Utano Hwakanaka Nhengo Dzose Mhuri Dzichabhadhara Zvikwereti Zvakapfuma
Amai vamwene ndivo vakava mamiriyoni emarudzi ejokes, asi haasi kuseka kuti kuva amai vamwene vakanaka. Kunyange zvakadaro, basa raamai vamwene ndivo chimwe chezvinhu zvakakosha pakuita kuti mhuri dzive dzakanaka. Kana iwe uchida kuva amai vako vakanaka, unofanira kutanga watanga kudzidza kuti uve amai vamwene vakanaka sei, sezvo ukama uhwu hunokwanisa kuisa toni yebasa raambuya.
Amai vamwene nemudzimai vanouya mumhando mbiri dzakasiyana-siyana: Amai vamwene nemwana-muroora, umo mwana wezvinyorwa ari mwanakomana, uye amai vamwene nemwana-mukwambo, mune zvayo mwana mwanasikana. Kazhinji amai vemukomana vanosekwa vanobva kuhukama hwechipiri: Mutevedzeri wechikomana ndiye anowanzoita majee pamusoro paamai vamwene vake.
Zvinofadza kuti ndeimwe mhando dzakasiyana - kusanganiswa kwamai vamwene nemwanasikana wemukomana-izvo zvinokonzera vazhinji vevabereki vanobatana nematambudziko. Ndiyo mhedziso yakaitwa naDr. Ap Apter, munyori weChii Chaunonyatsoda Kubva Kwandiri ?: Kudzidza Kuita Pamwe Nevekwezvamwene . Maererano nenyaya iri mumagazini yeAgas, tsvakurudzo yaApter yakawana kuti 60% yevakunda-tezvara vakataura ukama hune hukama nevakadzi vamwene vavo, kunze kwe 15% chete yevanakomana vemwene.
Nei Uchinetseka Zvakanyanya?
Ukama huripo pakati pemukadzi nemukadzi wemwanakomana wake hune hupombwe huzere nokuti hunoita kukwikwidza kwepanyama.
"Mumwe nomumwe ndiye mukadzi mukuru mumhuri yake yekutanga," Apter akanyora. Mukuwedzera, pasinei nokuti nguva yakawanda yakachinja sei, vakadzi vachiri kunyanya kutarisira kuchengetwa kwevana , mabasa epamba nedzimwe nyaya dzepamba. Vakadzi vechigos vanowanzoputirwa mumabasa aya, uye vanotora kutsoropodza zvakanyanyisa, kana kutsoropodza kwakanyanya kana kuti kungoreva.
Mukuwedzera, nyanzvi dzakawanda dzinofunga kuti vakadzi vanonyanya kugadzikana uye vanonzwira tsitsi kupfuura varume. Vanogona kutora pamusana pekunyadzisa kunhu hunoita kuti varume vari mumhuri vangapotsa zvachose. Izvozvo zvinotsanangura kuti sei mukadzi angatsamwira murume wake nekusaenda naye. Murume wacho angave achifara asingazivi kuti mukadzi ari kurwiswa.
Icho Chinokosha Amai-mu-Mutemo
Murairo wekutanga kumwene amai vamwene avo vanoda kuwirirana nemwanasikana wavo "Dzivisa kushorwa." Usazvidza muroora wako kumeso ake. Usamutsoropodza kumwanakomana wako kana kunyange pamwe neshamwari. Usaita nenzira dzinotumira mashoko anonyanya kukosha, sezvinotevera mumamiriro ezvinhu anotevera:
- Usashambidza imba yake. Zvinoreva: Iwe uri muchengeti weimba.
- Usapa mazano asina kubvunzwa. Izvo zvinoreva: Iwe hausi kuita zvisarudzo zvakanaka.
- Usapa zvipo zvinotumira shoko risina kunaka, semabhuku e-self-rubatsiro kana gym memberships: Zvinoreva: Iwe haugamuchiri sezvauri.
Imwe mitambo amai vomudzimai havafaniri kutamba kugovera kutsoropodza kwakaputirwa sevheme. Amai vamwene vanorumbidza muroora-mwari akasununguka mafungiro paanonyatsofunga kuti muroora-mukoma ndeyekunyengera hakusi kunyengera munhu.
Amai Amai-mutemo
Mhirizhonga huru pakati pemwene-mbuya nemwanasikana-mukwambo anokonzerwa neiyi: Amai ndivo vaiva vakakosha mumukadzi muupenyu hwemwanakomana wavo.
Iye zvino mudzimai ndiye. Izvozvo zvakazara sezvazvinofanira kunge zvakadaro, asi vanaamai vazhinji vane dambudziko nazvo, kunyanya kana vari chirikadzi kana vakarambana, kana kuti vasina ukama hukama nevamwe vana. Amai vanofanira kuenda kune hukuru hwakakura kuti vasatora mwanakomana vanosarudza pakati pake nemudzimai wake, kunyange mumamiriro mashoma. Iyo hondo iyo isingagoni kukwaniswa.
Amai-Inobatsira Amai-mutemo
Vazhinji vamai vamwene ndivo vanobatsira zvikuru. Vanokwereta mari, vanomhanya uye vanobatsira nemabasa epamba. Uyu ndiye amai vamwene vanogara vachiuya nechingwa chakagadzirwa kumba, bhegi rakazara nemari kana chipo cheimba. Rubatsiro runogona kudiwa pakutanga, kunyanya kana vaviri vacho vari vaduku.
Asi pakupedzisira, rudzi urwu rwemwene-tezvara ruchava chinangwa chekudzokera shure, sezvo vaviri vacho vanoziva kuti havasi ivo chete vanogona kuzviriritira ivo asiwo kuti ivo vanoda chaizvo kuzviita. Nenguva iyo maitiro vamwene vake vanogona kunge vakanyatsogadziriswa zvokuti hapana chinopfurikidza nechikwata chinoshamisa chichachichinja. Hapana anoda kuti murume nemudzimai vechidiki vatambure kana kuti vaende kunze, asi musipo kwekuda kwechokwadi, vamwene-mbuya vanofanira kuvabvumira kuti vatarise ivo pachavo.
Kupa mazano ndeimwe nzira yekubatsira iyo inogona kupisa. Kazhinji, avo vanotsvaka mazano vanokumbira. Kuve wakwegura uye zvichida kuchenjera hazvipi kupa amai vamwene varairi rekupa mazano asina kubvunzwa.
Amai Amai-mutongi
Pushy inguva inonyengera kune imwe rudzi rwemwene amai vomudzimai, rudzi rusingazivi miganhu. Dzimwe nguva amai vamwene ndivo vanowanzogumira. Dzimwe nguva iye anyerere uye anoremekedzwa, asi anoramba achizviratidza pasina aakokwa. Hewa nzira dzomadzimai-vatongi vanogona kudzivisa nharo pamusoro pemiganhu :
- Kana iwe ukapiwa kiyi kumusha wemwana mukuru, shandisa chete kana ukakumbirwa kuita izvozvo kana kuti kana uri wekukurumidzira.
- Usanonoka usina kudana, uye kupa chizikaniso chakakwana.
- Usafungidzira kuti iwe uchakokwa paunenge uchienda uye mazororo, uye usatarisira kukokwa kune rimwe sangano uye sangano remagariro.
- Kana muroora wako ari nepamuviri, ziva kuti iwe haugoni kugamuchirwa muimba yekutakura kana muimba yekuzvinyima . Dzimwe nguva vanasekuru navanasekuru havasi kunyange vakakokwa kuchipatara , sezvo vabereki vaduku vanoda nguva iyoyo yekubatana. Sezvo zvakaoma sekusarudzwa ikoko kungave kuri vanambuya kuti vagamuchire, ndiyo inoshamiswa nevabereki vaduku.
Apo Amai-mutongi vanova Ambuya
Pane imwe nguva amai vamwene vanova mbuya, kuchengetedza ukama hwakanaka kunotonyanya kukosha, sezvo vana vava ikozvino gedhi kuvana vazukuru. Vanasekuru naambuya avo vakanyatsogadzirisa hukama hwehukama vachakohwa zvibereko zvekuvimbwa kwemhuri. Vaya vakakurudzira kupesana kwemhuri panzvimbo panga vanogona kuzviwana ivo pachavo vachibatsira vazukuru vavo mumamiriro ekunze kurambana. Kunyanya kuipa, vanasekuru navanasekuru vanosimudzira kupesana panzvimbo yesungano vanowanzozviwana ivo vakaparadzana kubva kuvana vavo, izvo ndezvimwe zvekushungurudza kwemamiriro ezvinhu.
Kunyange zvazvo zvakakosha kuti tisagadzirise kukakavara, kunewo njodzi iyo amai vamwene nemwanasikana-tezvara avo vanogara vari maheseksi akakomberedzana havazombogadziri ukama chaihwo. Kunze kwekushevedza iyo "kuzvidzora" uye inonyevera kuti haingasvibisi "nhamo inotyisa". Zvakakosha kuti amai vamwene vauye unhu hwake huratidze.
Amai vamwene vanofanirawo kuyeuka mutemo wokutanga wokukurukura nevana vakuru: Kushamwaridzana kwemhuri hakuna chikonzero chekunyengera. Tora muroora wako nenzira imwe chete yaunogona kubata nemumwe munhu wechidiki waunoda kuvaka ukama naye, uye kubudirira kunowanzoita.