Nzira yekudzidzisa vana kuti vaone uye vataure manzwiro avo nenzira dzakanaka.
Somubereki, une basa rekukurudzira mwana wako kukudziridza huchenjeri hwake. Izvi zvinoreva, hongu, njere dzepfundo-asi iyo haisi iyo yerudzi rweuchenjeri chete rinokosha.
Kunzwisisa mupfungwa kunotsanangurwa semunhu anokwanisa kutaura nekugadzirisa manzwiro zvakakodzera paanoremekedza manzwiro evamwe. Ndiyo ruzivo rwehutano hunoita kuti vana vatange kudzidza pane imwe nguva.
Kubatsira kweEmotional Intelligence
Mumakumi emakumi akapfuura mashoma, zvidzidzo zvakawana kuchenjera kwepfungwa zvinopa zvakasiyana-siyana zvekubatsira zvinoshumira mwana wako zvakanaka muupenyu hwake hwose. Heano maitiro mashomanana emanzwiro ekufunga kwepfungwa inobatsira:
- High EQ inobatanidza neIQ yakakwirira. Vana vane hutano hwepamusoro hwekunzwisisa mupfungwa vanoita zviri nani pamatambudziko akaenzana. Vanowanzova nezvikoro zvakakwirira.
- Ukama huri nani. Unyanzvi hwekunzwisisa hupenyu hunobatsira vana kugadzirisa kusawirirana uye kuva nehukama hwepedyo. Vakuru vane marefu ekufunga kwepfungwa vanotaura zvakare hukama huri nani muhupenyu hwavo hwehupenyu uye hwehutano.
- Urubato EQ runobatanidzwa kubudirira zvakakwirira munguva yevanhu vakuru. Ongororo yemakore 19 yakabudiswa muAmerican Journal of Public Health yakaona kuti unyanzvi hwemagariro evanhu uye hwemagariro mukerekeji inogona kufanotaura kuti kubudirira kweupenyu hwose. Vana vaikwanisa kugovana, kubatirana uye kutevera mazano pazera remakore mashanu vainyanya kuwana zviyero zvekoroji uye kutanga kushanda basa remazuva ose nemakore 25.
- Kuvandudza utano hwepfungwa. Vanhu vane zvikwata zvakakwirira zvekunzwisisa mupfungwa havakwanisi kuora mwoyo nekumwe zvirwere zvepfungwa.
Kubatsirwa kwekunzwisisa mupfungwa kunonzwisisa. Mwana anogona kuzvidzora paanenge akatsamwa anokwanisa kuita zvakanaka mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma. Uye mwana anokwanisa kuratidza manzwiro ake nenzira ine utano angangodaro akachengetedza hukama huri nani pane mwana ari kuchema kana kutaura zvinorehwa zvinhu paanenge akatsamwa.
Mashoko akanaka ndeokuti, vana vose vane simba rekudzidza unyanzvi hwekunzwisisa humwe. Vanongoda vanhu vakuru kuti vadzidzise sei.
1. Nyora Manzwiro Emwana Wako
Vana vanoda kuziva kuti vanoziva sei kuti vanonzwa sei. Iwe unogona kubatsira mwana wako nekuisa zita kune iye-manzwiro aunofunga kuti mwana wako anonzwa.
Kana mwana wako atsamwa iye akarasikirwa nemutambo, iwe unogona kuti, "Zvinoita sokuti iwe unonzwa wakatsamwa chaizvo ikozvino. Ndizvo here? "Kana akaona akasuruvara, iwe ungati," Iwe uri kunetseka here kuti hatisi kuzoshanyira Amai nakurukuru nhasi? "
Mashoko emanzwiro akadai sokuti "kutsamwa," "kutsamwa," "kunyara" uye "kurwadziwa" vose vanogona kuvaka mazwi ekuratidza manzwiro. Usakanganwa kugovera mazwi ezvakanaka manzwiro, zvakare, akadai se "mufaro," "kufara," "kufara" uye "tariro."
2. Ratidza Tsitsi
Kana mwana wako atsamwiswa-kunyanya kana manzwiro ake achiita sechinhu chiduku-kunogona kuedza kurerutsa manzwiro aanoita. Asi kusaremekedza kutaura kuchadzidzisa mwana wako kuti nzira yaanonzwa nayo haina kunaka.
Nzira iri nani ndeyekusimbisa manzwiro ake uye kuratidzira tsitsi-kunyange kana iwe usingazivi kuti nei akatsamwa kwazvo. Kana mwana wako ari kuchema nokuti iwe wakamuudza kuti haagoni kuenda paki kusvikira achenesa imba yake, taura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Ndinosuruvara kana ndikasaita kuita zvandinoda zvakare.
Zvakaoma dzimwe nguva kuramba uchishanda apo ini handidi. "
Kana mwana wako achiona kuti iwe unonzwisisa kuti anonzwa sei mukati, anonzwa asingamanikidzi kukuratidza kuti anonzwa sei kuburikidza nemafambiro ake. Saka panzvimbo pokudanidzira uye kuchema kuti akuratidze kuti akatsamwa, achazonzwa ari nani apo iwe wakazvijekesa kuti watoziva kuti anotsamwa.
3. Ratidza Muenzaniso Wakakodzera Nzira Dzokuratidza Manzwiro
Vana vanoda kuziva nzira yekuratidza manzwiro avo nenzira yakagadzikana. Saka paanenge achitaura, "Manzwiro angu anorwadza," kana kutora mufananidzo wechiso chinosuruvarisa chingabatsira, kuchema nekukanda zvinhu hazvina kunaka.
Nzira yakanakisisa yekudzidzisa mwana wako nzira yokuratidza manzwiro ndekuenzanisira unyanzvi uhwu iwe pachako. Shandisa manzwiro mumashoko ako ezuva nezuva uye ita zvekutaura pamusoro pavo. Taura zvinhu zvakadai, "Ndinonzwa ndakatsamwa apo ini ndichiona vana vari kureva panzvimbo yekutamba," kana "Ndinofara kana patinosvika shamwari dzedu dzikauya kuzodya."
Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza vabereki vane manzwiro ezvinyengeri vanowanzova nevana vanonzwisisa mupfungwa. Saka ita kuti uve netsika yekujekesa zvakajeka pakuvaka unyanzvi hwako kuitira kuti iwe uve muenzaniso wakanaka kune mwana wako.
4. Dzidzisa Utano Kuita Unyanzvi
Kana vana vachinzwisisa manzwiro avo, vanoda kudzidza kuti vangagadzirisa sei manzwiro avo nenzira ine utano. Kuziva kuzvidzivirira pasi, kufara ivo pachavo, kana kutarisana nekutya kwavo kunogona kuva kwakaoma kune vaduku.
Dzidzisa unyanzvi humwe. Semuenzaniso, mwana wako angabatsirwa nekudzidza kuti angatora sei kufema kwakapfurikidza paanenge atsamwira kudzikisa muviri wake pasi. Imwe nzira yakabatana yekudzidzisa izvi inosanganisira kumuudza kuti atore "bubble breaths" iyo inofema mukati memhino yake uye inoputika mumuromo wayo sekuti iri kupfuurira kuburikidza nehuvhuta wand.
Iwe unogonawo kubatsira mwana wako kugadzira kitambo chinomubatsira kuti atonge manzwiro ake. Bhuku remavara, bhuku raunofarira joke, mimhanzi inofadza, uye maonero anonhuwira zvakanaka zvinhu zvishomanana zvingabatsira kubata pfungwa dzake nekudzikama. Isa zvinhu mubhokisi rinokosha raanoshongedza. Zvadaro, paanenge atsamwirwa, murangarire kuti aende kumuita kuti anyarare pasi chigadziri uye edza kushandisa zvishandiso zvake kuti agadzirise manzwiro ake.
5. Ita Dambudziko-Kugadzirisa Unyanzvi
Chikamu chekuvaka kuchenjera mupfungwa kunosanganisira kudzidza kugadzirisa matambudziko. Mushure mokunge manzwiro aya akanyorwa uye akataurirwa, inguva yekushanda kuburikidza nekugadzirisa dambudziko racho pacharo.
Zvichida mwana wako akatsamwa kuti hanzvadzi yake inoramba ichimuvhiringidza paanenge achitamba mutambo wevhidhiyo. Mubatsire kuti azive nzira dzinenge shanu dzaanogona kugadzirisa dambudziko iri. Kugadzirisa hazvifaniri kuva mazano akanaka. Pakutanga, chinangwa ndechokufungidzira pfungwa.
Kana akangoona zvinenge zvishanu zvingagadziriswa, mubatsire kuti aongorore mararamiro uye hutano hweumwe neumwe. Zvadaro, mukurudzire kuti asarudze nzira yakanakisisa.
Kana mwana wako achiita zvikanganiso, shanda kuburikidza nezvingave zvakaitwa nenzira yakasiyana uye izvo zvinoitwa nemwana wako kuti agadzirise chero nyaya dzinopera. Edza kuita semutevedzeri, panzvimbo yechinetso-solver chaiyo. Ipa nhungamiro kana zvichidiwa asi shanda kubatsira mwana wako kuona kuti anokwanisa kugadzirisa zvinetso norugare uye kubudirira ari oga.
6. Ita Emotional Intelligence Chinangwa Chinoenderera mberi
Hazvina mhosva kuti mwana wako anonzwisisa zvakadini, nguva dzose pane nzvimbo yekuvandudza. Uye pane zvingangove zvakasara uye zvishoma mumakore ose ehuduku nekuyaruka. Sezvaanokura, angangove akatarisana nezvipingamupinyi zvinogona kupikisa unyanzvi hwake. Saka ita kuti zvive nechinangwa chekuisa mukana wekugadzira muupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva. Apo mwana wako achiri muduku, taura nezvemanzwiro zuva nezuva.
Taura nezvevanhu vanofunga mumabhuku kana mumafirimu vangave vari kunzwa. Kurukurai nzira dzakanakisisa zvinetso zvingadai zvagadziriswa kana mazano evarume vangashandisa kurapa vamwe noruremekedzo. Sezvo mwana wako achikura, taura nezvehupenyu huri mamiriro ezvinhu-kana zviri izvo zvaanosangana nazvo muupenyu hwake hwezuva nezuva kana iri dambudziko rauri kuverenga pamusoro penyaya. Itai kuti irambe iri hurukuro.
Shandisa zvikanganiso zvevana vako semikana yekukura zviri nani. Paanoita zvaanoita nokuti akatsamwa kana anokonzera manzwiro eumwe munhu, tora nguva kutaura pamusoro pekuti angaita sei zviri nani munguva yemberi. Nekusimbirwa kwako nekuenderera mberi kwako, mwana wako anogona kukudziridza huchenjeri hwepfungwa uye simba repfungwa iye achada kubudirira muupenyu.
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