Sezvo mwana achikura, unhu hwavo hunotanga kuumbwa
Sevechiri vaduku sechecheche, tinopa humwe hutsika huno vana. Tinogona kuti "iye mwana anofara," kana kuti "ari nyore kuenda," kana kuti opine kuti mwana "akasindimara." Asi sezvo izvozvi zvingave zvinopa mazano ezvichauya, unhu hwemwana wako hahuna kutanga kutora fomu kusvikira gare gare.
Pane zvikonzero zvakanaka zvekuti vabereki vanoda kuziva kuti unhu hwemwana wavo huchave hupi.
Kuberekera chirevo chinogona kusanganisira mitemo yakasiyana-siyana uye nzira dzakasiyana pane kubereka vana anonyadzisa, uye vana vane unhu hwakasiyana-siyana vachabvuma zviri nani kune zvakasiyana siyana zvinokurudzira uye nzira dzokuranga.
Unhu huno unhu hunotanga kubuda kuchikoro chepuraimari. Heuno maitiro aunogona kuziva kana unhu hwemwana wako huchibuda, uye hunhu hupi hunogona kureva.
Mamiriro Evanhu haasi Uhu Hwomwana Wako
Pane mazano ehutano hwemwana kubvira kare kare muupenyu. Semuenzaniso, vamwe vana vanofarira maitiro, asi vamwe vanoda hukuru hunochinja. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinoidza izvi zvinyorwa zvekare "shungu."
Mamiriro evanhu anonzwisisika uye ave akajeka nenzira dzakasiyana-siyana nevatsvakurudzi vakasiyana - mune mamwe mazwi, vana vacheche vane zvimwe zvinokanganisa zvakasikwa, asi chimiro hachisi "unhu hwavo".
Unhu huwandu hwehutano hwemunhu, manzwiro uye maitiro ake.
Maererano nomudzidzi wezvepfungwa Dan McAdams, unhu hwomunhu hunogona kuonekwa nekucherechedza humwe unhu hwehupenyu hwavo pamusoro pemakore.
Aya maitiro haaoneki nenzira yakajeka uye isingasviki kusvikira makore apakati. Nokudaro, unhu hwemwana hunobuda mumutowo wakanyanya kufanana chete apo kuyaruka kunoswedera.
Pamberi iko, iwe unogona kutarisa maitiro evana sehunoita kune dzimwe humwe hukama hwakapoteredza, asi mhinduro dzekuita dzinoitika kubva kumakore gumi nemaviri nemakore gumi nemaviri.
The Big 5 Personality Traits
Kufanana nemafungiro, unhu hunhu hwave hwakaratidzwa nenzira dzakasiyana-siyana nevatsvakurudzi vakasiyana.
Zvichida chimwe chezvinyorwa zvakakurumbira zvounhu zvinotarisa pahutano hunhu hunokosha. Vari:
- Kuchengeta. Izvi zvinorondedzera mumwe munhu anowanzove panguva kana kutanga kwekugadza, ane hanya zvikuru uye anoshanda kune zvinangwa zvemazuva mazhinji ane ucheche kana kwete.
- Agreeableness . Izvo zvinonziwo pro-social, munhu anowanzogamuchirwa kazhinji ane hukama hwakanaka hwemagariro evanhu, anofadza kuva pamwe chete, anobatsira kubatsira vamwe, uye anobatana zvakanaka mumapoka emapoka. Anowanzoratidza kuratidza rudo uye kazhinji.
- Kuvhura kuitika . Mumwe munhu akakwirira mukusununguka kunangana nekugadzira, kushanduka, kufarira uye kugona. Anonakidzwa nokuva nemafungiro ake nemafungiro ake anokurudzira, zvakadai nekuona unyanzvi, kuteerera mimhanzi mitsva, shanduro yekudya yakasiyana uye kuverenga mabhuku uye nhetembo. Munhu akazaruka anoda kuve akasiyana-siyana muhupenyu hwake hwezuva nezuva uye anoshuva novelty.
- Neuroticism. Munhu ane chido chokunzwa manzwiro akaipa, zvakadai sekuzvidya mwoyo, kutsamwa, kushaya mhosva, uye kuora mwoyo, nguva dzose. Vanhu vane huwandu hwakawanda hwehutsinye huwandu huwandu kupfuura huwandu hwemashoko kuti vaite zvisina kunaka kudzvinyirira uye kududzira mamiriro ezvinhu sekutyisidzira kana kusina tariro.
- Kuwedzera . Anokurudzira munhu ane simba nekuve kune vamwe vanhu. Izvi zvinopesana neshoko rinoshandiswa, iro rinosimbiswa nekuve riri roga.
Unhu Hwomwana Wako Mumakore Makore Azvo
Aya maitiro matsva anotanga kuvhiringidza kuvana panguva yemakore akakomberedzwa, uye kuwirirana kwechimiro chekupedzisira kunounza unhu hwemwana wako.
Kunyanya, vatsvakurudzi vanotanga kuwana kutsanangurira kubva kumwana mumwe kuenda kune anotevera pane chimwe nechimwe chezvinhu izvi zvinonzi maitiro makuru mashanu mukati memakore emakore. Vanowanikwawo maitiro akawandisa mumagariro eBhii 5 maitiro anowanikwa kune vose tweens. Semuenzaniso, kushingaira kunowedzera kuwedzera mukati memakore emakore.
Kubatanidzwa kwezviitiko zvakasiyana-siyana zvinowanikwa pamwe chete nemafungiro akazara anoratidza kuti unhu-uye naizvozvo "unhu hwevana" - zvechokwadi hunobuda panguva yehutachiri hwekuyaruka.
Kana humwe humwe humwe hunhu huchibuda, hahuna kuchinja zvakawanda: chidzidzo che2010 chakawana kuti unhu hunoonekwa pakutanga nevadzidzisi vekusekondari hunogona kufanotaura kutadza kwevanhu vakuru.
Icho chidzidzo, kubva kuvatsvakurudzi veYunivhesiti yeCalifornia, Riverside, yeOregon Research Institute neYunivhesiti yeOregon, yakashandisa unhu hunoyera kubva kuvadzidzisi vepuraimari muboka revanhu vakasiyana-siyana muHawaii kumashure kwema1960, vachifananidza nehuhu hunhu hunoiswa muvhidhiyo kubvunzurudzwa kwevane 144 vevanhu ivavo makumi mana gare gare. Vatsvakurudzi vakaona kuti maitiro akataurwa nevadzidzisi achiripo akaenderera mberi makumi mana emakore gare gare uye kuti zviito izvozvo zvakagara zvichiti mhinduro dzemamiriro evanhu.
Unhu hweunhu wese hwakasiyana. Sezvo mwana wako achiuya ari oga, tsigirei zvinhu zvakanaka zvehupenyu nekupemberera izvo zvava kutokuratidzira iwe zvinoita kuti vafunge.
Kunobva:
McAdams, Dan, & Olson, Bradley. Unhu Hwokukudziridza: Kuenderera mberi uye Kuchinja Upenyu Hupenyu. Ongororo yegore negore yePychology. 2010. 61: 517-542.
Nave CS et al. Pamusoro peKuzvimiririra kweMunhu: Kuongorora kweVadzidzisi Kufanotaura Kucherechedza Zvakananga Maitiro shure kweMakore makumi mana. Social Psychological and Personality Science. 2010 Jul 8; 3 (1): 1-9.