Kurera Vana Mapatya vs. Parenting Singletons
Ndezvipi zvakasiyana pamusoro pekurera vana?
Kutadza Kwekuberekwa Kwekuita Dynamics
Singleton siblings vakapararira kwemakore anoverengeka vanoita zvakarongeka. Kunze kubva pakukurudzira hupenyu hwevanhu, kuronga kwekuberekwa kunowanzotarisa chimiro chekuti vana vanobatwa sei mumhuri. Vanun'una vakwegura vatungamiri, vana vadiki vanotevera vanotevera. Vana vakwegura vane rusununguko rwakawanda, asiwo humwe basa, sezvo vachikura.
Vana vaduku vanoona uye vanodzidza kubva kune vakoma vavo vakuru. Kune kusiyanisa kwechisikiro kwekwanisi pamusana pezera.
Asi dzakawanda ndeyezera rimwe chete, uye-kazhinji-panzvimbo imwe chete. Vanosangana nematambudziko makuru pamwe chete. Vanova motokari munenge panguva imwechete, potty chitima pamwe chete (kazhinji), uye kutanga chikoro pamwe chete. Kunyange zvazvo vamwe vabereki vanokonzera unhu hwehutano hwekuberekwa hunoenderana nehuwandu hwevakawanda hunobva kune uyo akaberekwa kutanga, ichinzi nhema. Pasina iyo tsanangudzo dzinotsanangurwa dzakagadzirwa nehurongwa hwekuberekwa, vazhinji vanogadzira purogiramu yavo yehurongwa hwekucheka, uye kazhinji vabereki vavo vanofanira kubata nekutorwa-kunze.
Kurera Vana vakawanda sevanhu
Mubereki mumwe nomumwe ane basa rokutungamirira vana vavo sezvavanokura kuva vanhu. Apo vabereki vezvizhinji vanotarisana nedambudziko rakawedzerwa riri mukubatsira vana vavo kuva vanhu pasinei-uye mukutsigira - -hukama hwavo sevakawanda.
Pasinei nekuedza kwevabereki kuedza kubata zvipembenene zvavo sevanhu vanozvimirira, kuti varege kuenzanisa nekunyora, ndiyo hondo yakasimba yekudzivisa maonero evanhu. Vakawanda vanotarisana nevanopesana uye vanogara vachitarisana nemuenzanisi pamusana pemapatya avo. Shamwari dzavo, vavakidzani, vadzidzisi uye kunyange nhengo dzemhuri dzine chinangwa dzichaedza kuisa mazita uye kudziisa.
(Ndiwo mapatya akanaka, mapatya akaisvonaka, majeko akanaka ... Kana munhu achida baseball, mumwe wacho anofanirawo ... Ari kubuda, saka mapatya ake anofanira kunyara.)
Apo singleton vana vomunin'ina vanowanzonzwa kurwadziwa kwehanzvadzi yekukwikwidzana, migumisiro inokanganiswa nekuzvarwa kwekuzvarwa uye nekupfuura kwenguva. Vane makore (kana mune dzimwe nguva mwedzi yakawanda) kuti vabudirire matanho akaiswa nevakoma vakwegura. Nezvizhinji, zvinoshamisa zvinotarisirwa kuva panguva imwe chete.
Nokudaro, zvakakosha zvikuru kuvabereki vezvizhinji kuti vakurire kusagadzikana, kunyora uye kuenzanisa nokupa nguva dzose kutungamirirwa uye kukurudzira vana vavo, vachivatsigira sezvavanokura sevanhu mukati memamiriro ezvinhu ehukama hwavo sehuwandu.
Kurambana kweVabereki Vaiva Nhaka
Vabereki vakawanda vezvizhinji vanonzwa vachiomerwa kugovana nguva yavo, kutarisa uye rudo pakati pevana vavo, kunyanya nevana singleton vakapararira kwemakore akawanda. Kuva nevana vemakore akasiyana-siyana kunoumba mikana yakawanda yehumwe nguva: vana vacheche apo vana vakuru vakamuka. Vana vakwegura vanogara mushure manheru. Vana vakwegura vanotanga chikoro apo vaduku vachiri pamba.
Zvizhinji zvinowanzoita zvose panguva imwe chete.
Vari kurara panguva imwe chete, uye kumuka pamwe chete, zvichiita kuti zvive zvakaoma kuti vabereki vawane imwe-ye-imwe nguva yekutarisa mumwe nomumwe. Vabereki vevakawanda vanofanira kuita zvakanyanya kuedza kushamwaridzana nemwana mumwe nomumwe.
Kuchengeta kuenzana ndeimwe dambudziko guru kune vabereki vanowanda. Apo chirongwa chekuberekwa kwakakanganiswa kazhinji kacho kunowedzera zvinhu kune singletons, zvinowanzoomerwa kuvabereki vemapatya kana kupfuura kuti vaone kuti mwana mumwe nomumwe anowana mugove wavo wakanaka. Zvingava nguva, kutarisira kana zvinhu zvenyama, hazvisi nyore kuti nguva dzose ichengetedze kuenzana pakati pezvipembenene, kuisa vabereki kuvhiringidzika uye mhosva.
Kurera Bond
Icho chisungo pakati pemawanda chakaoma uye chakasimba. Mapatya anogona kuva shamwari dzakanakisisa imwe nguva, uye vavengi vanorwadza anotevera. Apo vabereki vechi singletons vanorwisana nevanin'ina vekukakavadzana, ukama huri pakati pezvizhinji hunongowedzera zvakaoma, mumaonero angu. Kudzidzisa vana vavo vakawanda kuti vagadzirise kusawirirana nenzira ine utano uye kusimbisa hukama pakati pavo inetso huru kuvabereki.
Aiwa Do-Overs
Munhu wese anodzidza kubva pane zvaakakanganisa, zvakarurama? Nezvizhinji, hapana "ma-overs." Nemwana mumwe nomumwe achifamba nepakati rimwechete uye muchikamu panguva imwechete, hapana mukana wekudzidza kubva pane zvakaitika kare. Vabereki vezvizhinji havabatsiri kutarisa.
Tag Team
Hakusi here shoko rinotaura kuti kune "kuchengeteka" mune nhamba? Ndinogona kutaura kuti kune ngozi yakawanda kana iri kuuya kuwanda. Seboka, boka remawele, katatu kana kupfuura rinogona kuita zvakawanda zvakashata kupfuura singleton siblings. Kushanda sechikwata, vanogona kunge vakanyanyisa, vanotora njodzi dzakawanda, uye vanokanda mirefu mberi. Kunyangwe vari kukwira kune mumwe kune mumwe kusvika kune hutungamiri hwepamusoro, kana kubatanidza kubatana kwekamuri yekugara, vazhinji vanochengetedza vabereki muzvigunwe zvavo.
The Good Stuff
Pasinei nedambudziko nematambudziko, kuva nemapatya kana kuwanda kune mufaro mukuru. Icho chinoshandiswa pakuva mucherechedzo wekuita nehutano muhukama hwavo hwakasiyana uye hwakakosha. Kune uwandu hwehutano uye hunobudirira mukurera vana vana simulane; zvimwe zvezvinhu zvisingafadzi (kurara usiku, teething, potty kudzidzisa, matambudziko evechiri kuyaruka) zvinongoda kutsungirira kamwe chete. Kune huwandu hwe "mukurumbira" hwakabatanidzwa kuva nemawele kana mashizha; vamwe vabereki vanofadzwa nezvinoitika apo vamwe vanonyara. Asi kazhinji, kune mufaro mukuru uye kufara mukuwanda kwevabereki, nguva dzose dzinodada inowedzera uye mufaro wose uri nyore unokudzwa.