Kugadzirisa upenyu hwemhuri yekurera kunogona kunge kwakaoma
Mhuri yakakonzerwa iri kuwedzera. Maererano nekudzidza kwakaitwa muna 2013 kwakaitwa nePew Research Center, 40 muzana yemichato mitsva inosanganisira munhu mumwechete akamboroorana. Uye makumi maviri kubva muzana yemichato inobatanidza vanhu vaviri avo vose vakaroorana vasati vasvika.
Vakawanda veavo vakaroorwa vanosanganisira vana vanokwidziridzwa munyika ye "matanho" -madzimai, vanababa vokurera, vatanho-vakomana, nhanho-vanasekuru. Kuva mhuri yekurera haisi nguva dzose kuenda sechinyararire sezvakaonekwa paBrady Bunch. Kuunza mhuri mbiri pamwechete pasi pedenga rimwe kunogona kunge kwakaoma.
Usatarisira kuti mhuri dzako dzive pamwe chete usiku hwose. Maererano neAmerican Academy of Child uye Adolescent Psychiatry, zvinogona kutora makore maviri kusvika maviri kuitira mhuri dzakabatana kuti dzichinje kuchinja. Asi vabereki vanoita basa mukuderedza nekugadzirisa zvinetso zvinogona kuita kuti nguva yekugadzirisa iwedzere.
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Sibling RivalryNdechipi Chinyorwa? Zvakaoma kuti mwana akukwikwidzane nevana vomunin'ina wenyu munyukliya. Apo iri nhanho-vana vehama dzisina kunyatsoteerera, dambudziko rinogona kukura. Kune mwana asina kumbofanirwa kugovera mubereki kwenguva yakareba, nguva yekugadzirisa ingangodaro iri nguva shoma.
Nzira Yokugadzirisa nayo: Kutanga, taura nemumwe wako, saka iwe uri papeji imwechete maererano nehanzvadzi yako rivalry . Hapana chichashanda kana mumwe wenyu achifunga kuti mwana wemumwe munhu ndiye anokonzera kukakavara, uyewo zvinhu zvakanaka hazviitiki kana iwe uine maitiro akasiyana ekuranga.
Migumisiro nemipiro zvinoda kuva zvakafanana kune vose vana, pasinei nokuti "yakashanda sei" musati mawana vaviri.
Zvadaro, yeuka kuti mune imwe nzira, vana vako vanogona kuva sevasingazivi kupfuura vakoma vehama. Saka usatarisira kuti munhu wese ave "mhuri huru inofara" pakutanga. Zvinotora nguva kuti uende kusvika ipapo.
Kana pakanga pane kuchinja-kwarongwa mukuzvarwa-kureva kuti, mwana mumwechete aimbova mukuru kune iye zvino akaiswa mukati-kubvuma kusuruvara kunogona kukonzera. Mwana akambopfuura mukuru angangodaro akafunga sekuti ane simba shoma iro rave rabviswa kwaari, apo mwana wekare weimba angave akanzwa sokuti akarasikirwa nezvakaimbova nazvo.
Dzivisa kuisa mavara pamusoro pevana vako zvakare. Kunyange mavara akanaka akadai, "Ndiye muimbi mumhuri yedu," uye "Ndiye nyanzvi yedu yemutambo," inogona kuwedzera kukakavara pakati pemhuri. Taura kuti munhu wose ane hutano hwakawanda uye matarenda uye ane hutano kuramba achiongorora nzvimbo itsva dzekufarira.
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Munhu wose Anoda KutarisirwaNdechipi Chinyorwa? Apo nhamba yevana inowedzera, sezvainogara ichiita mumhuri dzakabatana, mumwe kana vana vose vanogona kunzwa sokuti ivo vasiri kutora zvavanoshandiswa.
Uyezve, mhuri dzakabatanidzwa dzimwe nguva dzine zvishoma zvemari yemabasa emwana mumwe oga emamwe mabasa kana zvekubuda kwemhuri nekuda kwehuwandu hukuru hwemhuri kana rubatsiro rwemari kuenda kumunhu wekare.
Nzira Yokugadzirisa nayo: Sezvo kune dzimwe nyaya dzakawanda, dambudziko iri rinogona kugadziriswa-kune zvakanakisisa zvaro, chero zvakadaro- nekushanda pamwe semhuri. Ita purogiramu yakagadzirirwa iyo munhu wese akaenzanisa, nemwana mumwe nomumwe achisarudza basa mukati mehumwe bhajeti mumwedzi wose.
Uyezve, vose vakuru vanofanira kuenda kumabasa emwana mumwe nomumwe, zvakadai semitambo yemitambo, mitambo kana makontikiti, saka hainzwi sokuti mumwe mwana ari kufarirwa pane mumwe.
Ipa mwana mumwe nomumwe zvakanaka. Pasinei nokuti iwe unotamba mutambo mutsva pamwe chete kwemaminitsi gumi zuva rega rega kana iwe unoronga nguva yekubuda kwemwedzi, kupa vana vemaoko nevana vekurera vakanyanya kutarisa kunogona kusimbisa chisungo chako.
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Kurangwa Kwevabereki Mubereki Anogona KuomaNdechipi Chinyorwa? Pane imwe nguva mukomana kana mukomana wechibereki wezvakaberekwa ari mumwe munhu waunofara naye, ikozvino iwe uri chiremera-uye izvo zvinogona kukonzera matambudziko mashomanana mumba.
Nzira Yokugadzirisa nayo: Musangano wemhuri uri kurongeka, asi tanga kugara pasi nemumwe wako kuti uone mitemo yemhuri yako . Tora nyora uye nyora pasi mitemo yako nemigumisiro yekuputsa mitemo iyoyo.
Kana imi mose mune vana vakatotanga, pane mikana yakawanda yekuti mune mitemo yakasiyana. Saka zvakakosha kuuya pamwe chete kuti uite mitemo yakafanana kune vose kuitira kuti usararame semhuri mbiri dzakasiyana pasi pedenga rimwe.
Ziva maitiro anoguma mukuranga, kuti uri kuranga sei , uye kana pane mamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo akakomberedza chirango ichocho. Zvakakosha kuti imi vaviri muuye nehutungamiri pamatambudziko ekuranga .
Dzimwe nguva, mumwe mubereki anoda kuva "kunakidza." Pane dzimwe nguva, mubereki mumwe anotarisira kuti mubereki mutsva angagona kuisa mutemo uye kuwana zvinhu nenzira yakakurumidza.
Asi kuuya pamwe chete semhuri yakabatana kunoreva kuti vabereki vose vanofanira kuunza kubatana mberi. Yeuka, vana vanokurumidza kuziva kuti "chinangwa chinorevei" ndechekusvika pakuwana nzira yavo, uye inogona kukura kuva masters ekunyengedza kukanda munhu mukuru kune mumwe.
Zvadaro, danai munhu wese kutafura. Bvisa manotsi aya awakabvisa, uye enda kwavari semhuri.
Vechidiki venyu vanogona kuva nemafungiro avo vanoda kugovera, uye kuva nezvose zvakanyorwa pasi zvinoreva kuti munhu wose achaziva chaizvo kuti mitemo yeimba ndeyei, pamwe nemigumisiro yekuputsa mitemo iyoyo.
Tsanangura kune vana kuti, mumba mako, vakuru vakuru vose vanogona kumanikidzira kurangwa kune umwe wevana, uye zvinotarisirwa kuti vana vachiteerera mubereki wevabereki sezvavanoda chero humwe humwe simba.
Nezvose izvi zvakati, zvakakosha kuti vanaamai vauye vafunge nezvekuvaka chibvumirano panzvimbo yekuraira vana pakutanga. Pasina hukama hwakanaka, chirango hachizoshandi. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika nevechiri kuyaruka.
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Iwe Unonzwa Sezvakaita Mhuri DzakasiyanaNdeipi nyaya? Iwe newawakaroorana naye munoda kunzwa semunhu mumwechete unogona kufara, kugovana, uye kuvimba kune umwe neumwe. Vana havasi kunyatsosununguka kune mumwe nemumwe, kunyange zvakadaro, kana nevabereki vavo vatsva. Zvinonzwa sokuti iwe uchiri kuita semhuri mbiri dzinongoitika kuti dzigare mumba imwe chete.
Nzira Yokugadzirisa nayo: Haugoni kubatira chisungo usiku humwe. Zvinotora nguva kuti uwane ruzivo rwakagoverana, fungidzira hukama hutsva uye hugadzirire kune itsva itsva.
Tanga nzira yacho zvishoma nezvishoma nokutanga tsika itsva semhuri. Vangave vaive vachiverenga bhuku pamwe chete usiku humwe mubhedha huru muimba yekamuri yekuvata kana kutora rwendo kuenda kunzvimbo yekutamba yega yega Svondo mangwanani mangwanani asati adya.
Iwe unogonawo kushandura kuchinja kwekuenda kune imwe imba kuenda kune imwe imba, nzira inogona kuitika nguva dzose kana iwe kana wako wako mune chisungo chekuchengetedza. Somuenzaniso, iwe unogona kumira ice cream nguva dzose paunotora vana kubva kune imwe imba yemubereki. Iyi duku tsika inoratidza kuvana kuti inguva yekuenda mune imwe nzira, asi nenzira inofadza.
Zvakakoshawo kupa vana nguva yekuchema. Kunyange zvazvo imba itsva inogona kufara, iyo inoratidzawo kuguma kwemhuri yekare yakasimbiswa. Uye izvozvo zvinogona kuva noutano kune vana vanove vachiri kutambura kubata nemashoko ekuti vabereki vavo venyama havasisiri pamwe chete kana kuti nguva yavo yekuva mwana mumwe chete ane mirwi yekucherechedza yasvika pakaguma.
Pasinei nezvinetso, mhuri yakakanganiswa ichiri icho chete-mhuri. Kunyange zvazvo paine kuve nekukura kurwadziwa, kukanganisa uye nguva shomanana dzokuranga, munhu wose achapedzisira achigadzirisa mamiriro matsva. Zvikanganiso zvichaitwa, nevana uye nevakuru, asi munhu wese achadzidza kubva pane izvo zvisiri izvo. Pakupedzisira, imba yacho ichanzwa isingasviki seyemhuri yemhuri uye yakawanda seyimbi yakasimba.
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