Chirango Chinotarisa Mukugadzirisa Mitsara uye Kugadzirisa Zvikamu
Boundary-based discipline ndechimwe chezvishanu maitiro makuru ekuranga mano . Nheyo yekusarudzwa kwemiganhu-yakadzika inoratidzika-nyore-vana vanoita kana vanonzwa vakachengeteka.
Chikamu-based discipline chinosanganisira kuisa miganhu yakajeka inoratidza vana zvavanobvumirwa kuita uye izvo zvisingabvi mumiganhu. Zvino, kana vana vachiziva kuti migumisiro yei yekubuda mumiganhu, ivo vachave vakanyatsoteerera.
Maererano nemiganhu-based discipline, vana vachaedza miganho yekuona kuti vanotarisira vachaita sei. Asi, kana vachiziva miganhu nemigumisiro, havangamboedzi kuedza vatarisiri vavo. Nemhaka yeizvi, zvinetso zvekuita zvinoderedzwa.
Mienzaniso yekuedzwa kweMuenzaniso
Vana vezera rose vanowanzofarira kuedza mireji yekuona izvo zvingaita kuti vasiye. Heano mimwe mienzaniso yakajairika yenzira iyo vana vanoedza nayo miganhu:
- Munhu ane makore 4 anoziva kuti haabvumirwi kumira pamatanda, anowira paruoko rwebhedha pamabvi ake kuti aone kana vabereki vake vopindura.
- Mumwe ane makore matanhatu anoti, "Kwete!" Paanoudzwa kuti asvute mazino ake achivimba kuti anogona kuramba achiona TV kwenguva refu.
Mumwe ane makore 8 anoti, "Ndichazviita mumaminitsi mashomanana. Ndiri pedyo nechechi inotevera yemutambo wangu, "paanoudzwa kuti agadzire tafura yekudya. - Mumwe ane makore gumi nematatu akarasikirwa neropafadzo dzake kutamba kunze kwezuva ano anomanikidza kuti aifanira kushandisa imbwa mudivi.
- Mumwe ane makore gumi nemaviri anoona amai vake vachitaura pafoni kuti iye apinde mukicheni kuti adzokere dhodhoro rehomwe mushure mekunge amai vake vamuudza kuti haagoni kuva nehokudya.
- Mumwe ane makore 14 anoudzwa kuti abve pakombiyuta yake usiku kuitira kuti atange kushandisa foni yake kuti afambe webhu.
- Mumwe ane makore 16 anosvika kumusha maminitsi makumi maviri mushure mekuvhara kwake nguva nokuti hapana chakaitika paakanga ava nemaminitsi gumi usiku hwakapfuura.
Zvikwereti-Mazano Anodzidzisa Kurangwa
Boundary-based discipline inoshandisa nzira dzakasiyana-siyana dzokuranga kuti dzitarise kukanganisa kwekutonga. Heano maitiro mashomanana anowanzobatanidzwa-based based discipline:
- Kurukura miganhu. Ita mitemo yeimba uye uchengete mitemo yakanyorwa yanyorwa. Paunenge uine tarisiro isiri pane urongwa, ita zvaunotarisira zviri pachena. Iti, "Iwe unokwanisa kombiyuta yako kwemaminitsi makumi matatu nemanheru ano," kana "Iwe uchada kuchenesa mumba mako usati wabuda kunze."
- Ipa nyevero kana zvichibvira. Edza kupa maminitsi mashanu emaminiso ekuchinja. Iti, "Maminitsi mashanu ichava nguva yekuvhara mitambo yako kuitira kuti ugone kuisa tafura." Apo mwana wako ari kuedza miganhu, ipa kana kana ... uye kunyevera sekuti, "Kana usingatori iyo maidhoni ikozvino, iwe hauzokwanisi kutamba nematombo ako kwezuva rose. "
- Ipa sarudzo . Zviratidzo zvakananga zvinosarudzwa kuitira kuti vana vaone kuti mufambiro wavo uchaguma nemigumisiro yakanaka kana yakaipa . Iti, "Unogona kuvhara mutambo iye zvino nekuisa tafura kana iwe unogona kuramba uchiedza kutamba uye kurasikirwa nemagetsi ako kusvikira mangwana." Ita pachena kuti hausi kukumanikidza vana vako kuti vaite chimwe chinhu asi panzvimbo yavo, ndiro basa ravo kuita sarudzo.
- Shandisa migumisiro inonzwisisika. Mhedzisiro inonzwisisika, yakadai sekubvisa kodzero dzekombiyuta yemwana nekuda kwekuramba kubvisa pikicha yake yevhidhiyo, zvine musoro. Mhedzisiro yacho yakananga zvakananga nekusaziva.
- Rega zviitiko zvepanyama. Migumisiro yemagumisiro anobatsira vana kudzidza pane zvavanokanganisa apo vachivadzidzisa mutoro. Kana mwana wako akanganwa kutakura matanho ake ekuita zvebhora, migumisiro yepanyama ingave kuti haabvumirwi kutora chikamu mumutambo.
- Tumira mwana wako kuti ave nenguva. Kana mwana wako akapfuurirwa kana kuti ari kunyangadza, mutumire iye nguva-kunze. Inogona kutumidzwa, "nguva yakanyarara" kana kuti "kutora nguva" asi inogona kushandiswa senhare yekubatsira vana kudzidza kuti vadzidzise sei pasi.
Chengetedza Kuranga Kwenyu Kubatana
Kubatana ndiko chinhu chikuru chemuganhu-based discipline. Kusungira mitemo kana kupa mukati mushure mekunge wataura kunogona kuita kuti matambudziko ehutano awedzere. Kana iwe uchitevera nemigumisiro pamutemo wega wega, mwana wako achavimba kuti iwe uri mutungamiri wakanaka uye achazonzwa akachengetedzeka iwe iwe, izvo zvinokosha kana iwe uchida kuti atarisire maitiro ake zvakanaka.
> Sources:
> GreatSchools.org: Ndechipi Chirango Chako Chirongwa?
> Winkler JL, Walsh ME, Blois MD, Maré J, Carvajal SC. Mutsidzi Wemutsa: Kuvandudza Muenzaniso WeChiratidzo cheChikoro Chokururamisa Nzira Yokuranga. Kuongorora uye Kuronga Zvirongwa . 2017; 62: 15-24.