Hapana mubvunzo wakawanda uyo kana mhuri iine hutano uye inofara, zvose zvinoratidzika zvakanaka munyika. Vanababa vanowana mufaro wavo mukuru mukati mechiratidzo cheukama hwakasimba uye hwakanaka hwemhuri.
Asi kwete mhuri dzose dzakasimba, hutano uye hunofara nguva yose. Zvinetso zvehupenyu hwemazuva ano, kudiwa kwebasa rakanaka-hutano hwehupenyu, dambudziko remhuri yeimwe rudzi kana imwe kana matambudziko ehutano hwepfungwa kune mumwe kana vamwe vomumhuri vanogona kuunza mhuri kumabvi ake chero nguva.
Vana vane hurema , matambudziko emari, matambudziko emitemo, uye kungova nemakore uye zvikamu zvevana vakasiyana vanogona kuita zvinetso zvingada kubatsirwa kubatsira kugadzirisa.
Mhuri dzakawanda dzakagadzirirwa kugadzikana kune dzakawanda zvezvinetso izvi. Asi kunyange mhuri dzakanakisisa dzinogona kunzwa kudiwa kwekubatsira kunze kwemhuri yega pfuma.
Kusarudza kana kuroorwa nemhuri yekurapa kwakakosha kumhuri inogona kuva chisarudzo chikuru. Kunyange zvazvo inogona kunzwa pakutanga sekubvuma kukunda kana kukundikana, chaizvoizvo kusarudza mazano ekupa mhuri kunogona kuva danho guru mberi. Funga nezvekupa mazano kune vemhuri sekuwedzera zvimwe zvishandiso zvehukama hwehukama hwemhuri yako . Iwe unogona kudzidza nzira itsva dzekutaurirana, kushanda kuburikidza nezvinetso, kuranga uye kurondedzera kune mumwe nemumwe.
Kana mhuri yako iri kutarisana nechimwe kana zvimwe zvezviratidzo izvi, inogona kunge iri nguva yekufunga nezvekuita zvibvumirano zvewanano unyanzvi uye unyanzvi hwemhuri.
- Nhengo dzemhuri dzinonetsa kushanda mumamiriro avo ose. Iwe unonzwa uine "simba rinopisa" mumhuri yako here? Zvinhu zvakashandiswa kuva tsika uye zvepanyama zvino zvinorema here?
- Nhengo dzemhuri dzinowanzova nemanzwiro akawandisa. Mitezo yemhuri yako inoratidza kutsamwa zvakanyanya, kutya, kusuruvara, kuora mwoyo kana mamwe manzwiro ekunzwa?
- Pane kuparara kwakanyanya mukukurukurirana pakati pemhuri dzemhuri. Unowona zvakaoma kutaura kune zvawakaita here? Uri kuona "kusatendeseka" kakawanda kanowanzoitwa nguva dzose here?
- Nhengo dzemhuri dziri kurega kubva muupenyu hwemhuri. Pane imwe nzira mutsva yemumwechete kana kuti nhengo dzemhuri dzinopinda muchivande here?
- Kune zviratidzo zvechisimba kana kutyisidzira kwechisimba kune iwe pachako kana dzimwe nhengo dzemhuri. Kunze kwezvakanaka "horseplay," unofunga kuti chisimba chiri dambudziko here? Kune humwe hutano hunofungidzirwa se "kurwisa" dai husiri pakati pemhuri yemhuri here?
- Nhengo dzemhuri dzinobudisa manzwiro ekushaya rubatsiro kana kusava netariro. Unonzwa here kuti wakasvika pakuguma kwetambo yako? Uri kutarisana nematambudziko anongoda kutakura here? Unoshamisika kana mhuri yako ichazombopora here?
- Pakave nekushandurwa muitiro yevana kumba kana kuchikoro. Ko makirasi anotora nosedive here? Zvakadini nematambudziko emusangano kana maitiro ekuvhiringidza kuchikoro? Ndiwe wevana vanobva kunze kwekutonga kumba here?
- Mhuri iyi yakave nechinetso chakaipisisa uye nhengo dziri kuoma zvakaoma kubata. Pane kuve kune rufu mumhuri here? Kurambana kana kuparadzana? Imwe nyaya yakawanikwa? IYE mhuri ine ruzivo rwokugadzirisa chinangwa chitsva here?
- Nhengo dzemhuri dzine zvinetso zvekushandisa zvinodhaka. Pane zvinetso nezvinoshandiswa nedoro kana kushandisa zvinodhaka here? Pane imwe nhengo yemhuri ine chirwere chekudya here?
Kuwana uye Kusarudza Mhuri Chirapa
Kana ukasarudza nguva yakakodzera yekupa mazano kumhuri, mhuri dzine basa rinotyisa rokuwana uye kusarudza murwere akanaka kwavari.
Heano zvimwe zvinhu zvaunofanira kufunga paunosarudza mutungamiri wemhuri.
Inishuwarenzi yako inobatsira sei mhuri therapy? Mishonga yehutano hwepfungwa ikozvino yakafukidzwa nehutano inshuwarhu, asi kurapa kwemhuri hakuwanzoonekwa seutano hwehutano hwepfungwa. Tarisa newaunoshandira kuti uone kana vamwe vakaroorana vomunharaunda uye vomumhuri maharapa vari pasi pehutano hwehutano inshuwarheni.
Kuziva kuti avo vanorwara vanobatana muhutano hwehutano hwehutano vanogona kutora chikamu chikuru chekushungurudzika kwemari kubva pakuita chisarudzo chekutsvaga rubatsiro rwezvenyanzvi.
Ko zvakadini neHashandi Assistance Program? Vashandi vakawanda vanopa Bato reHubatsiro Rwevashandi kune vashandi vavo. IEAP inogona kuva nzvimbo yakanaka yekutanga kutsvaga nzira dzokurapa. Mazhinji EAP anotevera "kuongorora uye kutarisa" muenzaniso uyo uchakubatanidza nemushonga unoshanda kumhuri yako. Uye basa racho rinowanzosununguka kana rine mari shoma yekubhadhara. Dhipatimendi rebazi rako revanhu rinogona kukuzivisa iwe kana EAP inosarudza iwe uye kuti ungapinda sei EAP.
Bvunza chiremba wako. Vanachiremba vemhuri vanowanzotaurira varwere kuenda kune vakaroorana vakakodzera uye basa rekupa mazano kumhuri. Sezvo wakashanda pamwe nemamwe mhuri ane matambudziko akafanana, vanachiremba vemhuri vanowanzova nekunzwisisa kuti vana vemapurisa vemumhuri munharaunda vangapa sei rubatsiro rwakanakisisa rwemhuri. Chimbofunga kubvunza chiremba wako kune mazano.
Pastoral care. Kana iwe uine hukama nevechitendero, iwe unogona kukumbira mushumiri wako, mufudzi, rabbi kana zvimwe zvakafanana nezvemashoko. Kakawanda mhuri dzine chitendero chakasimba chichasarudza mutungamiri wekutenda kwavo.
Online referrals. IAmerican Association for Marriage and Family Therapy inopa mushandi wekutsvaga muchengeti wekutsvaga muIndaneti iyo ichakutendera iwe kutsvaga nenharaunda yevamwe nhengo.
Zvinokurudzira iwe pachako. Chimwe chezvinhu zvakanakisisa zvechiremba vanotumirwa ndevanhu vakabatsirwa nemishandirapiriti. Kana mhuri yaunoziva yave iri pakupa mazano, vabvunze pamusoro pezviitiko zvavo nevarapi vavo. Dzidza nezvekuti mushandi anotaura sei uye zviito zvipi zvaakakurudzira kune shamwari yako.
Mibvunzo yekubvunza. Kana uchibvunzurudza mutambi wekushanda pamwe nemhuri yako, unofanira kubvunza mibvunzo inotevera:
- Wakawana kupi zvidigiri zveunyanzvi?
- Icho chiremba yako murapa yemhuri here kana chirango chakafanana?
- Ndiani akatarisa makore enyu ekutanga kliniki?
- Wange uri nguva yakareba sei uchiita?
- Chii chaunosangana nazvo kurapa chinetso changu chairo?
- Ndeipi nzira yako yefilosofi yekupa mazano kumhuri? Kune zvikoro zvepfungwa dzakasiyana mukati mehutano hwemhuri, uye iwe unoda kuziva kuti mushonga iwe unosarudza maitiro emhuri, uye ndeapi mararamiro aanoshandisa.
Kusarudza kutendeuka kune vakaroorana uye kupa mazano kune vemhuri kutarisana nematambudziko emhuri danho guru. Asi inhanho inokosha uye inobatsira apo mhuri yega pfuma yekugadzirisa zvinetso haina kukwana, kana kana zvinetso zvichiita sezvisingagoneki. Kuedza mazano ekupa mhuri hakubvumi kukundwa-iyo danho rinokosha pakubatsira kuvaka bhokisi rekushandisa nemhuri.