"Gadzirisa Matambudziko Ekubata Kwevana Wako" naDkt. Richard Ferber, MD yaiva rimwe remabhuku ekutanga ekurara kubatsira vabereki kuti vana vavo vararame usiku hwose. Yakabudiswa kare muna 1985, yakadzokororwa muna 2006 uye inoramba iine bhuku rakanakisisa rekubereka vana.
Asi nepo vabereki vakawanda vachipika neBhuku raDerber Ferber uye Ferber nzira yekudzidzira kurara, inowanzosanzwisiswa nevamwe vanofunga kuti inongoratidzira kuti vabereki vanosiya vana vavo kuchema voga usiku hwose.
Kune mabhuku akawanda ehope uye nzira dzinogona kukubatsira kuti vana vako vararame zviri nani uye kugadzirisa matambudziko avo ekurara, asi nzira yeFerber ndiyo imwe yaunofanira kufunga.
The Ferber Method
Nzira yeFerber haisi kungo "kuchema" nzira yekuita kuti mwana wako arara. Pane kudaro, sevamwe "hapana kuchema" nzira, nzira dzaDkt Ferber dzichakubatsira iwe kudzidzisa mwana wako kuenda kunorara uye kurara usiku hwose pasina kuchema kana nekunonoka kwekuchema.
Sei kune mafungiro akawanda asina kururama pamusoro pemhando yeFerber?
Zvinogona kunge kuti vazhinji vevabereki vasingabvumi bhuku raDkt Ferber havana kuverenga. Uye vamwe chete vanoverenga zvikamu zvayo, kungoverenga chikamu chinotaura pamusoro pokurega mwana achichema kwenguva pfupi, asi achibvarura zvikamu zvinotaura pamusoro pezvikamu zvehope, nzira yekukudziridza ushamwari dzakanaka dzekurara uye nguva yakanaka yokurara , nezvimwe zvinhu izvo zvinoderedza kuchema nekubatsira mwana wako:
- kurara nyore nyore panguva yokurara
- kurara usiku hwose
- dzoka kurara nyore nyore ari oga kana iye achimuka pakati peusiku
- tora hako nyore nyore
Nguva Yokurara Routines uye Masangano Okurara
Shamwari dzehope ndiyo zvinhu izvo mwana wako anosangana nazvo nekurara kana kuti anoshandiswa sei kurara. Kurega kushamwaridzana kwevanhu vasina kurara uye kukudziridza ushamwari hwakanaka hwekurara ndidzo mbiri dzeiyo nzira yeFerber nenzira uye kurara zvakanaka usiku.
Kunyanya, Dr Ferber anotaura kuti iwe unofanira kudzidzisa mwana wako kuti arara ari oga uye kuti haafaniri kusanganisa kurara nekutinhira, ane musana wake wakabvaruka, kana nemimhanzi, nezvimwewo.
Nei izvi zvichikosha? Kana mwana wako akabatwa nehope paunenge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge wakarara pamubhedha kana iwe uchivata pamubhedha naye, ipapo angangoda kubatsirwa kwakanyanya kuti ararame zvakare chero nguva yaanopinda muchirara chehope pakati peusiku, sesu tose tinoita, uye tinomuka zvakakwana. Vana vane hukama hwakanaka hwekurara uye vanozovata ivo pachavo vanowanzosara vakarara musina rubatsiro, kana kungoramba vachirara, pavanopinda muchiedza chehope.
Saka chikamu chekutanga cheFerber nzira ndeyekuti iwe unova nechokwadi chokuti iwe hausi wevana vako vekurara uye kuti haubati, dombo, kana kutaura nemwana wako sezvaanoenda kunorara, etc. Kubvisa musana wake , kumurega achiteerera mimhanzi, kana kunwa bhodhoro remukaka kana jisi, kana chero imwe mamiriro ayo mwana wako asingakwanisi kuzvidzorera oga pakati peusiku angave mamwe masangano mashoma ekurara. Pane kudaro, dzidzisai mwana wenyu kuti arara ari oga pachake nekuita nguva dzese dzenguva dzokurara dzinoguma nemwi kutaura zvakanaka usiku kumwana wako muchikanda kana mubhedha paanenge akarara asi achiri kumuka.
Kumirira Kubudirira
Icho chikamu chikamu chikuru cheFerber nzira ndiyo Progressive Waiting Approach yekubata nekuramba kurara uye kumuka pakati peusiku kana izvo vamwe vanhu vanofunga se "kuchema" chikamu cheFerber method.
Kana waita kuti usasarudze shamwari dzekurara dzisina kurara, wakagadzirisa nguva yakanaka yokurara, uye unzwisise kukosha kwekuisa mwana wako kurara ari oga (shamwari dzakanaka dzekurara), iwe unofanira kuziva zvaunofanira kuita kana asingadi kuenda kurara kana kumuka.
Nzira yeFerber inokurudzira kuti iwe urege mwana wako achichema kwenguva pfupi yakareba nguva yakawanda asati aongorora kwenguva pfupi paari.
Ramba uchiyeuka kuti chinangwa chako apo iwe unotarisa kwaari ndechokuti uzvisimbise pachako kuti mwana wako akanaka uye anovimbisa mwana wako kuti iwe achiri pedyo, uye haisi kumuita kuti amire kuchema kana kumubatsira kurara.
Somuenzaniso, usiku hwekutanga unogona kutarisa mwana wako mushure mokunge ari kuchema kwemaminitsi matatu, maminetsi mashanu, uye mushure maminitsi gumi, nemaminitsi gumi ari nguva huru kana iwe uchifanira kuramba uchimutarira, kutangazve pamaminitsi matatu kana akamuka zvakare gare gare. Iwe unogona kuwedzera zvenguva nemaminetsi mashomananazve usiku hunotevera, kunyange zvazvo Dr. Ferber anotaura kuti iwe unogona kugadziriswa nezvikamu izvi kana iwe usinganzwi wakasununguka kurindira kwenguva refu, chero nguva iwe uchiwedzera nguva imwe neimwe nguva.
Achishandisa nzira iyi, Dr. Ferber anoti vana vakawanda vari kurara zvakanaka neusi wechitatu kana wechina usiku.
Kuchemera uye Nzira yeFerber
Saka kune vamwe vanodanidzira paunoshandisa nzira yeFerber, asi Dr. Ferber anotaura kuti "kazhinji kacho mwana angachema kwamaawa akawanda." Kunyanya kazhinji, mwana wako achavata panguva imwe yezvishoma zvakapfuura, izvo zvinoenderana neusiku, uri kutarisa paari maminitsi gumi kana gumi nemashanu.
Vana vanochema here pavanoshandisa dzimwe nzira kuti muedze uye mubatsire kurara zviri nani? Ichokwadi, ivo vanozviita. Kunyange ne "hapana-cry" method, mwana wako achiri kuenda kuchema nguva dzose paanomuka. Kusiyana nevakawanda veaya nzira nenzira yeFerber nzira ndeyekuti vanowanzosimbisa vabereki ivavo kudzikama mwana wavo pakarepo paanotanga kuchema, pasina nguva yekumirira. Asi sezvo chinangwa ichi chichiri kudzidzisa mwana wako kuti arara ari oga, kunyange nedzimwe nzira, angangotanga kuchema zvakare apo iwe unomudzosa zvakare mumubhedha wake kana mubhedha, kana kana iwe ukabuda mumba make kusvika inovaka shamwari dzakanaka dzekurara.
Asi ramba uchifunga kuti nguva shomanana dzokuchema panguva yekumirira kwekumirira haisi yakangofanana nekurega mwana "achichema" usiku hwose kusvikira avata hope.
Uye kana ukawedzera zvose kuchema izvo mwana wako zvino zvaanoita apo paanomuka pakati peusiku, kunyanya kana achiramba achizviita kwevhiki dzakawanda kana mwedzi, zvingave zvakanyanya kudarika zvaaigona kushandisa Ferber nzira. Uyewo, nyanzvi dzakawanda hazvifungi kuti kuchema uku kunokuvadza kana kuti hakusi kwekutya, asi pane nokuti mwana anonetseka kuti haakwanisi kurara.
Ferber Method Tips
Nzira yeFerber inoshanda zvakanaka kana iwe ukatevera chirongwa chaipo. Kana isingashandisi, kazhinji nokuti mubereki haasi kunyatsotevedzera nzira chaiyo yeFerber, sekuenzanidza kuti vari kurega mwana wavo achichema pasina kutarisa kwavari kana kuti havasi kurega mwana wavo akarara ivo pachavo.
Chimwe chikonzero icho nzira yeFerber dzimwe nguva isingashandisi ndeyokuti mubereki angave asina kufanana neyo nzira, achishandisa Progressive Kurindira kwemazuva mashomanana, asi achipa nekugumbusa mwana wavo kurara nokuti ivo vaneta zvikuru ivo pachavo.
Kuwedzera mikana yavo yekubudirira nemutambo weFerber, iwe unofanirwa:
- Verenga bhuku raDkt Ferber ra "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problem" usati wafunga kutanga.
- Tanga panguva iyo iwe unogona kukwanisa kurasikirwa nehope iwe pachako.
- Ita zvinoenderana nemhando yeFerber iwe paunotanga, izvo zvinoreva kuita zvinhu zvakafanana pamasikati, nguva yekurara, uye kana mwana wako akamuka pakati peusiku.
- Shandisa nguva yenguva yemwana wako panguva yekurara. Somuenzaniso, kana ane nguva ye8: 30 dzemanheru panguva yekurara, asi nguva yake yokurara inodururwa kunze kusvika 9:30 masikati nekuchema uye mwana wako achibuda pamubhedha, ndokubva atama nguva yake yekurara, achitaura zvakanaka usiku uye achitanga Kufambira Mberi Kwako 9:30 pm.
- Dzidza kugadzirisa miganhu, yakadai sekuita mwana wako kuti arambe ari muimba yake usiku, asingaverengi imwe nyaya yekurara, kana kuti kwete kumuwana mumwe mvura yekunwa imwe nguva paanovata pamubhedha, nezvimwewo, iyo imwe chikamu chinokosha cheFerber nzira .
- Shandisa zvigadziro kana zvimwe zvirongwa zvekubhadhara vana vakwegura vanogara pamubhedha uye vakasiya masangano mashoma ekurara
- Funga kushandisa shanduko yekuverenga, semu iPhone, sezvaunoshandisa Progressive Waiting Approach.
- Dzokorora nzira yako kana iwe usisi kuona kuvandudzwa mushure memazuva matatu kana mana husiku.
Dr Ferber
Richard Ferber, MD inyanzvi yepurofesa wehutano muHarvard Medical School.
Vabereki vanoshamisika kana vachifanira kuvimba nzira dzaDkt Ferber dzinofanirwa kuvimbiswa nekuti iyewo bhodhi yakagadziriswa mune zvepediatrics uye kurara kwehutano mishonga uye ndiye mutungamiriri weCentral for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital Boston, uko kwave achirapa vana vane matambudziko ekurara kubva muna 1978.
Ferber Method Q & A
Ndeipi Unogona Kutanga Method Ferber?
Dr. Ferber anotsinhira kuti haufaniri kutanga kutangisa, asi kuti iwe unogona kutanga kushandisa maitiro aya mumwedzi inenge mitanhatu yemakore kana mwana wako asina kurara zvakanaka kubva panguva iyoyo apo vana vazhinji vanogona kurara kuburikidza ne husiku.
Vacheche Vanofanira Kurara Kupi Muusiku?
Vazhinji vacheche vanogona kurara usiku huno nenguva iyo yava nemwedzi inenge mitanhatu kusvika kumwedzi mitanhatu.
Ari Kubudirira Pakugadzirisa Bhuku Rakanaka Rokurara?
Kwete, kazhinji kune vana vaduku nevanotanga kuenda kuchikoro, sezvo kana pacifier ichidonha, zvino ivo vangangochema kwamuri mukati meusiku.
Ndiyo Nzira yeFerber Kune Munhu Wose Here?
Aiwa. Sezvo vana vane mafungiro akasiyana, vabereki vanogona kuva nemafungiro angaita kuti imwe nzira ive yakakodzera kwavari, yakadai seElizabeth Pantely "Hapana Chero Kurara Shanho" kana "Hapana Mhere Yokurara Gadziriro Yevana Vari Kuyaruka." Uyewo, iyo Ferber Method yekukurumidza Kumirira inonyanya kune vana vane masangano mashoma ekurara. Zvichida hazvizoshandi pamwe chete kana mwana wako akarara pasina chimwe chikonzero.
Nzira YeFerber Inoenda Kushanda Sei?
Dr. Ferber anotaura kuti iwe unowanzoona "kuchinjwa kwakaratidzwa" mukurara kwevana vako "mumazuva mashomanana kusvika vhiki."
Is Dr. Ferber Against Co-kurara here?
Aiwa. Dr. Ferber inoratidzika kutsigira chero basa ripi rakanakisisa kumhuri uye rinopa mikana yakawanda uye zvisingabatsiri zvekubatana. Anorayira kuti arege kunyarara kana iwe usingadi uye nekuda kwekuti iwe haugone kuwana mwana wako kurara ari oga.
> Sources:
> Richard Ferber, MD Gadzirisa Matambudziko Ekubata Kwevana Wako. 2nd edition. Touchstone; 2006.