Dzidzisa Mwana Wako Kudzidza Kubva Pazvikanganiso
Vose vana vanoputsa mitemo uye miedzo yekuedza dzimwe nguva. Apo vanhu vakuru vanopindura nenzira inobatsira vana vanodzidza kuita zvisarudzo zviri nani munguva yemberi.
Asi havasi vose vanoita zvekupindira vakuru vanosikwa vakaenzana. Pane musiyano mukuru pakati pekupa vana migumisiro uye kurangwa.
Chii Chirango?
Kuranga kuri kuita kuti vana vatambure nekuda kwezvikanganiso zvavo. Vanowanzotarisirwa kuita kuti vana vachinetseke.
Chirango chinowanzosangana nechinetso chekuita uye zvingangove zvakashata mumasikirwo. Dzimwe nguva, ivo vanofanirwa kunyadzisa kana kunyadzisa vana. Heano mimwe mienzaniso yekurangwa:
- Munhu ane makore mashanu haafaniri kutora zvidhori zvake paanoudzwa. Vabereki vake vakamurova.
- Musikana ane makore manomwe anotaura zvakare kuna amai vake. Anoshambidza muromo wake ne sese.
- Mumwe ane makore 9 ane misbehaves kuchikoro. Vabereki vake vanomupa bvudzi rinonyadzisa "kumudzidzisa chidzidzo."
- Mumwe ane makore gumi nemaviri haafaniri kuchenesa mumba make. Vabereki vake vanotora mifananidzo uye vanyoresa pane zvemagariro evanhu kumunyadzisa.
- Mumwe ane makore 14 anosiya baseball yake mugwara. Baba vake vanotungamira nechinangwa nemotokari.
- Mumwe wemakore gumi nemasere anobatwa avete pamusoro pezera rake kutaura nevarume vakuru vari paIndaneti. Amai vake vanomumanikidza kuti aite vhidhiyo inotaura zvaakaita. Amai vake vanotumira vhidhiyo iri paIndaneti.
Kurangwa kunowanzoita kuti vana vachinetseke pamusoro pevari ivo-kusiyana nezvavakaita.
Vana vane ruzivo rwezvakakosha vanowanzosvika pakukanganisa mune ramangwana.
Kuranga kunogonawo kusabatsira nokuti inokonzera vana kutarisa kutsamwa kwavo kuvabereki vavo, pane kufunga nezvezvavanogona kuita zviri nani nenguva inotevera. Somuenzaniso, mwana anogona kufunga kuti, "Amai vangu vari kureva," pane, "Ndakakanganisa."
Ndezvipi Migumisiro?
Migumisiro inotarisa pakudzidzisa vana nzira yekuita zviri nani munguva yemberi. Migumisiro youtano inobatsira vana kuramba vachizvinzwa ivo pachavo uye vachivapa chivimbo chokuti vanogona kuita zviri nani nenguva inotevera.
Logical Consequences
Migumisiro inonzwisisika inogadzirwa nevanhu vakuru uye inowirirana zvakananga nekusazvibata. Heano mimwe mienzaniso yemigumisiro yakanaka:
- Munhu ane makore mashanu haafaniri kutora zvidhori zvake paanoudzwa. Vabereki vake vanotora zvidhori zvake kubva kwaari kwezuva rose.
- Musikana ane makore manomwe anotaura zvakare kuna amai vake. Anopa rimwe basa rakawanda kuti aite.
- Mumwe ane makore 9 ane misbehaves kuchikoro. Vabereki vake vanobvisa magetsi ake manheru.
- Mumwe ane makore gumi nemaviri haafaniri kuchenesa mumba make. Haabvumirwi kushandisa zvemagetsi yake kusvikira imba yake yakachena.
- Mumwe ane makore 14 anosiya baseball yake gavhuna mumugwagwa. Vabereki vake vanotora girafu yake kwemaawa 24.
- Mumwe wemakore gumi nemasere anobatwa avete pamusoro pezera rake kutaura nevarume vakuru vari paIndaneti. Amai vake vanomutorera zvemagetsi kwevhiki uye vanotanga mitemo mitsva inosanganisira kuenderera mberi kwekutarisa kwekambani dzake dzehupfumi.
Zvigumisiro zveMutumbi
Migumisiro yemagumisiro ndiyo migumisiro iyo inokonzerwa nemafungiro emwana.
Vakuru vanogona kubvumira vana kutarisana nemigumisiro yezvisikwa zvezvisarudzo zvavo kana zvakachengeteka kuita saizvozvo uye kana mwana achigona kudzidza chidzidzo chehupenyu chinokosha.
Heano mimwe mienzaniso yemigumisiro yepanyama:
- Mumwe ane makore 9 anoramba kurega kutamba kuitira kuti adye kudya kwemasikati. Izvozvo zvinowanzoitika kuti iye achava nenzara kana asingadyi.
- Mumwe ane makore gumi nemaviri haadi kupfeka jekete. Amai vake vanomuita kuti atambe kunze kunze kwejasi nokuti chikonzero chepanyama ndechekuti achange ava kutonhora.
- Mumwe wemakore gumi nemashanu anosiya bhoti rake mitt mugwagwa uye kunonaya kunze. Izvozvo zvinokonzerwa nenyama ndeyekuti mitt yake ichava yakanyorova uye kana ikasvibiswa, inofanira kutenga imwe.
Chirango vs. Mitezo
Kuranga kunogona kushanda munguva pfupi. Vana vanogona kuteerera pavanokutya iwe kana kuti pavanoda kuti iwe usambomwisa kurwadza kana kunyadziswa.
Asi munguva refu, chirango chinodzoka zvakare . Vanorasikirwa nekubudirira kwenguva yakareba nokuti vana havasi kudzidza unyanzvi hwavanoda kuti vasarudze zviri nani.
Migumisiro kubatsira vana kuona kuti vakaita sarudzo yakaipa asi vanogona kuita zviri nani munguva yemberi. Uye pakupedzisira, migumisiro inonyanya kubudirira pakuvandudza matambudziko ehutano kuvana.
Sources
> Afifi T, Mota N, Dasiewicz P, MacMillan H, J. Sareen Kurangwa Kwepanyama uye Matambudziko Epfungwa: Migumisiro Inobva Kumumiririri Wemarudzi US Sample. Pediatrics . June 2012.
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