Kubatana neboka rekushaya rubatsiro rinogona kuva nzira yakanaka yekutarisana nekushaya simba . Kutsvaga rubatsiro paunenge uchibata nekushaya simba kunokosha, asi hazvisi nyore nguva dzose. Shamwari nemhuri zvinogona kupa rubatsiro, asi kunyange shamwari dzakanakisisa dzisingakwanise kunzwisisa zvauri kuenda kunze kwekunge uine ruzivo rwekushaya rubatsiro iwe pachako.
Rimwe boka rinotsigira rinogona kupa nzvimbo iyo vanhu vakaroorana vanogona kusangana uye kutaura nevanhu vanoziva.
Dzokai: National Infertility Association, sangano risina hurisiro iro basa rekupa "nguva yakakodzera, rutsigiro ruregerero uye ruzivo kune vanhu vari kurwara kusununguka," rinochengetedza ruzivo rwezvitsauko zvezvikwata uye vanobatana nechinangwa chekupa rubatsiro rwemunharaunda kuvanhu vanorwisana nekushaya vana.
Rambai zvikuru nevaya vanozvipira, Shandurai mapoka ekutsigira anowanikwa muUnited States yose.
KUTAURIRIRA KUTI UCHENGE NEZVANHU ZVOMWE ZVOKUITA MIKANDI MUMWE MUBATSIRO
Penny Joss Fletcher, murume nemudzimai wehutano hwemhuri anonyanya kuzivikanwa nekushaya rubatsiro uye kupiwa vana mazano, anonzwisisa kudikanwa kwekusimbiswa kwekushaya rubatsiro kubva kune zvaanoziva.
Mushure mekutarisana nekuparara kwepakutanga, Penny akapinda musangano wevadzidzisi vezvidzidzo pamusoro pehurukuro yevanoshaya uye manzwiro avo. Pamusangano, akanzwa nezveZIVA kubva kune waaishanda naye uye akasarudza kutarisa mazviri.
"Kunyange zvazvo ndaiva neshamwari dzakawanda dzesayenzi dzakaedza kutsigira (uye dzaiziva kuva netsitsi), dzakanga dzisina kumbobvira dzichiona kusununguka pachavo," anotsanangura Penny.
"Ndigere neboka revakadzi vanogona kunge vaiti zvinhu zvakafanana neshamwari dzangu dzechiremba asi ini ndaizviziva, dzakasiyana zvachose."
Apo Penny akatanga kuwana boka rekusimbisa RESOLVE, akanga achangotanga rwendo rwake nekushaya vana uye kusaperesa . Akabatsirwa kubva kune avo vane ruzivo mukati memashoko pamusoro penyika yekushaya simba, asi kutsigirwa kwepfungwa kwakakosha zvikuru.
"Ndakadzidza zvakawanda pamusoro pezvandakasarudza zvekurapa munguva yemberi, izvo zvakandipa tariro yakawanda. Asi kazhinji, yaiva nzvimbo yandinoenda nayo vhiki rese uye ndichitaura pamusoro pezvaifunga kuva 'kunze kwechirwere' nekusava nepamuviri uye kwete kuva amai. "
Penny anotaurawo kuti yakabatsira kubvisa dambudziko mumhuri yake. "Murume wangu akanga aneta nokunzwa kuchema kwangu uye kuora mwoyo, asi vakadzi ava vakanga vasina! Zvakatora kumanikidzwa kwomurume wangu kuti ndive ndoga ndinotsigirwa mupfungwa. "
Maitiro Eboka Rokutsigira Rinoshanda
RURENDA inopa miviri miviri yemapoka ekutsigira-mutungamiri-anotungamirirwa, iyo ndiyo Penny mutsao akapinda (uye iye zvino anozvitungamirira iye, semupi wezano), uye nevezera rekuongorora mapoka.
Vezera rekubatanidza mapoka vanowanzosangana kamwe chete pamwedzi, uye vanotungamirirwa nemumwe munhu ane ruzivo rwekushaya vana, asi kwete chaizvo unyanzvi.
Misangano inotungamirirwa nevechiremba yakawanda kwazvo, inowanzosangana kamwechete pavhiki, uye inosanganisira mari yekuenda. Vanotungamirirwa nemuongorori wemazano, asi haasi boka remishonga. Mutungamiri aripo chete kuti abatsire kutungamira kukurukurirana uye kubatsira kuchengetedza miganhu ine utano muboka. Makira acho ndeavakadzi kana mavakaroorana uye akakwana muhukuru, kupa nguva yakakwana yokuti munhu wese ataure.
Makirasi anowanzosangana kwemavhiki gumi nemaviri, ane misoro yakasiyana yakagoverwa vhiki imwe neimwe.
Penny anotsanangura, "Misoro yevamwe vakadzi vanopesana nevakadzi kana kuti vakaroorana boka rinowanzobatanidza kuderedza kudzvinyirira, kuzvitarisira, kutsamwa, uye kuora mwoyo , kubata nevemhuri neshamwari, zvinokonzera ukama hwevasikana, kusarudzwa kwezvokurapa, kuberekwa kwechitatu, kubhabhatidza, uye childfree living. Dzimwe nguva mapoka anogadzira uye anotarisa pane nyaya dzakadai sekugamuchirwa kana kutora chikamu chekubereka vana. "
Kunyange zvazvo mapoka akaungana zvakangoita kamwechete pavhiki, vakadzi kana vakaroorana vari muboka vanokurudzirwa kuti vaungane pamwe chete kunze kwegadziriro yeboka.
"Ndinokurudzira vatori vechikamu kuti vabatane pakati pevhiki pakati pemisangano," anodaro Penny. "Ndinoda chaizvo kuti vave shamwari!"
Nzira Yokuwana Nayo Gwaro Rokutsigira Mahara
Kuti uwane kana BASA rekutsigira boka rinowanika munzvimbo yako, shanyira webhusaiti ye RESOLVE kuti uone nzvimbo yauri iwe. Nharaunda imwe neimwe ine webhusaiti, apo ruzivo pamusoro pemapoka ekutsigira anowanikwa.
Vamwe vakadzi vanorwisana nepfungwa yekubatana neboka rekutsigirwa, asi kana iwe unogona kutapfuura maitiro ako, iwe uchafara uchiita.
"Kazhinji, vakadzi vanongotanga kurapwa havadi kubatana neboka rekushaya vana nokuti vanonyatsoziva kuti vachabata pamuviri mwedzi uno," anotsanangura Penny. "Asi ini ndinokurudzira kunyange avo vatangotanga kutora chikamu kuitira kuti vawane rubatsiro uye ruzivo rwavanoda kubva kune rimwe zuva.
"Kana vakawana pamuviri, ivo vanogona kurega kupindira muboka kana vachida." Ndakanga ndine vakadzi vave vachirapa kwemakore pakupedzisira vakapinda muchikwata chekutsigira, uye vanowanzoti vanoda kuti vanga vaita izvi nokukurumidza! "
Pashure pemakore mashanu ekuedza kubata pamuviri, kusanganisira imwe yakakundikana IVF , Penny nemurume wake vakatora mwana. Makore gare gare, iye achiri kuramba achikurukura nevanhu vaakasangana panguva yeboka rake rekutsigira.
"Mushure memasvondo edu gumi nemaviri eboka racho nemapurisa apera, isu tose takaenderera mberi musangano kwemakore matatu anotevera kusvikira tese tine mwana mumwe chete. Uye isu tichiri kuungana pamwe kamwe kamwe pagore (makore gumi nemana gare gare), uye vamwe vedu nevana vedu tiri shamwari dzepamwoyo! "