Kubatsira Kwaunobatsira Kunogona Kubatsira Sei Kuronga & Ongorora Zvaunoda
Kune zvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana zvekutsvaga mushonga kuti ashande kuburikidza nehutano hwako. Zvichida kuti mwana wako wokupedzisira wekubereka vana anokurudzira kana kuti unoda kuti uone mupi wezano pane mamwe maitiro, sezvinoitwa paunosarudza kushandisa chirume kana mazai evha . Amai nehuta vanopa ivo pachavo vanodiwa kuti vaone mutano wehutano hwepfungwa vasati vabvumirwa kupa.
Kana, iwe unogona kunge uchifunga kuti kuona chiremba kunogona kukubatsira kuti utsungirire kurwadziwa mupfungwa kwekushaya mwana .
Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti kurwadziwa kwevakadzi kunosangana nekupererwa kwakafanana kune vanobata nekenza, HIV, uye kurwadziwa kusingaperi. Kurwisana nekushaya simba kwakaoma , uye vanoda rubatsiro ndezana zana muzana.
Penny Joss Fletcher muroora uye mhuri yemapurisa anogara muTustin, California, anonyanya kuzivikanwa nekushaya rubatsiro uye kupiwa vana mazano. Anonzwisisa kusabereka kwete chete kubva pane unyanzvi, asiwo munhu oga. Pashure pemakore mashanu ekurapwa kwekushaya vana , kusanganisira kurapa kweVFF , iye nemurume wake vakasarudza kutora.
Hezvino izvo zvaanotaura pamusoro pekupa vana mazano.
Chikonzero # 1: Kana Kusarangarira Kunotora Upenyu Hwako
Sezvambotaurwa pamusoro, kusabereka kunogona kukuremedza. Kunyange zvazvo kusununguka hakusi nyore kune ani zvake, vamwe vanoshanda zvakanaka ivo pachavo.
Zvisinei, kana uri kuwana kuti kusabereka kuri kutora hupenyu hwako, unogona kufunga nezvekupa mazano.
"Kana kusuruvara kwako, kuora mwoyo , kunetseka, kana kufunganya kunowedzera uye kunobatsira nzvimbo dzakawanda dzehupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva, zvino zvakakosha kutsvaga rubatsiro rwemhizha," anotsanangura Fletcher. "Chiremba anogona kukudzidzisa unyanzvi hwokugadzirisa uye mazano okutarisira kuderedza zvimwe zvekuora mwoyo kana kufunganya."
Uyewo, mishonga yekuzvidya mwoyo kana kuora mwoyo kunogona kubatsira, icho chinhu chimwe chiremba chepfungwa chinogona kukubatsira.
"Mimwe mishonga inobvumirwa kunyange kana ichiedza kubata pamuviri, asi zvinokosha kuti uongorore izvi nechiremba wako," anodaro Fletcher.
Chikonzero # 2: Kana Kusakanganiswa Kunokuvadza Ukama Hwako
Ukama hwedu huri pasi pekunyanya kunetseka paunenge uchipererwa. Ndiyo mamiriro ekumanikidzwa anogona kukuunza iwe pamwe chete pane dzimwe nguva, uye pane dzimwe nguva kukukwezva. Izvozvo zvinogona kuita kuti upenyu hwako hwepabonde huwedzere hukama kune hukama.
Pamusoro peizvi zvose, kusanzwisisana pakati pemumwe kunogona kugadzirisa zvinhu. "Kazhinji vakaroorana vanoshushikana mupfungwa nenzira dzakasiyana," anotsanangura kudaro Fletcher. "Vakanyanyisa vakadzi vanotaura manzwiro avo zvakasununguka uye vanoda kubudisa pfungwa dzavo. Varume vanowanzofunga nezvekugadzirisa matambudziko uye vangarega kuzvirega vachinzwa kurasikirwa kwemwedzi mumwe nomumwe."
Infertility yakaoma, asi zvakatooma kana iwe usine rubatsiro rwewawakaroorana naye kana wawakaroorana navo. Dzimwe nguva, shamwari yako ndiyo chete inogona kunyatsonzwisisa zvauri kuitika. Kupa mazano kunogona kukubatsira kuti unzwisise nekusigirana.
Chikonzero # 3: Kana Usina Chokwadi Zvaunofanira Kuita
Mumwe mazano anonyanya kurovedzwa mukushanda nemadzimai ane kusununguka anogona kukubatsira kuronga kuburikidza nezvamunosarudza.
Mupi wezano anogona kukubatsira kuti uite chisarudzo chakanaka uye uchikubatsira kuti uone kuti zvinoshandiswa nemishonga yako zvinosanganisirei, kusanganisira mari uye kushungurudzika mupfungwa kwezvisarudzo.
"Ndinofunga kuti chero nguva apo vaviri vari mumugwagwa mushure mekutonga kwechisarudzo, zvinogona kubatsira kutaura nemudzidzisi wepfungwa," anodaro Fletcher. "Kunyanya kana kusagadzikana pamusoro pezvinozoita zvinotevera, kuva nechinangwa chechitatu chinogona kubatsira."
Kutanga chirwere cheVIV chirwere chakajairika chokuti vakaroorana vanoda kubatsirwa. Ichokwadi, mamwe ekupedzisira ekuberekorora vanachiremba vanokurudzira varwere kuti vaone mutungamiri kare kana panguva yekurapa.
"Vanhu vakawanda havakwanisi kugadzirisa zvinowanzoitika pakuita IVF," anotsanangura kudaro Fletcher. "Kutaura nemushonga usati watanga chirongwa cheVIV chingakwanisawo kubereka."
Chikonzero # 4: Paunofunga nezveGamete Mipiro, Kuzvipira, kana Kubvumirwa
"Nguva inonyanya kukosha yekuwana kubvunzurudza nemumwe munhu anonyatsozivikanwa nehutano hwekushaya vana apo apo murume kana murume ari kutarisa kushandiswa kwemumwe munhu kubereka kana kubvumirwa kuti aumbe mhuri yavo," anotsanangura Fletcher.
Kunyanya patinenge tichifunga kushandiswa kweii inopa mazai , chirwere chemuviri, kana kupa mhumbo, kupa mazano kunofanirwa uye kunowanzodiwa musati watapwa. Izvo zvinoenda kune kuzvipira uye kutorwa. Izvozvo zvinokonzerwa nekuita zvisarudzo zvakadai zvinogona kuva zvakasimba, chimwe chinhu icho vamwe vakaroorana vanogona kutora.
"Pane kurasikirwa kwakakura kunofanirwa kubvumwa uye kushungurudzika paunofamba kubva kuIVF uchishandisa ma gametes ako kune vamwe vevatsigiri vezvematongerwo enyika, maitiro kana kubvumirwa," anodaro Fletcher.
Paunenge uchitaura nezvemagetete mhipi kana kuti surrogacy, dzimwe nyaya dzinopa mazano kune iwe newawakaroorana naye dzinosanganisira:
- Kujekesa kuti nei uri kuita sarudzo.
- Kusimbisa kuti iri sangano rekubatana, chimwe chinhu iwe nemumwe wako munobvumirana.
- Kutaura nezvekuti iwe ungaudza shamwari neshamwari maererano nechisarudzo chako, uye kana hongu, sei uye sei iwe ungazviita.
- Kutaura pamusoro pemigumisiro yezvipo pahukama hwako nemupi, kana iwe uchiziva mupi.
- Kufunga kuti zvinorevei kune iwe nemwana wako weramangwana kana ukasarudza kuvharwa kana kubvumirwa kusunungurwa kana gadete mhipo. (Mune mamwe mazwi, mupi weyo anopa mvumo kune mhuri yako gare gare, kana kwete?)
- Kana mupiro kana kuti mutsvaga asina kusarudzwa, kukurukurirana kwezvinotarisirwa iwe zvauri kutsvaga mubatsiri, uye nei.
- Kufungisisa nguva, sei, uye kana iwe uchataurira chero chinokonzera mwana akaberekwa nemubatsiro nemunhu wechitatu. (Zvakanaka zvikuru vese vatsigiri vanokurudzira kuti vaudze mwana wacho asi kuti sei uye sei kuti uite izvi haisi zvakajeka.
Fletch anotsanangura kuti, "Kazhinji, ndinoona izvi kubvunzurudza sechimwe chikamu che" chibvumirano chakanaka "chokuti vaviri vacho vari kubvunzwa kuti vaenderere mberi nekutariswa kwevatatu.Ndinoda kuti vakaroorana vafare pamusoro pavo pachavo uye nekurovedzwa kwekurapa pavanofamba mberi iyi ndiyo nguva yekubvuma nekushanda kuburikidza nekushungurudzika, kutya, kana kunyadziswa pakuumba mhuri nenzira iyi. "
Chikonzero # 5: Paunofunga nezvehupenyu husina vana
Pasinei nokuti inouya pashure pemakore ekurapwa, kana kutanga nekuziva kuti izvo zvasarudzwa hazvina kunaka kwauri, kuziva kuti hauzove nevana zvakaoma zvikuru. Kune vamwe, kupa mazano kunogona kubatsira nekugadzirisa manzwiro anouya nekuziva uku.
Kuita chisarudzo chaicho chekusununguka hachisi chakafanana nekusarudza "kusadzivisa asi kwete kuedza" kuva nemwana. (Mune mamwe mazwi, kusarudza kusavhara mishonga yekurapa kana nguva yekuita zvepabonde nokuda kwekuvhara muviri, asiwo kusashandisa chero nzira ipi yekudzivirira kubata pamuviri.) Hazvina kufanana nekusarudza kuti iwe uchafunga nezvekugamuchirwa "pane imwe nguva munguva yemberi." Kana kusarudza kuti iwe "unogona kuedza kurapa zvakare rimwe zuva."
Kunyange zvazvo pane nzvimbo yezvizvi zvose, havabvumiri kupfigwa. Mikana yekuwana mwana achiripo mupfungwa dzevakaroorana. Izvo zvinoita kuti zvive zvakaoma zvikuru kuchema kurasikirwa kwavo.
"Kana vakaroorana vachinzwa kuti vari pamagumo ekurapa maitiro, vane zvisarudzo zviviri-vangararama vasingabatsiri kana kutora. Hapana chisarudzo chiri nyore, "anodaro Fletcher. "Ndinofunga kuti zvakakosha kuti vauye kune chairo chaicho chokurarama vasina vana uye kwete kungoita kuti nguva ipfuure musingaitizve kurapwa kana kubvuma. Izvo zvakaoma kwazvo, asi kupa simba, chisarudzo. "
Chikonzero # 6: Nokuti Unogona Kuwedzera Mazano
Zvichida hausi kunyanya kunzwa uchiora mwoyo kana kufunganya, uye iwe haunowiri mukati memamwe mapoka ari pamusoro apa. Asi iwe unonzwa sokuti iwe unogona kushandisa ruzhinji rutsigiro, mumwe munhu kuti ataure naye, ndiani anogona kukupa mamwe mashandisi ekugadzirisa. Kurayira kunogona kuva sarudzo yakanaka kwauri, zvakare.
Iwe haufaniri kuva nechikonzero, pane se. Iwe haufaniri kumirira kusvikira iwe uchinzwa wakanyanyisa zvokuti iwe zvechokwadi unenge wakaora mwoyo uye uine hutsinye.
Zvinosuruvarisa, kuona mutano wehutano hwepfungwa kunoonekwa sechiratidzo chekushaya simba nevamwe vanhu. Kufunga kunofamba kuti dai iwe wakanga wakasimba zvakakwana (chero zvinorevei), saka iwe haungadi kubatsirwa nekutarisana.
Izvi hazvisi zvechokwadi. Vanhu vakasimba vanoziva pavanoda rubatsiro rukuru. Kuona mushonga hakufaniri kunyadziswa pamusoro. Kutaura zvazviri, kuva noushingi kukumbira rubatsiro chiratidzo chemasimba pachako.
Shoko Rinobva Kunyanya
Kubatsira kurapa kunogona kubatsira munzira dzakawanda-kubva kukubatsira kuti uratidze kuburikidza nemasarudzo ako ekukubatsira kutsungirira kushungurudzika kwekushaya mwana. Dzimwe nguva, unoda mushonga uyo anoziva nezvekushaya vana uye kusarudzwa kwekuita kurapa. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika kana uri kuedza kuronga kuburikidza nekusarudza kwako. Dzimwe nguva, kuva nechiremba uyo ari "nyanzvi" mukunetsana kwematambudziko kune bhonasi yakawanda kudarika zvinodiwa. Semuenzaniso, kana iwe uchida kutsigirwa nematambudziko emanzwiro, chero ani zvake akakodzera, mutungamiriri ane tsitsi anogona kubatsira.
Pasinei nokuti chikonzero chei, kana kuti kwete-chikonzero, iwe unofanira kuziva kuti haufaniri kupfuura nomunzira iyi yekushaya rubatsiro uri woga uye pasina rubatsiro. Vapeuki kunze uko vakadzidziswa kukubatsirai. Uye kana iwe ukakwanisa kushandisa rubatsiro rwakawedzerwa, shingairira.
> Kwakabva:
> Fletcher, Penny. Email interview.
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