Apo Mapatya Haafaniri Kuwirirana
Hanzvadzi yekakavadzana yakave ichichenesa kupoteredza imba yedu munguva pfupi yapfuura. Kubva kwemafungiro ekuti musikana wangu wemakore masere akafanana akadaro anotaurirana pane imwe nguva anondishamisa dzimwe nguva.
Mhepo yose yekufema inotora inomupikisa we oksijeni. Zvose zvinorehwa neshoko ndizvo zvinokonzera kukakavara. Vanokakavara pamusoro pechinhu chipi nechipi. Vakakakavadzana pamusoro pechikamu chemukoko wekutakura kupinda uye ndiani anofanira kuvhara musuo kana vabuda.
Mangwanani ano vakamuka vachikakavadzana pamusoro pokuti ndiani aizovhara zera. Nharo yacho yakaramba iri patafura yemangwanani, ine nharo pamusoro peavo vakagamuchira nguva yakawanda yekutarisana nebhokisi rekudya, vachiverenga kuparara kwezvokudya uye zvishandiso. Vakabva vaenda kunzvimbo panzvimbo yebhasi kuti vaone ndiani aigona kukwira bhazi kutanga.
Panguva yegore rechikoro, vanowana nguva yekuparadzana kubva kune imwe nguva masikati, kwavanoiswa mumapoka akasiyana . Asi kukakavadzana kunotangazve nguva iyo vachidzoka kumusha, mukurwisana nguva dzose kuti vawane "zvakanakisisa" nyoka sezvavanenge vachiedza kutaurirana mumwe nomumwe mukutsanangura zvavanoita kuchikoro.
Zvinotyisa kuva amai vavo dzimwe nguva. Handizivi kuti nei vachigara vachipesana. Kubva pane nzvimbo yangu yepamusoro, vose vari vaviri vanofara, vakanyatsogadzikana vasikana nezvose izvo mwana angada kubva muupenyu, kana kwete. Handigoni kunzwisisa kuti nei vachigumbukana.
Sei vasingakwanisi kufara nezvavari, panzvimbo yekutya kuti hanzvadzi yavo inogona kuwana chimwe chinhu chiri nani?
Ndinoziva kuti chikamu. Hazvizovi nguva dzose sezvizvi. Kungofanana nedzimwe dzakawanda zvimwe zvekurera vana, iyi "mbiri" ichapfuura. Kuvhiringidza kwavo kunowedzera nguva nenguva, uye nokukurumidza tichapfuura munguva inofadza panguva iyo ivo vakanakisisa shamwari (vakawanda sevadzidzi muupombwe!).
Saka vazhinji vehama dzangu dzine hanzvadzi dzinoti "Vangarwisana iye zvino, asi vanozokoshesa pavanokura."
Asi hatigoni kumirira kusvikira vakura uye vaine rugare mumba. Saka, takaedza kuita kuti tive nekubatana, tichishandisa mazano akajeka okuyeuchidza vasikana nezvekukosha kwavanoita, kuwanda kwezvavanofanira kuonga, uye kuti vanove neropafadzo sei kuti vawane.
Mushure memavhiki ekugumburwa pamusana pokukwikwidzana kwavo, ndakasarudza yava nguva yezvimwe zviito zvakanyanyisa. Ndakanga ndatsunga kuvadzidzisa kuisa pfungwa pazvinhu zvakanaka zvehupenyu hwavo nekurega kushandisa simba mukuedza "kurova" hanzvadzi yavo. Heano mamwe maitiro atakashandisa.
Twin Rivalry Strategy # 1: Good Night, Hanzvadzi Yakanaka
Takawedzera zvimwe zvitsva panguva yekurara kwedu nguva dzose. Husiku humwe, shure kwokuverenga nemusikana mumwe nemumwe, tinopedza imwe nguva yega - yega - kugovana nguva. Inguva yekutaura pamusoro pezuva uye kukurukura chero zvipingamupinyi kana zvikumbiro zvekunamatira. Iye zvino, mushure mokutaura nekunyengetera, ndinovabvunza mibvunzo miviri yega yega yakagadzirirwa kuvabatsira kuti vazvione ivo pachavo, uye mumwe nomumwe. Ndinotanga, "Ndiudze chimwe chinhu chaunofarira pamusoro pako kana hupenyu hwako, kana chimwe chinhu chaunotenda nhasi."
Ndiri kutarisira kuti vaite kuti vafunge nezvekufara kwavo. Paunenge uchinzwa zvakanaka pamusoro pako uye moyo wako uzere nekuonga, hazvisi nyore nyore kunzwa unoshuva kune mumwe wako - kana, mune izvi, iwe hanzvadzi yako.
Uye zvino ndinozoitevera, "Ndiudze chimwe chinhu chaunoda pamusoro pehanzvadzi yako, kana kuti nei iwe uchimuonga." Zvakanyatsoita kuti vafunge nezvemumwe nemumwe mune zvakanaka. Pakutanga, tine mhinduro dzekuti "Akanaka" kana kuti "Ihanzvadzi yakanaka." Asi sezvo mazuva achifamba uye ivo vanomanikidzwa kuuya nemitsva mitsva, mazwi acho anowedzera zvakanyanya.
"Kwakanga kwakanaka paakauya neni girazi remvura pandakanga ndisina kunzwa zvakanaka." "Akanaka chaizvo pakuita masvomhu uye ndakafara paakandibatsira nebasa rangu rechikoro."
Twinokurwisana Nzira # 2: Kurudzira Kufarira Kwemunhu Mumwe Nomumwe
Tinoshanda zvakaoma chaizvo kupa mikana yokuti vasikana vaongorore zvavanoda . Kunyange zvazvo vachigoverana zvimwe zvinhu pamwe chete (Brownies, kuimba muimba yevana muchechi, kushambira kweboka), tinovakurudzira zvakasimba kuti vaite zvido zvakasiyana. Imwe mwanasikana anotora zvidzidzo zvekunyora uye anotamba neboka re basketball. Mumwe wacho anotora karate uye anoita neboka reIrish dancing. Zvinoreva kuti tinopedza nguva yakawanda yemasikati uye yakanaka chunk yemapera evhiki tichivadzinga ivo vakakomba guta, asi zvakakosha zvakakosha! Mwoyo wangu wakakura sei pandakatarisa mwanasikana wangu akagara panze achinyengetedza boka rehanzvadzi yake yebhasikiti mukukunda. Uye ndaiziva kuti tainge tichiita chinhu chakanaka apo mumwe musikana akazununguka nekudada kwehanzvadzi pamapatya ake ekuverenga.
Mabasa aya anovapa mukana wekutaura ivo pachavo uye kuti vaonekwe nekuda kwezvavanokwanisa. Izvo zvinoshamisa zvikuru murunyararo mumba medu apo vasikana vari kunzwa manzwiro ekubudirira pamusoro pemabasa avo pachavo. Ivo vanonyanya kutaurirana kuti vatsigire uye vanorumbidzwa, panzvimbo yekutsamwa uye kukakavadzana.
Twin Rivalry Strategy # 3: Kuvandudza
Pakupedzisira, ndinoedza kuvayeuchidza zuva roga roga kuti vanodiwa nevakawanda sei. Mumamiriro ezvinhu ose, ndinovayeuchidza kuti hanzvadzi dzinouya vashamwari, uye manzwiro anouya pamberi pezvinhu. Ndinovakurudzira kuti vafunge kuti maitiro avo achaita sei kune hanzvadzi yavo, uye kuvakomborera zvakasimba apo ini "ndinovabata" kuva nehanya kana kuti kukudzwa kune mumwe nemumwe.
Rimwe zuva ndakavatsanangurira kuti hazviwanzodi uye zvakakosha sei kuva mapatya. Ndakavaudza kuti, "Saka vanhu vazhinji vaizopa chero chinhu kuti vave nemapatya, hanzvadzi chaiye muupenyu hwavo. Bvunza shamwari dzako, ona kuti vangani vavo vanoda kuti vangave mapatya!"
"Asi vanhu havagoni kuita kuti izvozvo zviitike," ndakatsanangura. "Kunyange Bill Gates, munhu akapfuma kwazvo munyika, haagoni kuzvitengera mapatya." Kunyange munhu ane simba, saiye mambo kana Mutungamiri weUnited States, haagoni kuzvipa hama mbiri. "
"Mwari akupa chipo ichi chinoshamisa, akakuita mapatya akafanana uye akakupa hanzvadzi inokosha, kana mumwe munhu akakupa fuma, iwe ungairova uye uchitaura zvakaipa here? Kwete, iwe unogona kuzvikudza uye uchionga kuva nawo Iwe unofungisisa zvakanaka uye woremekedza noruremekedzo, uye ndizvo zvaunofanira kuitira hanzvadzi yako. "