Rimwe remibvunzo yekutanga iyo vanhu vanowanzobvunza mapatya ndeye, "Ndiani akaberekwa kutanga?" Kana iwe une mapatya, unganetseka kuti sei kana kana chirongwa chekuberekwa kwavo chikavabata.
Kunzwisisa Birth Order
Pakave nekuine nguva yakawanda inofadza mukudzidza kwekuronga kuberekwa uye kushanda kwaro munharaunda. Zvechokwadi, munhoroondo yose, pane dzimwe nguva apo kugadzirisa kuchengetwa kwemwana mumhuri kwaikosha zvikuru.
Kodzero yekuzvarwa yematangwe yaireva mukana wekugara nhaka yemhuri, kunyange humwe humwe humwe humwe ushe, pamwe chete nemutoro wekutakura kune nhengo dzemhuri dzakasara.
Masayendisiti vakaita zvimwe zvidzidzo zvinonakidza kuti vaongorore basa rekuberekwa kwekuberekwa mukukudziridza unhu. Zvimwe zvidzidzo zvakataurira kuti vana vekutanga vanoberekwa vanozvinyanya kuzviremekedza uye nepamusoro yeIQ, apo vana vekupedzisira vanowanzove vakasununguka uye vasingateereri. Zvisinei, imwe nguva yakawanda yakapera yakagumisa kuti urongwa hwekuberekwa hahuna hupenyu husingaperi pamunhu, kunyange hunoita sehunoita kuti huchenjeri huvepo, uye imwe pepa inoshevedzera kurambira kwekuronga kuberekwa se "zombie theory."
Adlerian Birth Order Zvimwe
Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Alfred Adler, wepanguva ye Sigmund Freud, akatsanangura mararamiro ezvitsanangudzo kuti anotsanangure kuti chinzvimbo chemu mwana mukati memhuri chichati chiite sei muunhu hwake.
Itafura iri pasi apa inopa shanduro iri nyore yeanodzidza yakashandurwa kubva kuAdler Institute website:
| Position | Mhuri Mamiriro | Mamiriro |
| Vakwegura | Akarongerwa nemwana anotevera. Anofanira kudzidza kugovana. Zvinotarisirwa nevabereki zvinowanzokwirira. Kazhinji anopiwa mutoro uye anotarisira kuisa muenzaniso. | Unogona kuva munhu ane simba kana kuti wakasimba. Anoona simba rine kodzero yake. Unogona kubatsira kana ukakurudzirwa. |
| Chepiri | Ane chigumbu, nguva dzose mumwe munhu mberi. | Ari kukwikwidzana, anoda kutora mwana akwegura. Unogona kuva mupanduki kana kuedza kubuda wese. Kumupikisa kunogona kuparara mukukakavadzana. |
| Pakati | I "sandwiched" in. Inogona kunzwa inodzvinyirirwa kubva panzvimbo yekodzero uye kukosha. | Kunyangwe-kutsamwa, "tora kana kuisiya" mafungiro. Ive nechinetso chokuwana nzvimbo kana kuva murwi wekusaruramisira. |
| Muduku | Ane amai vakawanda nemadzibaba muvana vakwegura. Usambofa warambidzwa. | Anoda kuva mukuru kudarika vamwe. Unogona kugara "mwana." Kazhinji kuparadzwa. |
Kurongwa Kwekuzvarwa uye Maviri
Kuzvarwa kwemajaya hazvirevi kutongerwa, zvakare. Urongwa hwevana hunoberekwa hunotsanangurwa nenzvimbo yavo muchizvaro, izvo zvinogona kuchinja munguva yekudzivirira. Mune zvimwe zviitiko, ndeupi mwana anoberekwa kutanga anotarisa kuti amai vanopa sei; mutemo wacho unogona kuchinjwa kana amai vacho vane chikamu cheCesarea panzvimbo pekuberekwa kwevakadzi.
Saka iwe unotsanangura sei kuratidzwa kwekuzvarwa kwehutano hunhu muhupenyu hwevanhu vakawanda? Zvechokwadi, kune mienzaniso yakawanda yemapatya apo dangwe rekutanga twine mutungamiri anotungamirira uye wechipiri akaberekwa ari muvateveri vanokundwa.
Zvinotaurwa neVadzidzisi
Zvinosuruvarisa, hakuna zvakawanda zvekutsvakurudza kwakajeka zviripo panyaya iyi. Zvisinei, nyanzvi dzakawanda dzekuronga kubereka dzinobvumirana kuti mapatya anowanzozvironga maererano nenzvimbo yavo yose mumhuri. Semuenzaniso, kana vane hanzvadzi imwe yakwegura, ivo vose vacharatidza maitiro eechipiri akazvarwa. Kana ivo vakwegura, vachatora humwe unhu hwematangwe. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinobvumirana kuti mapatya anogara achichinjana kutonga muupenyu hwavo hwose, uye mupfungwa iyoyo inogona kusiyanisa pakati pekuzvarwa kwezvirongwa.
Kunze kwehutsika hunhu hwemunhu, hutano hwekuzvarwa muhuwandu hunowanzowanzova humwe hwekunzwisisa panzvimbo yezvokwadi, kunyanya muchiedza cheongororo dzechangobva kuitwa.
Vabereki vezvizhinji, uyewo sangano, vanoshandisa maitiro ekutarisira zvinoenderana nemararamiro evanhu vakarongeka; mukuita, mwana mumwe nomumwe anozvibata mukuzadzika kwezvaanotarisira.
Kuzvizadza Kuzadzika Uprofita
Semuenzaniso, amai vanogona kufunga kuti, "O, Twin A akazvarwa patsva." Nguva dzose ndiye anotanga kuita zvose, iye ndiye wokutanga kugamba, uye ndiye achava wokutanga kufambawo! " Anotarisira mwana wake wedangwe mwanasikana kuti afambe pamberi pehanzvadzi yake uye achishandisa nguva yakawanda achidzidzisa nokukurudzira mwanasikana uyu mune unyanzvi. Mukupindira kune uporofita hwake huri kuzadza, Twin A inowanzofamba inotangira.
Sezvo mapatya achikura, vabereki vavo vanotarisira "dangwe" ravo kuti vatarisire "hanzvadzi" yavo, vachigadza Twin A mune basa rinokosha muhukama, uye achikurudzira humwe huno hwake muhunhu hwomwana mukuru.
Mazano Kune Vabereki Vakawanda
Vabereki vevakawanda vane mutoro unokosha wekusimudzira hutano hwevana vavo kunze kwemamiriro ekuberekwa kwekuzvarwa. Kuti vaite izvi, vanogona kuita zvinotevera:
- Ita sangano risingachinji, risina zvematongerwe enyika rinotendera mwana mumwe nomumwe kuzadzisa unhu hwake
- Dzivisa kurongeka kwekuberekwa
- Kuderedza kukosha kwekuzvarwa kwekuronga; kana zvichidikanwa, sarudza kusatora urongwa hwekuzvarwa kwevakawanda
- Kunyaradza vamwe, kusanganisira mhuri yakakura, vadzidzisi, uye vanhu vasingazivikanwe vasingazivi, kubva pakuwedzera kusimbisa kurongeka kwekuzvarwa
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