Nzira Yokukurukura Zvepabonde Nevana Venyu Uye Kurarama Kuudza nezvazvo
Kana usina kutotanga kutaura nemwana wako zvepabonde pamusoro pepabonde, kana kunyange kana iwe une, pfungwa yakanaka yekugadzirira mupfungwa yekukurukurirana. Mwana wako ari kuyaruka achada kuziva zvakawanda sezvaanogona kuita sarudzo yakanaka pamusoro pebonde mune ramangwana. Nemhaka yokuti zvinogona kunge zvichinyanyisa kukurudzira kutaura pamusoro pemiti-uye-mabhoti ekuita zvepabonde, kuziva zvaunoda kutaura uye kuti ungataura sei mberi kwenguva kunogona kubatsira kuita zvinhu nyore kune wese.
The Mechanics
Mwana wako ari kuyaruka angadikanwa kuziva zvidzidzo, asi iye angasazvibvuma. Kana iwe wakanga uchitaura nezvekusiyana pakati pevarume nevanasikana uye nhengo dzavo dzekuberekwa kubva mwana wako achiri muduku, unogona kunge uri mberi kwemutambo. Zvakakosha kuti vanzwisise kuberekwa uye kuti inogadzirira sei muviri yavo yekuva nevana mune ramangwana. Bvunza zvavakadzidza nezvemuviri wavo uye zvepabonde mune zvehutano dzekirasi kana zvavanonzwa kubva kune shamwari. Kubvunza mibvunzo yakasununguka inobvumira kukurukurirana, kwete imwe hurukuro yemubereki. Zvakakosha kuti mwana wako achiri kuyaruka azive kuti kunyatsoita zvepabonde ndezvipi uye ndezvipi zvimwe zviito zvinoumba zvepabonde. Shandisa mawebsite kana mabhuku kana uchitaura pamusoro pezviito izvo pachazvo hazvishamisi. Zvisinei iwe unogona kuratidza shoko racho rakanaka, chero bedzi mashoko acho akapiwa.
Zvaunotenda uye Maitiro
Kuita zvepabonde kwakawanda kudarika chiito chairo. Sangano redu rine mitemo yakawanda, mitemo, uye maitiro pamusoro pekuita zvepabonde.
Funga nezvekuti unonzwa sei nezvepabonde. Ndeapi mafungiro pamusoro pepabonde wakakurira nawo? Chitendero chako chinorevei nezvenyaya yacho? Ndezvipi zvitendero zvaunoda kuudza mwana wako zvepabonde nezvepabonde? Zvakawanda zvezvinotendwa pamusoro pepabonde zvakabatwa nechikonzero-kudzivirira mwana wechidiki kubva pamuviri asingadiwi, kunonoka kuita zvepabonde kusvikira iye ane munhu mukuru wakazvipira-kana kuti nokuti tsika yavo kune imwe tsika kana boka rezvitendero .
Kuziva zvaunonzwa uye nei uchifunga kuti zvichakubvumira kuti utaure mafungiro ako nezvenyaya yacho zvakanyanya.
Chokwadi
Pane zvinhu zvishomanana izvo vana vanoda kuziva nezvepabonde munguva yevechidiki. Zvimwe zvezvinhu izvi zvinosanganisira:
- Iwe unogona kutora pamuviri iwe nguva yokutanga uchiita zvepabonde.
- Kurega hakusi kushanda pakudzivirira kubata pamuviri.
- Vanopfuura hafu yevadzidzi vose vekusekondari HAVAKAZI pabonde.
- Maererano nekumwe kuongororwa, zvikamu zviviri kubva muzvitatu zvevechidiki vanoita zvepabonde dai vanga vamirira.
- ICDC inowona kuti 1 muvana vasikana gumi vane chirwere chepabonde.
Iwe haufaniri kuva "sexpert," asi kuziva zvimwe zvezvinhu izvi uye nhamba zvinobatsira mwana wako achiri kuyaruka kunzwisisa njodzi dzebonde. Uyezve, izvo zvaunogona kudzidza pamusoro pekudzivirira pamuviri - kuzvidzora nekudzivirira pamuviri - uye kuti ungadzivisa sei kugamuchira chirwere chepabonde, zviri nani. Kana iwe ukakwanisa kuva mushamwari pamwe nemugove wekuyaruka kwako, iye kana akanzwa akanyatsonzwa achitaura newe pamusoro pehurukuro. Zvakakosha kuziva kuti kukurukura nekudzivirira kuberekwa nekudzivirira kwepabonde nemwana wako ari kuyaruka hakurevi kuti uri kukurudzira mwana wako kuti aite zvepabonde. Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti vechidiki vane ruzivo rwechokwadi pamusoro pepabonde vanonoka kunonoka kana kuderedza tsika dzavo dzepabonde, kunyanya maitiro ekuisa pangozi.
Zvaunotarisira
Chinangwa chevakawanda vedu, pasinei nokuti isu tiri vabereki kana vatarisi vezveutano, ndeyokudzikisa kuita zvepabonde kwevechidiki vedu. Nekupararira kwezvirwere zvepabonde uye kuwedzera kwekuyaruka kwevechiri kuyaruka, kuita zvepabonde kwevechiri kuyaruka kune migumisiro yakakomba yatingadi kudzivisa. Kana iwe uchida kuti mwana wako arege kuita zvepabonde, taura saizvozvo. Kana muganhu wako ndewekuti unotarisira kuti mwana wenyu asati aita zvepabonde pavanenge vachiri kuchikoro chesekondari, kana kugara mumba, kana achiri achiri kuyaruka, zvino iwe unoda kuita kuti zvaunotarisira zviri pachena. Zvakave zvichiratidzwa kuti vechidiki vanowana mashoko akajeka kubva kuvabereki vavo pamusoro pezvipi zvinorehwa pamusoro pepabonde zvinopedzisira kuita zvepabonde - chinangwa chedu chikuru.
Kana mwana wenyu ari kuyaruka ane zuva rakagamuchirwa uye anoda kutaura, inzwa wakasununguka kutarisana chero ipi zvayo kana zvose zvezvinhu zvepabonde uye zvaunotarisira. Kana zvisina kudaro, zvakakodzera kutaura pamusoro pezvinhu zvose zvinoratidzika zvichikwanisika panguva iyoyo. Kana pane nyaya pamusoro pokuzvitakura kwevechidiki, shandisa sechirongwa chekutaura nezvekubata pamuviri. "Hurukuro" haifaniri kunge iri hurukuro huru asi inhaurirano yakazaruka panyaya iyi inokosha.
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