra pakarepo, asi havana kudzidziswa kuti vangave nani munguva refu." Kurova hakuvadzidzisi kuti sei zvavakaita zvakanga zvisina kunaka kana zvavanofanira kuita munguva inotevera, anodaro Dr. Gershoff. Inodzidzisa vana kuti vadzivise sei kurohwa panzvimbo pokuvabatsira kuti vave nekukurudzira kwakanaka kwekuita zvakanaka.
3. Kusunungura tsvimbo kunoparadza mwana. Vamwe vabereki vanotenda zvakasimba kuti vana vasina kupfigwa vachakura kuti vaparadzwe . Asi kungotarisa mamiriyoni emuenzaniso wezvakanaka-tsika, mutsa , akanaka , uye vana vane hukama hwakanaka vasina kumbobhurwa vanoratidza kuti izvi hazvisi izvozvi.
Kunyange zvazvo kukundikana kuranga vana kunogona kutungamirira vana kuti vaparadzwe uye vasingafadzi, chirango-corporal kana zvimwe-hachisi iyo nzira. Nzira iri nani ndeyokutora nzvimbo yepakati, apo pane kusanganiswa kwekusimbisa uye kuratidzira rudo pasina marwadzo kana kutya kwekupwanya.
Kana iri nharo yokuti kusashandisa chirango chechirwere kunotungamirira kumararamiro akaipa, Upenyu hunotsanangura kuti vanhu vari mujeri kana vana vanodarika vanogona kunge vakanyengerwa zvakanyanya kana vasina kupfuura vana vanoteerera kana vakuru vasiri ivo kutyora mutemo.
3. Hapana chimwe chinhu chinoshanda. "Hapana chinoshanda nguva dzose," anodaro Sendek. Kurova hakushandi nguva dzose kana; zvisingaiti, mubereki angangofanira kurova kamwechete uye asingambofi zvakare, anodaro Sendek. Kuberekera ndezvekusagadzikana, uye kupa vana migumisiro chaiyo, sekutora TV, nguva yepakombiyuta, kana mitambo yemavhidhiyo kwevhiki kana kuti vana vanoita mabasa epamba okuita zvisina kunaka kana kuputsa mitemo.
Kana mwana wako ane chinetso chekuzvibata kana kudzidza, ndizvo zvakanyanya kukosha kuti arege kurohwa, anodaro Sendek. "Vamwe vana vanobatwa zvakanyanya nokuti vane utsinye kana kuti vanotadza kudzora mufambiro wavo," anodaro Sendek. "Zvinotonyanya kukosha kuti vana ava vazvitonge uye vasiri kudzidza kudzirova kana pane dambudziko." "Vana vane matambudziko ekuzvibata vanowanzopinda pasi peganda renyu," anodaro Vieth. "Kune zvidzidzo zvinoti ivo vanowanzovhiringidzwa."
Chero rutivi rwemakakatanwa uripo, verenga nezvechirango chechirwere uye chiitiko chazvo kuvana, uye dzidza pamusoro pezvinotaurwa nevezvenzvikonzero zvikonzero nei kupomera vana kusashanda. Kana iwe uchishandisa chirango chechirwere, zvibvunze mibvunzo iyi inokosha:
- Inobatsira here?
- Icho chinoshanda kupfuura dzimwe nzira here?
- Ndeipi migumisiro yenguva refu?
"Hatisi kureva vana havadi kurangwa, anodaro Vieth." Asi inofanira kuva nhungamiro inoshanda. "
> Sources:
> Gershoff, Liz. Hurukuro. March 2014.
> Knox M. Pakurova Vana: Kudzokorora Kurairwa Kwemhosva muUnited States. Zvinyorwa zveMishonga yehutano . 2010; 24 (2): 103-107. doi: 10.1016 / j.pedhc.2009.03.001.
> Sendek, Deborah. Hurukuro. March, 2014.
> Upenyu, Victor. Hurukuro. March 2014.