Kudzidzisa Kids Good Sportsmanship

Nevana vachitanga bhora pa3 uye vashambira pakushambadzira pa5, kudzidzisa kunaka kwemitambo kunokosha kupfuura kare. "Vana vane mamiriyoni makumi mana vari kutamba mitambo yevechidiki, uye kunyanya kuvasikana, nhamba yacho yakanyanyisa," anodaro Joel Fish, Ph.D., munyori weNzira 101 dzekuva Terrific Sports Parent uye mutungamiriri weCentral for Sports Psychology muFiladelphia .

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Sei Kutamba Kwemitambo

Izvi zvinoreva kusimbiswa kukuru pakukunda, inodaro hove, asiwo inopa mukana wekudzidzisa mitambo yekutanga uye kazhinji. Uye kunzwisisa kuti kuva mutambo wakanaka ndeupi wezvidzidzo zvoupenyu zvikuru vana vanogona kudzidza kubva kumitambo .

"Nguva yakanakisisa yekudzidzisa tsika ndeyokuti vana vaduku," anodaro Rob Gotlin, DO, munyori weDkt Rob's Guide yekusimudza Fit Kids . "Vabereki kazhinji havaoni kuti zviri nyore sei chaizvo kudzidzisa tsika dzekutamba," anodaro. Kuvana-zvikurukuru vaduku, makore gumi nemana uye pasi-zvinangwa zvemitambo yevechidiki inofanira kunge iri basa rekuita uye kushamwaridzana kwevanhu. "Kana tikakwanisa kurangarira chokwadi ichi chengetedza kuti mitambo inenge yakadini, takaisa hwaro" hwekutambira mitambo yakanaka, anodaro Dr. Gotlin.

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Tanga Young: Sportsmanship yevana 8 uye pasi

Kunyange kana-sezvinoitwa mumitambo yakawanda yezemitambo yevana vaduku-hapana vakunda vepamutemo kana vakarasikirwa, vane mauto uye yunifomu inotanga pfungwa yekukwikwidzana . Saka zvakanyanya kukosha kuti vabereki nevadzidzisi vanoramba vachisimbisa kushamwaridzana, kutora muviri, uye kutamba pamwechete. Dr. Gotlin anomhanya musangano wechidiki webhokiti uye anomanikidzira kuti vatambi vanozunungusa maoko mushure mokunge mushure mokutamba. Anorayirawo kuti vana, vadzidzisi, uye vabereki vatange mutambo pamwe neboka reboka kuti vaende pamusoro pemitemo uye vuchiyeuchidza vose kuti vateze uye vave nenguva yakanaka. Kana iwe usingave uchichengeta mapepa, regai vana vazive-uye tsanangurai nei, anodaro Dr. Fish.

Panguva ino, mitambo yakadzika-yechitambo yematambo yakanakisisa. Kuva pane imwe nzvimbo pamurwi wemagetsi kana mutsvina unonyanya kuongororwa kumwana muduku, anodaro Dr. Gotlin. Uyezve, mumutambo wakafanana nebhoti , vana vanowanzopedza nguva yakawanda vachimirira-uye vakamira. Pavanotamba bhora , vanofanira kuramba vachifamba! Pasinei nemhando yemutambo mwana wako ari kutarisa, tsvaga sangano uye mudzidzisi anosimbisa kufara uye kufanana apo achisimbisa kukunda uye kurasikirwa; vese nhengo dzeboka dzinofanira kuva nemikana yakawanda yekutamba uye kugamuchira mizhinji yezvakanaka mazano pamabasa avo.

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Ramba Uine Musoro Wakanaka: Kutamba Kwemakore Makana 8-12

Sezvo vana vachienda pakuyaruka, kutsamwa kunotanga kubuda-mumunda uye kune imwe nzvimbo. Muzvinyorwa, zviri nyore kubvumirana pamusoro pemitemo yekutanga yemitambo : kuremekedzwa kwevadzidzi, vadzivisi, uye mutambo; kunakidza kukunda nekurasikirwa. Kupa mitemo iyi, vadzidzisi (uye vabereki ) vanogona kushandisa kusanganisa dzidzo (kudzidzisa vana mumutauro wavanonzwisisa), kushamwaridzana nevezera ravo, nemigumisiro kana mazano (akadai sehurongwa hwekunyevera pamitemo yakaputsika yakateverwa nekuregererwa kubva mumutambo kana mutambo).

Kunyange nesheyo yakasimba seyizvi, kutevera kuburikidza hakusi nyore nguva dzose pakupisa kwechinguvana. Saka vose vabereki nevatambi vanoda kuziva kuti vanofanotaura sei uye vanodzivirira kuputika. Mubhuku rake, Dr. Fish anorondedzera hurongwa hutatu:

1. Ziva mafungiro ako pamusoro pokukunda uye kurasikirwa, kubatana pamwe nekukwikwidzana. Kana iwe uri munhu anokwikwidzana zvikuru, iwe unofanira kushanda zvakaoma kuraira manzwiro ako.
2. Ziva zvinokurudzira. "Kana ndikaona mudzidzisi achitaura nehasha kumwana wangu, anosundira bhodhi mukati mangu," anodaro Dr. Fish. Kune vamwe vabereki, zvinokonzera zvinogona kusanganisira kufungidzira kwakaipa kubva kumupurisa kana kunzwa kuti muvengi ari kutora mwana wako. Vana vanogona kuregwa nekuita kukanganisa (sekutsvaga).
3. Ziva kuti ungadzikama sei. Ita mutambo chirongwa chezvinofanira kuitwa kana imwe yeiyo inokonzera inogadzirisa manzwiro emanzwiro. Mubereki angangodaro akafamba kubva kune imwe nzvimbo kwenguva pfupi. Mwana anogona kukumbira mumwe waunofambidzana naye kuti amuyeuchidze kuti atore kufema kwakanyanya kana "kuvhundusa."

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Dzidzisa Kuremekedza uye Kuvimba: Kutamba Kwevamwe Vechidiki

Muchikoro chesekondari, vana vanonyatsoziva kukunda, kurasikirwa, uye kushanda kwavo, uye izvo zvinogona kududzira zvinetso zvemaitiro akanaka emitambo. "Pese paine kuwedzera kwekumanikidza zviitiko, izvozvo zvinowedzera mikana vana vachaita zvavanoda kuita kuti vakunda," anodaro Dr. Fish. "Vangangodaro vanoyambuka mutsara, vachishora mumwe mutambi kana kuti kutengesa mutemo."

Kana mutambi achiita chikanganiso, anogara achirasikirwa. "Kubudirira kunounza kuvimba uye zvakasiyana," anodaro Dr. Gotlin. Saka kusimbiswa kwakanaka kuchiri kukosha ikozvino, sekusimbisa kusimba kwakasimba kurangwa uye tsika. Vanhu vakuru vanoda kutungamira. "Tinofanira kudzidzisa kubva pazuva rekutanga: Paunofamba pamunda, dare, kana kuti, iwe unofanira kunge uine ruremekedzo yemutambo uye vose vakwikwidzana zvakaenzana, sezvamunoona muchirati nekuremekedzwa kwe dojo."

Vabereki vanodawo kutarisa pfungwa dzavo, anodaro Dr. Gotlin. "Vabereki vanoda kuona vana vavo vachiba nheyo kana kuti kuwedzerwa kune dzimwe nyika." Ndiyo nyika yevanhu vakura inovhiringidza pfungwa dzevana. Tinofanira kuzvigadzirisa isu voga nekudzidzira hutano muvana vedu. " Mharidzo yaunoda kupa: "Ndiri pano kuti ndikuone uchikwikwidza uye ushande pane unyanzvi hwako."

Simbisai zvamunogona uye musingagoni kudzora: Mitambo inosarudza. "Kune marudzi ose emasimba kunze uko vabereki nevadzidzisi vasingagoni kudzora," anodaro Dr. Fish. "Handikwanise kudzora izvo ESPN inotaura kana kuti rimwe boka riri kuita asi ini ndinogona kudzidzisa mwana wangu kukosha kwekutamba nemitemo, kugunun'una maoko eanomupikisa, kumubatsira kana akawira-achimudzidzisa kuti kunyange kana muvengi wake haaiti izvozvo, anogona kuchiita nokuti chinhu chakanaka chaanoita. "

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Tsvaga Mudzidzisi Anodzidzisa Mitambo

Usati wanyorera mwana wako mumutambo wechidiki wezemitambo kana sechikwata chechikoro, tarisa uzivi waro mune zvemitambo. Bvunza:

• Ko sangano rinodzidzisa sei mitambo? Ndeipi mitemo yayo pamusoro pokuchengeta mapepa, kushaya-kutaura (nevatambi kana vabereki), vanosangana nevashori, uye kurangwa?
• Ndeipi kutamba nguva yakatarwa-netarenda, hukuru, simba mukuita? Kana kuti yakakamurwa zvakaenzana pakati pevatambi vose here?
• Ndezvipi zvinangwa zvemudzidzisi weboka? Ichokwadi here kuti gung-ho nezvekukunda, kana chinangwa chekutumira mutambo? Zvakadini nekukurudzira kubata muviri kana kushamwaridzana kwevanhu?

Izvo hazvirevi mhinduro dzakarurama kana dzisiri pano; zvakawanda zvinowirirana nezera remwana wako uye mutsa. Asi kana usina kugutsikana nemhinduro dzaunowana, edza kutsvaga imwe sarudzo-kana kuti kunge uchiziva zvauri kupinda, uye dzidzisa tsika dzako kumwana wako iwe pachako.

Kana usiri kufara nemubatidzi wekushanda mukati memazuva ose, rega kumurisana naye mumutambo kana mutambo. Rongedza musangano pane nzvimbo isina kwaakarerekera uye nguva , sanganisira vamwe vabereki kana iwe uchigona, uye zvechokwadi, iremekedze mudzidzisi.

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Ita Mitemo yeMitemo Kumunhu Wemwana Wako

Kuziva hutano hwemwana wako kunokubatsira kuwana nzira dzakanakisisa dzekudzidzisa mitambo nemitengo. Vana vanopinda muhupenyu hune hukuru hwevanhu, anodaro Dr. Fish: manzwiro, hanya, hutsinye, uye hukama. (Kunyange vana vakawanda vachizobatana nemamwe mashoma aya, kazhinji mumwe anotonga.) Kana iwe uchigona kuziva kuti mwana wako ndiani, zvino unoziva zvaunonyanya kushanda paunodzidzisa mitambo:

• Emotional : Funga kumudzidzisa nzira yekudzikama uye kuderedza. Batsira kuti aone kuti muviri wake unopindura sei paanogumbura (akavhara misumbu, kufema zvishoma). Bvunzurudza nzira dzekupindura (kuverenga kusvika 10, kufema kwakadzika, kufamba kwakasimba).
• Muchenjeri : Mubatsire kuti aparadzanise pakati pekuedza kukwana uye kukwana. Taura nezvekugadzirisa zvinangwa zvekuvandudza, pane kubvumira zvakanyanya kuisa pfungwa pane zvakaipa.
• Ane utsinye : Ita migumisiro yakajeka. Muratidze kuti ndeupi mutsetse, uye kuti mhinduro yacho ichavei kana akayambuka. (Zvadaro tevera kana akaputsa mutemo.)
• S ocial : Shandisa kufanana nevezera rako kune zvakakunakira. Simbisa kukosha kwekushanda pamwe nevadzidzi vake, uye kumuyeuchidza kuti vanogona kumubatsira kuramba ari akanaka kana ari kunetseka.