Hazvina mhosva kuti ukama hwehukama huri nani, pane huchava nemakakatani mashomanana pano neapo. Uye zvishoma nezvishoma kusagadzikana kakawanda hachisi chinhu chikuru.
Kukurukurirana kwakakura, kuichengeta kazhinji kubva pamanzwi evana, uye kuramba kutumidza-kudana vose kuratidzira mwana nzira yekugadzirisa kusagadzikana nenzira yakagadzikana.
Asi kukakavhiringidza kwakanyanya kunotora kutora vana.
Ichokwadi, zvidzidzo zvinoratidza vabereki vanorwisana zvinokanganisa utano hwepfungwa hwevana nenzira dzakasiyana. Kuchinja kwepanyama, kutuka, uye mazano akadai se "kunyarara," zvingangodaro zvinokanganisa mumwana kwenguva refu.
Chinoita Kuti Vabereki Varwisana Ndicho Chinetso
Pane tsvakurudzo yekuratidza kuti mwana achiri muduku semwedzi mitanhatu anokwanisa kushungurudzika nekutaura kwehasha kwevabereki. Asi haisi vana vaduku chete vanobatwa nevabereki vari kurwisana-zvimwe zvidzidzo zvinoratidza vechidiki, kusvika pazera remakore 19, vanogona kunge vane hanya nekukakavadzana muwanano yevabereki vavo.
Inoenda kuratidza kuti vana vemakore ose, kubva paucheche-paucheche kuburikidza nekukura kwevanhu vakuru, vanokanganiswa nekutsi vabereki vavo vanosarudza kubata sei kusiyana kwavo.
Vatsvakurudzi vanotenda kuti mhuri dzakawanda dzinopesana dzinobata mararamiro ehutano hwemwana nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana siyana:
- Vana vane mafungiro asina kuchengeteka. Kurwisana kunoparadza vana 'pfungwa yekuchengeteka pamusoro pekugadzikana kwemhuri. Vana vanoratidzirwa kurwisana kwakanyanya vanogona kunetseka pamusoro pokurambana kana kushamisika kana mumwe mubereki ari kunyatsotarisa achange apera. Zvinogona kuita kuti zvive nyore kwavari kuti vave nechinangwa chekugara mumhuri sezvo hondo dzisingatarisiki.
- Ukama hwomubereki nemwana hunove hunovhiringidzwa. Kukwirira-kukaka mamiriro ezvinhu kunonetsa kuvabereki. Uye mubereki akashungurudzwa angave asingagoni kupedza nguva yakawanda nevana. Mukuwedzera, hukama hwehukama hunogona kuchinjwa sezvo zvingave zvakaoma kuti vabereki varatidze ushamwari uye rudo kana vakatsamwira uye vakatsamwa nemumwe mubereki.
- Kurwisana kunogadzira nzvimbo inonetsa. Kunyanya kuperesa kana kurwisana kwakanyanya kunonetsa kuvana. Kushungurudzika kunogona kutora mararamiro avo mumuviri uye mupfungwa mupfungwa uye kunopesana nehutano hwakanaka, hutano hwakanaka.
Mazuva Ekupedzisira Mamiriro Eutano Hwepfungwa
Muna 2012, chidzidzo chakabudiswa mubhuku rinonzi Child Development rakatarisa zvinokonzera kukakavadzana kwevabereki pamusoro pevana kubva kuchikoro chechikoro kusvika kuchikoro chechinomwe. Vaiva chikamu chema 235 emhuri yepamusoro-kati mumhuri muMidwest neNetherlands United States ine mari inowanikwa pakati pe $ 40,000 ne $ 60,000.
Apo vana vavo vaiva muchikoro chechikoro, vabereki vakabvunzwa nezvekukakavadzana kwavakawana mumhuri yavo. Vakakumbirwawo kuti vataure nezvehurukuro yakaoma, yakadai semari, uye vatsvakurudzi vakatarisa kuti vavakidzani vakanga vakakomba zvakadini.
Makore manomwe gare gare, vatsvakurudzi vakatevera nemhuri. Vose vana nevabereki vakabvunzwa nezvekurwisana muwanano yevabereki uye utano hwepfungwa nehutsika hwevana.
Vadzidzisi vevabereki vaiva nevabereki vakarwisana zvinorema uye kazhinji vainyanya kuve nokuora mwoyo, kuzvidya mwoyo nemafungiro ehutano nenguva yavakasvika mukirasi yechinomwe.
Izvo handizvo chete izvo vana vanogona kutarisana nazvo kana vabereki vavo vachirwisana kakawanda.
Heano zviwanikwa zvimwe zviongorori zvakawanikwa pakuongorora zvinokonzerwa nekurwa kwevabereki kunogona kuva nevana:
- Kunonoka kugadziriswa kwebasa - Chidzidzo che2013 chakabudiswa muChikumbiro chevana chakawana kuti kushungurudzika kunobatanidza nekugara mumusha wakakunda kunogona kukanganisa kusangana kwevana. Vatsvakurudzi vakaona kuti kana vabereki vakarwa kakawanda, vana vainge vaine dambudziko rakawanda kurongedza kutarisa kwavo uye manzwiro avo. Kugona kwavo kukurumidza kugadzirisa matambudziko nekukurumidza kuona maitiro muhutsva hutsva hwakakanganiswawo.
- Kuwedzera kwehutano hwehukama - Kuonekwa kune vabereki kurwisana kunowedzera mikana yokuti vana vachabata vamwe nekuvenga. Zvinowanzoitika kuti vana vako vangazotanga kugadzirisa vakoma vako vakabatana nemazano akafanana avakakuona iwe uchishandisa. Uye vanogona kunetseka kuti varambe vane hukama hwehutano pavanenge vakwegura zvakare kana ivo vakakurira kuvhiringidza kwemhuri.
- Nhamba dzakakwirira dzehutano hwehutano - Mhirizhonga yevabereki yakabatanidzwa mukuwedzera kwechisimba, kudengenyeka, uye kutarisana nezvinetso kuvana. Uyezve, vana vanowanzova nezvinetso zvepamagariro uye kuwedzera kuoma kuchinja kuchikoro.
- Kuwedzera kwengozi yekusawirirana kwekudya - Tsvakurudzo dzinoverengeka dzakabatanidza zvinetso zvekudya, zvakadai seanorexia uye bulimia, kukonzera kukuru kwevabereki.
- Nhamba dzakakwirira dzevechiri kuyaruka kushandisa zvinodhaka - Vanotsvakurudza vakaona kuti kugara mumusha une huwandu hwekukakavhiringidza kunowedzera mikana yekusvuta, kunwa doro, uye kushandiswa kwebambani, maererano nehutano hwakadzikama hwemhuri-mubereki.
- Nhengo dzepanyama - Mwana angatova nemigumisiro yenyama kubva mukurwisana, zvakadai sezvirwere zvehope, chironda chemimba kana kuti musoro.
- Dambudziko repamusoro rezvinetso zvedzidzo - Zvimwe zvidzidzo zvakawana kuti kugara mumhuri yakakakavhiringidza kunowedzera mikana yekudarika kubva kuchikoro chesekondari uye kushaya mashoma.
- Maonero akaipa pane hupenyu - Vana vanorerwa mumhuri yakakwirira-mhiri vanowanzove vane maonero asina kunaka nezvehukama hwavo hwemhuri. Ivo vanowanzoitawo kuti vazvione nenzira isina kunaka. Chidzidzo che2012 chakabudiswa mu Journal of Youth uye Adolescence chakawana kuti vana vakaratidzirwa kurwisana kwevabereki vanogonawo kunge vasina kuzvikudza.
Rini Kurwisana Kuoma?
Pasinei nezera revana vako kana kuti uri kuona migumisiro yemakakatanwa emhuri, nyatsotarisisa kuti unopopotedzana sei. Kungokonzerwa nokuti hondo dzako hadzina kuwana muviri hazvireve kuti hazvikuvadzi vana vako.
Kusagadzirisa kusawirirana maitiro anogona kunge asina kunaka kune vana anosanganisira:
- Kutumira mazita
- Kunyunyuta
- Kutyisidzira kwokusiya (zvakadai sokutyisidzira kubva mumba kana kurambana)
- Chero hupi hwehutsinye hwemuviri (kusanganisira kukanda zvinhu kana kurova zvinhu muhasha)
- Kufamba kunze kana kubvisa kubva pamakakatanwa
- Kutora (kupa mune mumwe mubereki kana pasina chaicho chinogadziriswa)
Saka kana iwe uchifunga kuti uchifamba kubva pakakakavadzana uye kupa mumwe wako kunyarara kwemazuva matatu haisi basa guru-iri basa guru kuvana vako. Vana vako vanoona kuti iwe unobata sei kusawirirana uye vanodzidza unyanzvi hwokugadzirisa zvinetso, unyanzvi hwemagariro ehumwe, uye unyanzvi hwekugadzirisa kukakavara kubva kwauri.
Zvakakoshawo kufunga nezvemashoko aunotumira kuvana vako nezvehukama hwehukama. Kana iwe nemumwe wako muchibata mumwe nomumwe nekusaremekedza, vana vako vachakura vachifunga kuti zvakanaka kuita zvimwe chete-uye zvichida vanozofunga kuti zvakanaka kuti vamwe vabata navo zvisina kunaka.
Kuwedzeredza Migumisiro Yechirano Choroorana
Dzimwe nguva, kusabvumirana kunobuda kunze. Mumwe munhu anoti chimwe chinhu chavasingarevi, mumwe mubereki haaoni kuti vana vavo vari kuteerera kune rumwe rutivi rwemasvingo.
A spat kana maviri hazvirevi kuti wakanganisa mwana wako zvisina kunaka. Zvisinei, iwe unogona kutora matanho mashomanana kuti uderedze migumisiro yezvavakaona nekunzwa. Kana kusabvumirana kwako kuchikura kusaremekedza, unogona kutora matanho aya ekugadzirisa mamiriro acho nevana vako:
- Kurukurai hondo . Kunyangwe iwe haufaniri kupinda mune zvakananga pamusoro pezvo iwe newawakaroorana naye musingabvumirani pamusoro payo, itai musangano wemhuri kuti mutaure chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Baba na ini takanga takaita nharo humwe husiku hwakabuda. Isu hatina kufunga kwakafanana pane chimwe chinhu chaikosha isu tose, asi zvakanga zvisina kururama kwatiri kurwisana saizvozvo. "
- Iva nechokwadi chevana kuti chaingova gakava uye kwete kuratidza matambudziko makuru . Vavatsigire kuti iwe uchiri kudanana uye kuti hausi kuzorambana (uchifunga, zvechokwadi, kuti iri chirevo chechokwadi).
- Gadzirisa iyo nekuita kuti vana vanzwisise kuti iwe uchiri mhuri yakasimba . Tsanangura kuti zvikonzero zvinowanzoitika dzimwe nguva uye vanhu vanogona kurasikirwa nehasha dzavo. Zvisinei, imi mose munodanana, pasinei nekusawirirana kwenyu.
Kana iwe uchidavira kuti kurwisana kwako nemumwe wako kana mukomana wako kunokuvadza pfungwa yemwana wako, funga kuona chiremba. Mumwe mushonga anokwanisa kuona kana mumwe wenyu aigona kubatsirwa nemumwe munhu kurapwa kuti adzidze unyanzvi, sekutsamwa kwehasha kana mutemo wekunzwa, kana iwe uchifanira kuenda kune vakaroorana vanopa mazano kushanda paukama hwenyu pamwechete.
Vana Vachiri Nani Kupfurikidza Muviri-Mubereki Mhuri?
Vana vanowanzoita zvakanaka mumhuri dzine vabereki vaviri. Asi, zvinokosha kuti vabereki vabvumirane. Kana pane zvakawanda zvekurwa, vana vanogona kubudirira kana vabereki vavo vakaparadzana.
Vabereki vakawanda vanozvibvunza kana vari nani pane kugara pamwe pamwe chete nekuda kwevana kana kuti kungovarambana. Zvakajeka kuti kurambana kunogona kutora kurasikirwa kwepfungwa pamusoro pevana.
Mukuwedzera, vana vanokura nevabereki vasina voga vanowanzoona mamwe matambudziko-kufanana nehupfumi-uye vangasaita pamwe nevana vanokura mumhuri dzine vabereki vaviri. Uye zvakajeka, kuroorazve uye kurarama mumhuri yakabatana kunogona kuva kwakaoma kune vanawo.
Asi, kurarama mumusha wakazara-mhirizhonga kunogona kunge kwakangofanana nekushungurudza-kana kuti zvichida kunyanya kunetsa vana-kunze kwekuti vabereki vavo vakarambana. Apo vabereki vanowirirana panguva uye mushure mekurambana, vana vanowanzosangana nehupenyu hunogara kwenguva refu.
Saka kana iwe ukazviwana uri muukama hwakasimba, kugara pamwe chete kuti vana vasaita vana vako chero zvipi zvazvo. Zvakakosha kutsvaka rubatsiro kuderedza kukakavara kana kuita shanduko kuhukama kuitira kuti vana vako vagone kukura vachifara uye vane utano hwakanaka.
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